About Laurie


Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m the Adventurous Writer who created the “She Blossoms” blog and book series. I write full-time from my treehouse overlooking the waters of Indian Arm in Vancouver, BC, Canada.

You’re here for a reason, and I’m happy to meet you. The best way to stay in touch – and blossom! – is by signing up for my newsletter. When you get my email address, you can send me a little note. I’m curious about who you are and hope you’ll respond to the welcome email you’ll get when you sign up 🙂

My purpose is to help women blossom into who God created them to be. I write articles to help people cope with loss and let go of the past; I love sharing practical tips and tools for healing.

I’ve experienced many losses in my life. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been deep, rich, and fulfilling. I’m a woman of faith and a follower of Jesus.

Join me, and we’ll walk into a new season of life together. We’ll find the joy, freedom, peace, strength and hope that God promises, and we’ll become who He created us to be. That’s what blossoming is all about!

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A Glimpse Into My Life

 

  • My mom struggled with schizophrenia and nervous breakdowns my whole life; I lived in three foster homes and was living on my own at 17 years old. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage near Prince Albert, Saskatchewan.

 

  • My dad is Jewish, born and raised in Jerusalem, Israel – where he still lives. I didn’t meet him until I went to Israel when I was 29 years old.

 

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for missionaries’ and ex-pat kids in Nairobi.

 

  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver, Canada.

 

  • I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister is now 18 years old (she was 11 when we were matched). I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today! She lives in Toronto, Ontario.

 

  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

 

  • I didn’t get married until I was 35…and I married Bruce, who I met 17 years earlier! He was a bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant, and I was a waitress. We were friends for a long, long time before I finally proposed! 🙂

 

  • We struggled with infertility, and can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). Those fertility treatments didn’t work; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

 

 

I’ve been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. Amazing, I love it! Every day I wonder if today is my last day of work (will the internet suddenly implode and disappear? Boy, I hope not). I love my job, and am awed by God’s blessings.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti. The older I get, the happier and more peaceful I become. And the bigger I Blossom 🙂

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I created the Blossom Tips and How Love Blossoms family of books and blogs, to help women get up when they’re down and arise afresh. Join me — because the journey is better and brighter if you aren’t walking alone.

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My “She Blossoms” Blogs

The purpose of my blogs and books are to help women walk through loss. Letting go of the past and moving into a new season of life is a process that takes time, energy, hope, courage and faith! I write about real life struggles and serious problems, such as letting go of a loved one, healing a broken heart, coping with infertility and depression, and dealing with guilt and shame from the past.

Relationship Blossoms started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I found my new identity in God and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women in all types of relationships.

How Love Blossoms is an offshoot of my original love blog (Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships). That blog grew way too big, so I had to weed it out. So now I have two love and relationship blogs. There’s not much difference between the two, which is crazy. Someone needs to do something about that.

Life Blossoms was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…and my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas That Will Surprise and Delight Her.

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Jackson and Me

Blossom Tips is an offshoot of the original Blossom in Life blog (Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals). Again, that blog got way too big! So I had to more weeding. I dug up the most popular blog posts, and replanted them as Blossom Tips.

Writing Blossoms was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Health Blossoms – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

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My “She Blossoms” eBooks

All my ebooks include information from a variety of sources. I don’t focus on my own stories or tips, though I do share glimpses of how I survived foster homes, a schizophrenic mother, family estrangement, a home invasion and attempted rape, three years living and teaching in Africa, infertility – and how I survived (and, yes, Blossomed!) through it all..

 

She Blossoms how to let go of someone you love ebook

How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets and Practical Tips for Healing Your Heart After a Breakup, is my bestselling ebook. I share emotional, spiritual, and practical tips for coping with the end of a relationship. It hurts to let go of someone you love – but it hurts worse to hold on to the past.

 

Blossoming After a Breakup ebook laurie pawlik kienlen

Blossoming After a Breakup: The Courage and Creativity You Need to Restart Your Life! is one of my personal favourites because it combines creativity, courage, God, and Blossoming. It’s about starting over after a relationship ends – and finding your creative self. Painting, writing, acting, traveling, volunteering, dreaming – it’s all there. What’s not to love? 🙂

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Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog.Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog – If you’ve ever lost a dog, you know how hard it is. It always hurts to say goodbye! I’ve lost two dogs and four cats, and each loss brought its own unique pain. Living without your dog is a sad adjustment of heart and home. Whether your loss was planned or accidental, you’ll never be the same..

 

Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat.Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat – One of the most difficult parts of grieving the loss of a cat is the regret and guilt. In this ebook, I offer companionship, hope, and healing. Cat owners never “get over” their cat’s death, but they can feel less burdened by grief, guilt, or regret.

