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Comfort and Healing After Your Husband Leaves You for Another Woman

Saying – even just thinking, “My husband left me for another woman” – is heartbreaking. You’ve been betrayed and lied to. Your heart is broken. You will never be the same. But, even though this may be the lowest point of your whole life, you are here. You are searching for ways to cope when your husband leaves you for someone else. This means you’re ready to start reaching forward, moving forward, and healing your heart.

“I can’t believe this happened to me, the pain is unbearable,” said Esmie on How to Get Over the Pain of Being Cheated On. “I spent nearly two decades of my life with my husband, just to watch him walk away. I didn’t know he was unhappy or that I’d be searching for tips on how to cope when your husband leaves you for another woman. Do men who leave their wives after all that time regret it? Do they feel guilty about what they have done? I know it doesn’t matter because when someone wants out, they want out. It’s just sad some people think marriages are so disposable. Before we got married my husband pursued me so hard and he wanted to rush to get married. So I said ‘yes’ and now…he files for divorce and that’s it. Wow. I pray for the day to come when I don’t wake up feeling this huge anchor on my chest, the day where he is a distant memory and I wonder what the heck I ever saw in him.”

I don’t know if men who leave their wives regret it, or if the pain of betrayal ever really goes away. I don’t even know if time heals all wounds. But, I do believe that you CAN recover and rebuild your life. You might even find a way to be happier and more fulfilled than you ever were before.

You might even Blossom.

7 Ways to Cope After Your Husband Leaves

Here’s what one famous wife said when her husband walked out:

“I’m not sure what the future holds, but I do know that I’m going to be positive and not wake up feeling desperate,” said Nicole Kidman. “As my dad said ‘Nic, it is what it is, it’s not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is.’”

It is what it is. These aren’t the most comforting words in the world, are they? But it’s the truth. And the sooner you can accept the truth, the quicker you will begin to heal. Part of accepting the truth might be learning Why He Had an Affair and How to Recover. Your husband’s leaving may be the worst betrayal in marriage and it may be the worst thing your husband could ever do to you…but it’s what happened. The sooner you can accept that it is what it is, the sooner you can move on and create a better, more meaningful, happier life.

Here are seven tips on how to cope when your husband walks out on your marriage. This isn’t legal or financial advice; it’s how to heal your heart and self-esteem.

1. Realize that his leaving isn’t a direct reflection on you

No matter how beautiful, successful, slim, or rich their wives are, some husbands will be unfaithful. Men cheat and leave their marriages for a wide variety of reasons – many of which have nothing to do with their wives. To learn more about cheating husbands, read Is Your Husband Cheating? 5 Signs He’s Having an Affair.

More importantly, remember that your husband left you for another woman because of his problems – which aren’t a reflection of you! It’s not that you’re not good enough, or she’s a better woman. To be able to say “my husband left me for another woman” and survive, keep reminding yourself that your husband left you because he has his own issues.

2. Learn how to forgive your husband for leaving

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” – Bernard Meltzer. This may be one of the most difficult thing to do after your husband leaves…and it’s the most necessary.


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Don’t carry around the bitterness, misery, and pain of an angry woman. Don’t allow his choice to dictate how you live the rest of your life. Don’t let his mistakes drain the joy, love, and spirit out of your life!

Learn how to forgive. Actually, I should have put “grieve the end of your marriage” at the top of these ways to cope when your husband leaves for another woman. Right now, you’re grieving the loss of your dreams, the end of your marriage, and the pain of discovering that your husband won’t be spending the rest of his life with you. Allow yourself to grieve, and learn how to forgive.

3. Stop comparing yourself to the other woman

You have strengths and weaknesses that she doesn’t have, and she has strengths and weaknesses that you don’t have. It’s pointless and futile to compare yourself to her, to try to figure out why your husband left. It’s a waste of time and energy! Accept the fact that for some reason, your husband had to go. It’s not even about you; it’s about him.

If it makes you feel better, make a list of your strengths and her weaknesses, and read them when you feel down on yourself. But I actually think it’s better not to compare yourself to the other woman at all. You need to focus on moving onwards and upwards after your husband leaves, not on what the other woman has that you don’t. This is your time to concentrate on healing and personal growth. It doesn’t matter who or what she is…what matters is that you have a life to rebuild, a self-image to recreate, and a new identity to focus on.

