Feelings of unworthiness and self hatred are deep wounds that need emotional healing. Women’s circles are the balm, the elixir, the soothing embrace of compassion, of healing and growth. Whether they are women’s healing circles, professional career women’s circles or contemplative prayer groups for women — the companionship and acceptance you find in a circle of like-minded women will change how you see yourself.
It’s natural to feel depressed after a breakup. You said goodbye to someone you love, perhaps losing the most important relationship in your life. You will never be the same, and neither will your heart. But even though breaking up hurts — and feels so unnatural — there are healthy ways to encourage the healing process.
Work, money, relationships, and daily hassles are common sources of stress — but a breakup is the worst stressor of all. How do you stay positive after a stressful breakup when you feel anxious, sad, lonely and tired?
When was the last time your heart was changed by something you saw, did, or felt? Maybe your heart was warmed when a friend called unexpectedly or a stranger helped you push a heavy shopping cart through a snowy parking lot. Maybe your heart was softened by a baby’s big eyes and smile, or lightened by a glimpse of God’s glory in a sunrise, burst of laughter, or sweet taste of strawberries.
Remember when keeping secrets was something to admire? When you were a kid, you learned that keeping secrets—especially about birthdays, school events, surprise parties and plans—was good. As an adult, keeping secrets can backfire. Especially if your secrets are dark, harmful, and holding you back.
If we knew what He knows—if we could see the big picture with all the pieces—we would ask God for exactly what we have. Imagine that! If you knew what God knows, you would give yourself the exact same body, life and relationships you have right now.
As you get older, do you find it harder or easier to be who you were called to be?
Maybe you find it harder because of loss, grief, pain and circumstance. Maybe you’re just too tired and far from your childhood self to think about being who you were called to be, much less blossom into who God created you to be.
Usually I write serious stuff. Practical tips, encouragement, information, and sometimes even exhortation to take responsibility for your life and choose to grow forward — even in an unwanted, unexpected season of life. Put on your big girl pants and blossom!