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,Healing Your Cycle

And finally, I wrote Healing Your Cycle: Your Guide to the Safest Solutions for Irregular, Spotty, or Missing Menstrual Cycles for the hundreds of women who asked for help regulating their periods. To write this ebook, I read more books, blogs, and resources on women’s cycles than I could count! I found the best and most reliable ways to balance hormones and get healthy, and organized them into a handy guidebook for women.

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And that, my friend, is a glimpse of who I am.

Your thoughts are welcome on any of my blogs – I’d love to hear from you! And don’t worry: I don’t give advice. It’s your turn to talk.

The best way to keep in touch is to sign up for my free weekly Blossom Tips. You’ll get my email address, and we will stay connected.

Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

Blessings,

Laurie
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27 thoughts on “About Laurie

  • Stephanie

    Hi Laurie
    I posted a comment on one of your articles but I didn’t realize it would publish my full name… Can you delete it? Thank you

  • Christi

    Hey Laurie,
    I ran into your blog while looking for somethings women go through and I’m so appreciative for a woman like you. Unfortunate circumstances and hardships have been blind siding me one after the other for the past 6 years. Even though I’ve also been blessed with other circumstances throughout the hardships. Things finally started settling down a couple of years ago where I can finally take a look at what was making it worse in my life than it had to be after coming out of a long deep depression. I’m still depressed more than half the time but do see light at the end of the tunnel at least. However, I want to say thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences of hardship, spiritual knowledge, strength, and hope!! I’d like to share more w you over time and look forward to taking the time to do that. Before I got married I set some goals to find a way to reach out and help other young single women to prevent them from falling into abusive realationships as a way of getting out of their childhood abusive homes. A way for them to find independence before falling into the trap of abusive cycles. Unfortunately, I fell into another trap before I knew it and need to find away to help myself first. Anyways, just a little about me without going too deep. God Bless You, Christi

    • Laurie Post author

      Thank you for being here, Christi – it’s great to hear from you. I love your idea of setting goals to help young single women take their time, and not rush into any relationship.

      I hope you signed up for my newsletter! Then, you’ll hear from me weekly and we can grow forward together 🙂

      http://eepurl.com/ca2mJr

      With His love,
      Laurie

  • Lena

    Hi Laurie,

    I just stumbled upon your page while browsing through the internet and I absolutely love it! I am a follower of Christ and your website is so helpful. It is not overly spiritual or “preachy” but really gets to the heart of various relationship issues without excluding God. I just subscribed to your newsletter 🙂

    Thank you!

    • Laurie Post author

      Hello Lena,

      I hope you’re getting the newsletters, and that they’re helpful! Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

      Blessings,
      Laurie

  • J.

    Hi Laurie,
    I paid for the book “How to let go of someone you love” and once I received confirmation, hit delete by accident and lost your email address. Anyway, I’m writing because I can’t find where to access the book, now that I purchased it. Can you please let me know if I will receive and email with the book to download or pdf.file? I really want to read it but not sure where to find it. Thank you

    • Laurie Post author

      Dear J,

      Thank you for your message; I emailed you the pdf ebook.

      May your heart heal, and may you move forward in acceptance, peace and joy. And remember to take good care of yourself – for you are worth taking good care of!

      Blessings,
      Laurie

  • Alan Newman

    Laurie,
    Why can’t you write about rescuing a relationship that is/has been through rough times?
    I lost my job in a huge industry downturn, got triplets in addition to the 2 Daughters we already had, and had to move to a country I couldn’t settle in after my partners breakdown. My Mother passed away 3m after my partner became distant and 2m after that she ended our relationship.
    She gave her reasons as my Anger Negativity and Stress, the fact she couldn’t get through to me and the combination of the two meant she couldn’t be herself.
    We tried counselling in 2 batches over the period of 16m with one counsellor (therapist?). We never fully probed the sheer depth of my partners feelings, never followed up properly on our things to do to revive our relationship, never raised our sex life, and although at the start of both batches we both said we wanted to stay together, it was the counsellor that was the one to say to my partner (5m before breakup) that the relationship was over.
    But we had 12 wonderful years together (my partner – oops ex partner) still has never raised a single issue regarding that period before life threw a few curved balls at us.
    To my mind the relationship was entirely/is possibly with the correct actions (mostly from me) recoverable.
    Why can you not write about a positive road to recovery as opposed to the gloom of inevitable and irretrievable loss?
    Alan

    • Laurie Post author

      Thank you for your thoughts, Alan. And, thank you for sharing your story.

      It sounds like you and your partner (ex-partner) have been through so much together. And, you yourself have experienced the death of your mom, the loss of your job, and all sorts of life changes. I can’t imagine what it was like for you, to go through all that.

      To answer your question: I write to help people walk through loss. I feel called to help people accept and adapt to their situations, to grieve the past and move forward into a new season of life. This doesn’t mean I have no hope for difficult relationships. Indeed, I support the millions of marriage counselors, couples therapists, and relationship psychologists who are working to help people recover their love!

      I’m not called to save marriages. My purpose here is to help people cope with loss, and transition into new life.