When He Leaves: Help and Hope for Hurting Wives by Kari West and Noelle Quinn will give you hope and encouragement as you learn how to cope after your husband walks out. There are no easy answers – but you can reach out for companionship and the knowledge that you are not alone.

4. Spend time with women who survived when their husbands walked out

Who will walk alongside you, as you work through the pain and process your loss? If you don’t know who to talk to, consider asking your friends and family members if they know a woman whose husband left her.

How to Cope When Your Husband Leaves You for HerIf she survived the end of her marriage in healthy ways – and if she’s stronger, happier, and healthier – spend time with her. Ask if you can buy her a coffee; learn how she overcame pain of his cheating on you and leaving. Soak up her courage, health, and wisdom.

One of the best ways to survive a traumatic event – and learning how to cope when your husband leaves you for another woman is definitely a type of trauma – is to connect with people who know what you’re going through. Gain strength and healing from women who have survived similar problems in life. Join a grief support group, or form your own little group of women who surviving such a major change in their lives.

5. Let go of your old hopes and dreams for your marriage

If you think your marriage isn’t over, read How to Know if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For. But don’t fight reality. Don’t allow your wishes and pain to change how you see the truth. It’s better to face and accept the truth – to surrender to what is – instead of wishing your life could go back to the way things were.

And remember that you’re not just grieving the fact that your husband left you for another woman. You’re not simply mourning the loss of him as a man. You’re actually grieving the end of something that was so important to you. Your marriage may have been the focus of your life, and saying “my husband left me for another woman” may be the most painful words you ever utter. You lost something you believed in and thought would last forever. So, you’re grieving the end of the marriage you thought you had, that you hoped you had…you’ve been betrayed, and you aren’t as innocent and trusting as you were before.

This is a huge loss, and I am sorry you have to go through this. But to heal, you have to grieve not only the loss of a husband, but the loss of your marriage, the loss of the things you hoped for on your wedding day. You need to grieve the painful reality that your husband left you for her, and that you have to rebuild your life.

6. Get help coping with the end of your marriage

Counseling is about making sense of your life, and figuring out how to move on after betrayals, heartaches, and heartbreaks. Talking through your problems with an objective counselor, spiritual leader, or psychologist can help you let go. An objective professional can help you see your big life picture and your more detailed personality characteristics.

husband left me for herIn He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, Erica Manfred Erica Manfred shares her own divorce experience, as well as the advice of experts, with specific sections tailored to women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s.

If you feel lost and helpless because your husband said he doesn’t love you anymore, don’t spin your wheels alone. Invest in yourself emotionally and spiritually – a counselor or a support group for divorced women can help you make sense of what why your husband left. You need to focus on picking up the pieces of your life and starting a fresh new chapter of your life.

how to cope when your husband leaves you for another womanRunaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal by Kari West and Noelle Quinn will help you start feeling better yourself, your life, and your future. It won’t be easy, but you WILL survive.

7. Start something new in your life

This is your chance to embark on a new chapter in your social, professional, personal, or spiritual life! Volunteer, take a solo or group vacation, join a new gym, take a night class, join a support group, check out a new social club, quit your job, go back to school. Surviving a breakup can be about growing into the woman you were meant to be – and about exploring a different part of your life and personality. This may be the end of one stage of your life…but it can be the beginning of a whole new era! It’s up to you…

For more tips on coping when your husband leaves you for her, read How to Let Go of a Relationship.

If you need to talk about why your husband left you for another woman, please share below! Sometimes writing is the healthiest thing you can do. I can’t give advice, but I’m here to listen.

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1,223 thoughts on “Comfort and Healing After Your Husband Leaves You for Another Woman”

  1. Hi Ladies,

    I’ve followed this thread for almost 2 years. Similar story, my husband has turned into someone I don’t know after 20 years together and moved out 18 months ago. We have 3 daughters. We still own a business together which we still do regularly meet at work. So far, no one has filed for divorce yet. He rarely visits the kids ( 13 yo, 14 yo and 18 yo). The eldest has just started her Uni degree in The Netherlands, and no contact with him since Aug 2019 until 2 days ago which was my husband’s birthday, she told me that she emailed him but I didn’t ask what’s in the email. It was as per my suggestion. I don’t know if everyone will agree about this but I thought that no matter what I should raise the girls to become good people. My daughters are all still upset about him leaving the family but somehow now they get use to not having him around. As for me, it is getting better but yet there are ups and downs after 2 years I found out about the cheating. He is now still in a relationship with this other woman, travelling here and there, even she posted their activities in her social media. I do still cry once a while and I wonder when will this stop.

