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5 Reasons to Take Your “Couples Vacation” After an Unexpected Breakup 

You planned a trip as a couple, but your relationship suddenly ended. The breakup not only broke your heart, it ruined your vacation plans! Should you cancel your trip, or take the vacation with a friend or family member?

Before we jump into my reasons why you should take your planned vacation — especially after an unexpected and painful breakup — let’s stop for a moment. Take a deep breath, and allow yourself to feel the grief and pain. It’s really hard to switch from “couples vacation mode” to the mindset of uncoupling after a breakup…and you need to take time to process the shock.

I’m sorry your relationship didn’t work out and you’re left wondering if you should still go on the vacation. The anticipation of a long-awaited trip as a couple (or, worse, an impulsive romantic getaway) is so sweet. The heartbreak of an unexpected breakup is devastating, and it overshadows the joy of travel. Give your body, mind and spirit time to grieve this loss.

Part of grieving is moving forward — or “growing forward”, as I like to say! You won’t have the vacation or romantic getaway you planned as a couple, and it sucks. But you can choose how you’ll handle your pain, how you’ll heal from the shock of the breakup, and how you’ll move forward in your life.

Should you go on your couples vacation, even after an unexpected breakup…or even a divorce? Yes. Should you invite a friend or family member to take the trip with you? It depends.

5 Reasons to Take Your “Couples Vacation” After a Breakup

My “She Blossoms” articles are usually broken up into five different categories. These “Blossom Tips” ensure I cover the whole spectrum: Spirit, Heart, Soul, Body, and Brain.

In this post, I’ll describe five ways taking your vacation can help you heal from the break up of your relationship. My tips will also help you decide if you should travel alone as a single woman, or ask someone to go on vacation with you.

1. Spirit Blossoms – Choose a Kindred Spirit

Going on vacation can be stressful for couples, families, and even the best of friends! If you decide to invite a friend or family member on the trip you planned as a couple, make sure you know your travel companion well. Choose someone who is uplifting, healthy, and soothing. Pick a friend or family member who will help you grow forward in your life, who won’t take sides or drag you down emotionally or spiritually.

This is a tall order, isn’t it? Not everyone can just go on vacation with you, especially if it’s a prepackaged itinerary or planned couples trip. Money might be an issue — not to mention taking time off work and leaving family, pet and household responsibilities. Which is why it may be a better and easier idea for you to go on vacation alone, even after a shocking breakup.

2. Heart Blossoms – Take a Solo Vacation

I love going on vacation alone; in fact, I’m traveling to New York City tomorrow. I’ll be by myself for almost two weeks in the Big Apple, and I can’t wait. I’m celebrating my 48th birthday, and the submission of my first book manuscript to a publishing house. Unfortunately, my publisher isn’t based in New York.

Have you ever traveled alone? Should you take your “couples vacation” alone, as a single woman after a shocking breakup? Yes! Going on vacation alone will help your heart heal by challenging your brain, body and spirit in unexpected ways.

I wrote How to Stop Feeling Homesick When You’re Traveling Alone when I was on one of my solo journeys. Yes, you feel homesick and lonely when you vacation alone. But you’ll also learn so much about yourself, others, and the world.

3. Soul Blossoms – Take a Leap of Faith

One of my favorite parts of traveling alone is relying on the kindness of strangers. I’ve learned to ask for help whenever I need it, wherever I am. Even in Beer Sheva, Israel where hardly anybody spoke English!

Your heart and soul will Blossom if you go on vacation alone, especially after an unexpected breakup. This is your chance to challenge yourself, get out of your comfort zone, and prove to yourself that you’re a strong, independent, smart and capable woman who can handle whatever life throws at her. Taking this leap of faith will help you heal your broken heart.

4. Body Blossoms – Change Your Environment

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5 Reasons to Take Your “Couples Vacation” After a Breakup

Vacationing in a different part of the country or world won’t miraculously heal your broken heart after a breakup, but it will change your perspective. A change in physical environment will help you look outside yourself, see different sights, and perhaps even learn new ways of relating to others. A trip can also challenge you physically, requiring you to hike, bike, swim or even run more than normal.

This is one of the best reasons you should go on vacation after an unexpected breakup: the physical change of scenery will change how you think and feel. A trip away from home — even if it wasn’t the “couples vacation” you planned — will help you see yourself differently. Perhaps you’ll see your relationship in a new light, which will help you heal from the breakup.

5. Brainy Blossoms – Challenge Your Mind

Going on a solo vacation as a newly single woman will challenge your brain in unexpected new ways. This will help you get your mind off the breakup by forcing you to focus on survival. Even ordering off a menu in a new city, country or continent can be a crazy experience! This is good. Your brain will grow and your heart won’t be mired in the sadness and pain of the breakup you didn’t expect.

In A Quick List of Inspiring Adventure Travel Blogs for Women, I share a few travel blogs by women. Some are single, some not — but they all often or always go on vacation alone. And, I suspect if you asked them, “Should I go on vacation alone after my relationship ended unexpectedly?”, they’d say yes. Even if you planned a couples vacation…and even if your heart is broken over the breakup.

What do you think? Your comments on going on a “couples vacation” alone as a newly single woman are welcome below. I read every comment, but don’t worry: I won’t give advice or tell you what to do about your breakup or travel plans.

You have a source of wisdom that goes far above me, and you’ll listen to His voice when you’re ready. Then, your faith will give you the strength and courage you need to walk into the next season of life.

May you find healing, strength, and courage. May you Blossom into the woman God created you to be.


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5 thoughts on “5 Reasons to Take Your “Couples Vacation” After an Unexpected Breakup ”

  1. Great article! About to go on my first solo vacation right after breakup. Hoping to learn and make the best of the experience. Thank you so much for your article. It really encourages me to move forward and find new perspective and things to look forward. Wish me luck!

    1. Thanks, Mari, I’m glad you’re taking your first solo vacation after a breakup! I’d love to hear where you went and how you enjoyed the trip…feel free to update us 🙂

  2. My husband of 15 years dropped the bombshell 2 weeks before flying to India to meet my daughter who was traveling….he left me for woman he worked with. Devastated I still went to India on my own . Not the trip I thought it was going to be. But from doing this I have gained so much confidence…I’ve travelled a few places single since meeting the most lovely people along the way…..I’m planning on moving to a new area to start a new chapter …..go for it! X

  3. When I was single I went on a few solo vacations and a few with friends. Now I’m married and we have couples trips and separate trips as well. First of all go to a place you want to see. Don’t go to a place that caters only to couples or families. Go to a place that is oriented to all travelers. Don’t go to the place you were supposed to go as a couple. Don’t go to an old haunt if the memories will be painful or worse your ex will be there and likely with a new partner. While you may be hoping for a reconciliation it would only be awkward for everyone. (Why? He has moved on. If he hasn’t moved on, hash it out privately and not on vacation.) Go where you can eat dinner at the bar area and meet new people. Try a new activity. Maybe you wanted to go camping or canoeing or learn how to boogie board but he hated those activities. Now you can go on the kind of vacation you always wanted! Go alone or with a like minded, supportive friend. It’s your adventure. Do what you want!