One of the best ways to let go of your old doubts, fears and problems is to find someone new to talk to. Someone who doesn’t know the “old you”, someone who will encourage and walk alongside you. Last week in Making New Friends When You’re Brokenhearted – Blossom Tip 69 I shared this email request from a She Blossoms reader: “Laurie, is it possible to put together a pen pal list for those of us who have lost our husbands so we can connect with someone? I would love to email a widow.”
I received almost 150 comments from She Blossoms readers who would love a friend to write and talk to — and not just Christian widows! I thought I’d get a few responses; I had no idea this “Blossom Pen Pals” idea would burst into life. I matched about 45 Blossom Pen Pals — and I am no longer offering this service. I’m keeping the comments section open so you can share your story and thoughts about pen pals. Sign up for my newsletter at the end of this article to stay in touch!
Even though I’m not matching new Blossom Pen Pals, I am keeping this article alive and the comments section open. Maybe another blogger or online counselor will create their own Pen Pal Widow Matching Program. If you’ve already created a service or program like that, please share your link and information below.
On to the original “Are You Tired of Blossoming Alone?” blog post…
After a week of thought and prayer, I created a plan. You want someone new to talk to; I want to help you find the right friend. No matter how old you are or what stage of life you’re at, I invite you to walk into this new “Pen Pal Blossoms” season with me. All you need is a spirit of love, wisdom, and willingness.
Pen Pal Blossoms
I can’t manage individual emails or personally match She Blossoms readers because I don’t know much about you. I don’t know what you need or hope for.
More importantly, I don’t know what God knows. He knows everything about you. He knew you before He knit you together in your mother’s womb; He knows exactly what you’re going through. Jesus doesn’t just know your name, He knows what you need.
I’ll do my best to create the right environment for you to meet a new friend, starting with this blog post. This is a gathering place for you to meet likeminded folk. I hope you introduce yourself introduce yourself in the comments section below and find a new friend.
A 3-Step “Blossom Pen Pal” Plan:
- In the comments section, answer the Pen Pal Questions (which are just below).
- Read through the other comments, and reply to the one(s) that appeal to you. Feel free to respond to more than one person.
- Wait for my email to you and your new pen pal (your email is not visible to the public). This will be the “Email Exchange” that will allow you and your new pen pal to start corresponding privately.
Click “Notify me of follow-up comments by email” box at the end of your comment so you can read new responses.
Wait for a dozen or so readers to comment before choosing a Blossom Pen Pal. Remember that you can correspond with more than one friend — or you can even create a trio or more of Blossom Pen Pals. You’re free to do as you wish.
Blossom Pen Pal Tips
- Correspond once a week — or as often as you both like.
- Do not share your pen pal’s story or information with anyone, unless she is planning something harmful to herself or others.
- Ask each other questions, share photos and stories.
- Read and discuss encouraging blog posts, magazines or books (such as Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back 🙂 ).
- Remember the reason for signing up for a Blossom Pen Pal: you want to share the ups and downs of moving into a new season of life.
I hold no legal responsibility for this venture. I trust that you will be wise, responsible, and loving as you walk forward with your new She Blossoms friends.
Blossom Questions for Pen Pals
The following questions are for you to answer in the comments section below, to introduce yourselves to one another. You don’t have to go into too much detail; just give us a sense of who you are.
- Who and where are you? Share as much or as little as you’d like about your age, life situation, family. Remember that She Blossoms is a public website; do not share specific information that can be used to hurt you.
- What is your favorite way to spend free time? Do you have hobbies, interests, special talents, or weird habits? What would surprise us to learn about you?
- Have you had a pen pal before? What do you hope for with a Blossom Pen Pal?
- How did you find She Blossoms?
- What does “moving into a new season of life” mean to you?
All comments are moderated by me, which means you won’t immediately see what you wrote. Nobody will get your email address until you both agree to an Email Exchange.
I have no idea how this new She Blossoms venture will unfold, but I know two things: it will be interesting and we will learn something new. And that, my friend, is what growing forward and blossoming is all about!
As always, your questions, thoughts and ideas — big and little — are welcome below! Don’t be shy; share what you need and want, dream of and long for.
With His love,
Travel in Faith and Blossom
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