    True …. TIME is everything in this process. I am not the same person as I was last year.
    I get better. I travel more. I did my first triathlon last year. I take swimming lesson. This year, I’m going to do my first Full Marathon. Just signed up for Chicago Marathon 2020 last night. I will visit my daughter next week for 2 weeks. Just trying to be a better person everyday with more self-love. Pursue my own happiness without neglecting the kids.
    For everyone out there, you are not alone and I am not alone. Life goes on and we should make the best of it. XOXO

  2. Chris, you are going through exactly what I went through. Together/married for many years, 3 children, husband met someone at work! Threw him out 23rd December 2018!
    3 weeks is no time at all. Everyone’s different but here’s how I dealt with my ex.
    *I grieved for about 3 months
    *I blocked him on any social media
    *I cut off all contact, other than email contact to arrange child arrangements/finance.
    *The less I knew the better!
    *I got a solicitor and started divorce proceedings (2nd affair btw).
    *I confided in many friends.
    *I cried (a lot)
    *I got stronger
    *I read lots of self-help books
    *I got counselling (And still have it!)
    *I started to think that I was the lucky one because I am still in my 40s and have been given the chance to be me again.
    *I didn’t blame myself, I blamed him. Yes the relationship was a 2 way thing but the decision to have an affair was entirely his!
    *I’m now fighting him through the courts for what me and our 3 children are entitled to.
    *I have minimal/rare contact other than email. It has helped me heal. I was lost with no purpose in life but I’ve realised I’ve as much right to be happy than him so that will keep me going.

    It’s gonna be a long road ahead if you decide to go it alone but it will be so worth it. It will feel like time has stood still but it’s your body and mind healing. Time is the biggest healer in all of this.
    I wish you all the best. Just get through each day focusing on eating and sleeping and your children. Xx

  3. I recently put my husband out of the house a day after Christmas, after finding out he has been having an affair with a younger women,which works at the same place his does. We are both 48 and married 22 years. We have 3 children. 23,20, and 12. I have actually known him 30 years. The woman he is having the affair with is 26 years old. I actually found out about it on social media. When I contacted her, she told me she had been seeing my husband for a year. He told her we were divorced and even showed her papers. She refers to me as the Ex. Me and her got into an heated argument over my husband. She has shared with me screen shots of their conversations,and he does nothing but talks about me like a worthless piece of trash. I didn’t know he felt that way about me, cause he never expressed those feeling to me. Now, that he’s out of the house, I’m so depressed, can’t eat, and has anxiety attacks on a regular basis. I can’t seem to shack it off. It’s been 22 days since he left. We are still consonantly arguing and fight. I recently found out where she lives and drives by there occasional to see if he’s there. He is still seeing her and I don’t know what steps to take next. He is telling me he just need time for him to get himself together and to give him space so he can be happy. I sometimes call him in the middle of the night because I can’t sleep to over his house. I have spent the night three times since he has moved out. When I leave It’s all those feelings back again. I know for a fact he is this see her too. So, I can we work on things if he continues to see this other women? I know I need to move on, but I don’t know how. I been with this man 30 years. How do I move on. I am tired of feel like crap every day. I don’t think it is bothering him on bit. The pain is unbearable! I just want feel normal again. Should I file for divorce or give it more time. I don’t know what to do. The other told me they had a close relationship and she’s not going anywhere, didn’t care about him being married. She there to stay!

    1. How you are feeling is absolutely normal. It’s horrible and you want the pain to end. You hope he might realise what he’s lost and come back to you. You know in your heart you shouldn’t want him back but you do. You know that the way he talks about you is dishonourable and disrespectful but you tell yourself he doesn’t mean it. Men who do this are not good people. They love the idea of being fought over by two women. Get him out of your life even if it hurts like hell because he will hurt you again and again. He doesn’t deserve you and he wants this younger woman who makes him feel like he still has it. He may not be evil but he’s not someone you can trust anymore. Keep him at arm’s length and for your sake and the 12 year olds do everything you can to stay away from him. It will feel better at times and then it won’t but hang in there. You know this is the right thing to do.

    2. I know exactly how you are feeling. Today makes 8 days since I kicked my husband out, but in fact, he as not been there for a long time. We have been together for 28 years, but he cheated on me constantly. We have 2 children, ( 17 & 12) but he as 4 others that I know about. I stayed because I didn’t want to start over. Know I realize that while he was physically with us, he was always somewhere else emotionally. My heart is in a tight knot and I cry and have tears in my eyes right through the last 8 days. I know if I call him to come home he would, but I know his heart is with someone else and that’s too hard for me to bear. I know I’m doing the right thing finally for myself but I hurt so much right now, it’s almost unbearable. I’m praying for strength not to call him and my daughter is encouraging me to start enjoying myself and to try not to look so sad. My kids are doing better than I am, they are glad to not have to deal with is constant quarreling and moodiness but I know they miss him too but are trying not to make me feel worst because they have seen how he as treated me.

      1. There is no easy way through it. It’s a loss and leaves a massive hole in our lives. Many of us will relent and let them come home only to be sorry later. Others will let them return thinking it’s much worse without them. No one is judging you if you do, we all have been there and know how it feels. I have decided I’m grieving the loss of my married life, not him exactly. I liked being married and 38 years is a long time. I did not always like my husband however but I tolerated his often neglectful behaviour. If he turned up today at my door begging me to take him back I would consider it but I know it would be the WRONG decision to agree. This is my fate now, to start afresh at 67 when every part of me longs to be where I was 12 months ago before things went bad and she came into our lives. I do believe in fate and I think I needed to be free of him so she appeared and lured him away. I must/have to believe this and it will be revealed to me in time as the best thing that ever happened. We want the pain to stop but taking him back will just mean a different type of pain. I don’t think many men change who they are.

  4. Dear Ladies,

    I want to address this to each and every one of you and this is such a horrible situation that we have all found ourselves in. It gives me comfort to know that I am not alone and I am nearly 4 months on since my cruel discard after 25 years together and I still cry every day trying to make sense of it all. The biggest thank you for sharing your experiences, the pain and heartbreak is at times unbearable. Losing your pride, self-esteem and identity is all something to process. What I am learning is there is no time scale. We are all unique and need to be kind to ourselves. The key word is narcissism, look it up and you will find some answers. Not pleasant, but you may see that it is them and not you that has the problem. They take their problems with them, we learn about ours by feeling the pain and grief. Thoughts and prayers with you all. Thank you.

    1. There is such a lot to process and it comes in fits and starts. The biggest one for me was realising how little he cared about my future. He simply didn’t give it a second thought because he DID NOT CARE! Then there was the fact that he was about to go to Paris with his girlfriend when we had planned to go on that trip this year. I hated that he was happy and I wasn’t. I also had to grieve the loss of the person I thought I was married to ie the person I thought cared and loved me and was basically a nice guy. I don’t think he is a narcissist, I think he is more a sociopath who hurts others without caring and always puts his own needs first. I made sure he knew how much I was suffering so that when property settlement came around I could cite that as him owing me more than what he wanted to give. I pleaded with him in person because it’s easy to say no in an email. I also practiced forgiveness and it helped that I also believe in karma. I said “I forgive you” several times a day because it helped me to heal. The best advice I got was “Don’t be a victim” which is basically being sorry for yourself. Sh*t happens and as bad as this seems it is not the worst thing that could happen. We’re alive and functioning if barely. Concentrate on making the future as good as it can be; the past is gone and can’t be changed. Think about making today a good day and then pretty soon they will be mostly all good days. Don’t try and be super woman, just get through the essentials. If you need to rest get sick leave based on stress. It’s a sickness too. My doctor got me to have 3 weeks in hospital in a psychiatric ward because I was suicidal. It was lovely to be able to sleep, cry, sleep and heal while someone else cooked and cleaned for me.

    2. Jennisea,
      You are definitely on to something. I just found out that my husband is indeed a covert narcissist. What all of us are experiencing is narcissism with our spouses. The love bombing, instant and intense rush of emotions, devaluation and then the abrupt discarding.
      May we all heal, seek our own happiness, find a newer and improved version of ourselves and sincere peace.

  5. DEBBIE
    January 12, 2020 at 8:06 am
    Hi I’m Debbie my husband has left me and I am devastated. I go over all the awful things he has said and done to me and it hurts so bad.. I just can’t seem to get over this it’s been 3 months and I’m still very low. How do you begin to build a new life after being with someone 15 years and they just up and go. I seen him last week and he hit me and said the most awful things.. please if anyone any advice I feel like I’m never going to get over this

    1. 3 months is not enough time I’m afraid. Time heals all wounds, as they say, and I know that’s not much comfort now but it’s true. For me it helped to get the house sold as quickly as possible and a financial agreement drawn up. Getting these things set up helped me focus on the future not the past. I was with my husband for 38 years and he left 4 and a half months ago. Only after these things were drawn up could I begin to heal. I still have bad days but they are getting fewer. Most importantly you need to want to heal. To do that you have to not want him back and then you have to believe your life will be better without him. That is harder than you might think. Every time you feel angry tell yourself. “I forgive him” and say it several times. It denies him the ability to make you feel bad because, hey! You forgave him! Try to not think about him too much and distract yourself when you do by going on line or making a coffee and reading a magazine. Eventually you will find it has got better without you noticing. It’s something you just have to rise out sadly.

    2. I can promise you, you will get over this! A broken heart is like any other broken part of your body. It will take longer though, as the hurt is much deeper.
      I am a year on and still have a long way to go. I have to sit back and watch my husband of 20 years move on with his new woman.
      Take this time to be thankful that you’ve been given the opportunity later in life to rediscover yourself. It’s not easy and can sometimes feel so lonely but it’s a great opportunity. Focus on you. Eat well, get exercise, read books (I’ve read lots of self help books), think about the things you’ve always wanted to do. Take yourself back to the person you were before the relationship. The dreams you had. You get one chance at life. We all came into this life as individuals and have every right to make your own happiness.
      Those men who treat women like this are not truly happy deep down. You are in a more positive position than him. He will take his problems to the next woman and so on.
      Just take each day and be kind to yourself. Good luck x

      1. Jackie,
        Your passage speaks volumes! One thing is for sure, these men are broken and lost. Somewhere lies a broken and hurt little boy that is still screaming for attention that he did not receive a lot of as a minor, or he received too much praise and validation from a narcissist parent.

        Many of the men mentioned throughout this thread all have very similar traits and patterns for the various types of narcissism. Humans with compassion, empathy, and remorse cannot just pick up and leave suddenly without a conversation or sincere desire to at least talk and see where the relationship or marriage went wrong. Women that they professed there love to or claimed to be so in love with, committed their life too in front of family, friends, and as the mother of their children can simply pick up and leave without a trace to be with a woman that they barely know? This is all done just to have their sorry ass egos massaged? These are not the men that we vowed our lives to honor and cherish until death do us part.

        I can speak personally that the so-called man that I feel deeply in with is not the same man that I know today. He no longer exist. My marriage was a scam. A fake. A fraud. His new identity is now of a sinister monster. An emotional killer and abuser.

        The only way to go at this point is to heal and move forward and go on strict no contact. If you have children, a third party can be in the front line when dealing with a spouse that has left and has replaced you with their sea turtle chia pet. Find a trusted family member, friend, member of your church or a court-appointed advocate to deal with your spouse until you can relocate whom you used to be before the relationship/ marriage. Somewhere along the lines, we lost a little bit of ourselves trying to be everything to everyone but ourselves. I know that I forgot to be me. Today, I am stronger than I ever have been in my life, and I will never allow another person to hurt me like this again.

        The betrayal, lies, deceit and gaslighting is the upmost worst that I have ever experienced. The lack of him taking responsibility for his actions, and then placing the blame on me as if I was the one who cheated. We will somehow get through this terrible time. It feels like an eternity for me. I have been separated for seven ½ months and I realized that I will be the one to seek divorce. This also infuriates me to no avail because he was the one who cheated and left abruptly! Why am I the one to start the process? I did not cheat but I know that to move forward with my life, I will be the one to file and reclaim my life back.

        Again, I wish everyone the best in finding your jump start on healing, rediscovering who you are and locating a newer and improved version of you, sincere happiness, joy, smiling, laughter, lots of wine and more wine. If you need to throwing darts at their pictures, scream for no reason, be angry, do not block your feelings of frustration or disappointment, grieve my all means grieve, cry and then write your feelings down in a journal. You will soon recognize that moving on is the only and final way to heal and get back to loving you again. You must understand that the marriage is dead. The man you married is no more. He is a broken man that is no longer able to be a part of your life or any of our lives.

        God Bless & Healing to All

      2. It helps reading through all of these posts to know I’m not alone. My husband left my 2 year old daughter and I the day after Thanksgiving when I found out about his affair (this is the second one btw). It’s been two months and he is still with her. He said they were “just friends” and it “just happened”. He refuses to end the relationship, says they’re in love, even tried to introduce her to our friends (they refused to meet her). I feel destroyed, mourning the loss of my marriage, my best friend, our dreams. But his actions make me question if those things ever existed. I filed for divorce two days ago. Enough is enough. I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster but knew the only way I could really start to heal is to file. Hardest and best decision I’ll ever make. I still have a long road ahead but I know in my heart I’m doing what’s best for myself and my daughter.

        1. Kerry,
          It seems as if all of our stories of what we are going through is so similar and familiar. Sometimes I get really sad because so many wives are still able to be in some type of contact with their husband’s, even if it is limited. At least many have been able to talk things out with them.

          Mine has completed discarded me and my children so easily and abruptly without a care in the world. I too am seeking a divorce. I just want this nightmare to end so that I can finally take back my life and move forward knowing that he is legally no longer part of me.

          Acceptance is the hardest part but I have faith that all of us will see victory soon!

        2. I agree Kerry. I immediately put the house on the market thus cutting off any avenue he might have had to try and return. His friends supported him leaving me because they thought me a controlling bitch. By that they meant I occasionally insisted on being a higher priority in his life than them. Not being a big drinking, party loving type did me no favours either. I should have left him years ago but I was afraid of the future alone. Now, by his leaving, I see fate forced me to face that fear. I sometimes still want my old life back but it’s gone as sure as if he had died only I would had more money if he had! Not facing reality would have been the easy course to take but nobody wants to be around a “victim”. So every day I have to remind myself of that and try to make each day pleasurable in some way. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. You just have to go on putting one foot in front of the other. Good luck ladies!

  6. My ex of almost 17years did that to me. She cheating before Irma ,then hatched a plan to leave to protect our kids beforeIrma hit. Then sealed the deal physically cheating with him. Found out only when I caught The Clap from her cheating(thank GOD it was curable). She ended the relationship and her rebound only lasted until January 2018. I forgave and took her back. She needed a surgery, so I was used again until she got better. Then poof, gone again. But this time making sure with her lies, that I couldn’t see nor speak to our kids ever again. Come to find out she was nothing but a narcissistic person like her mother. She followed in her mother’s footsteps and did to me what she did to my ex’s father. False love can make you a fool and blind to the writing on the wall.
    But the LORD says to forgive and forget. I can’t hate my ex for the teaching of her mother. Because I will always love my kids, so I can’t hate my ex. Just a reminder to those who have kids with an ex. If you hate your ex, it will only show to your kids you hate them too. For they are of you and your ex.

  7. My husband left me after 26 yrs only to say I deserved better. I am beside myself and astonished that he chose this path after my support of his military career and law enforcement careers and raising our son. He has basically walked out on the both of us leaving everything behind and a mess in his path. I have a heavy chest and feel I can’t breathe easy. Our divorce is final and I expected him to fight for us. PTSD and depression has played a huge role and I can’t fix everything I know. But I was always there to support him.

    1. Husbands who leave are not thinking about what we did for them. They are imagining a whole better life without us in it. It’s very hard to accept that but some people are focused only on themselves and nobody else matters. Don’t take it as a personal insult; it’s just his crappy way of dealing with life. It’s easy to blame PTSD when you’ve been in the forces and maybe this is a factor or maybe he isn’t mature enough to cope with the reality that life is often boring. I know my 64 yo husband thinks that he has one shot at life and nobody is going to hold him back, least of all the woman he married 38 years ago. I now realise how much more pleasant life is without him. I no longer have to walk on eggshells in case he blows a fuse over something unimportant. It’s not fair, you didn’t deserve it but it’s happened and now we are free to live a better life without our miserable husbands.

    2. Hi Susan hope you are ok. I know it is so hard I am in the same position. My husband has left me and I am devastated I just think about him constantly wondering what he’s doing and cry every day.. sorry no great advice to give to make you feel any better. Just know you are not alone feeling how you do: message if you would like to talk. x