      Take good care of yourself, Alan. You’ve been through a lot, and it takes time to process the grief. Give yourself time, and keep looking forward. Remember that looking forward can mean starting a whole new relationship with your partner and children! It just may be different than you expected.

      Blessings,
      Laurie

    • Joy

      I have been widowed for 6 1/2 years. My “couple” friends have been supportive of me, but I’m very unhappy. I’m always the 3 or 5 wheel. I have not been on a date. A guy I knew confronted me about wanting to see me. I asked if he was still married. He said yes. I said let me think about it. That was 6 mos ago. We have had a lot of fun and 3 weeks ago he had surgery. Just before the surgery (last time I saw him) he said his wife asked him if he had a girlfriend, I haven’t seen him since. I did call his cell and left a message, but nothing. I’m sure it’s over!! I am so stupid…!! I knew I shouldn’t have gone along with him. But, I thought “I’m single, I won’t get hurt”. Now, I’m miserable, I can’t quit crying. I need a quick solution to get over him!!!

  • Deborah Stephens

    Your blog appeared on my Facebook page as I am a widow and have been struggling living alone. I was stunned when I saw my book, This Is Not The Life I Ordered which you recommend. Thank you and even though I wrote a book about surviving and thriving, there are days (like today) that prove difficult.

    We are writing a second edition. If you are interested, I would love to interview you for possible inclusion in the second edition.

    Thanks for the wisdom!

    • Laurie Post author

      Thank you for your comments, Deborah, it’s great to hear from you! I loved your book, and have featured it on several blog posts 🙂 It’s one of my regular reads on my bookshelf, because it’s both inspiring and practical.

      I’m sorry you lost your husband. It really is hard to learn how to live along again, no matter how many books you’ve read, or even written, about surviving tough seasons. Head knowledge is one thing…and grief is a whole different beast.

      I’d love to be interviewed for possible inclusion in your second edition. My own book – Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back – will be published in January 2019. The manuscript is due in a month! In it, I share glimpses of my life after foster homes, a schizophrenic mother, infertility, an attempted rape in a home invasion, and a painful family estrangement. Nope. Definitely not the life I ordered 🙂

      Feel free to email me your questions, or proceed as you wish. I’ve emailed you directly.

      Again, my condolences. May you find hope and healing, joy and laughter as you move into a new season of your life. Hold on to the good parts, and move through the bad. Look upward, always!

      In peace and passion,
      Laurie

  • RICK KOENIG

    I loved getting to know you via your written word, I would love to send you a short piece I just finished, I do not claim to be a writer, just a Caption Writer for an ad agency in NYC many years ago. I will be 89 in just 5 days and don’t feel a day over 88 !! I can laugh at myself for no reason–is that a problem ??
    I have written a very short story about a dream dictated to me by GOD. It is a Chick Flick my wife says and would make the basis for a good Hallmark film—I’d like to send it to you.
    Your New Friend In Sarasota Florida
    Rick Koenig Sr
    PS JR is 60 !!

    • Laurie Post author

      Thank you for being here, Rick! Great to hear from such an energetic, happy guy 🙂
      Have you signed up for my newsletter? That’s how you’ll get my email address, and you can send me your poem. Here’s the link:
      http://eepurl.com/ca2mJr
      I don’t want to post my email address here, because of Spam. But once you sign up, you can email me directly.
      Blessings,
      Laurie

  • Sorta Tobing

    Its so great to find this website,I fell cold to my husband because I have cronic hurt feel because him,he is handsome,nice,atractive,not hard work,love our kids,very christian religeous,my husband n my kids go to church every Sunday n give some service,I only go to church when I feel not to tired,I have hard job,and hard working person,anyway Why I so icy to my husband because one lonely lady try reach my husband ,I dont know my husband cheating or not,but its already so many time since I known him 18 years ago,and now I m so tired,I just thinking,why I have to keep the man not have pkanning in my future family,he is funny,stylish,friendly,but I no need it,I need a mature man,wise,hard working,I feel better after read every story inyour website,I think I will ready to leave him step by step,thank you n Gbu.

  • Wendy

    I’m going through a horrible relationship now. Only getting worse with the emotional abuse he does. His lies & still cheating bit lieing to me. I have caught him daily. The think is he brings kids in middle of it. The things he says to them trying to get them to hate me. It is working and he has his mom to help. I’ve prayed to God that if he don’t wanna change then helpe leave. Make my life hell so I know to get out or something. Well that is what’s happening now over a yr of hell but getting worse. Him & his mom has made sure I have no one or nothing. My ID gone! Along with birth certificate. Can’t order new one with out ID or notarized. In order to get that I need ID. My $15 he side jobs gone. They let me go cuz they didn’t want trouble. No I with kids dad cuz I have no one or no where to go. He verbally abuses me daily. While he’s at work bashing me & talking with female coworker he says is hot & sleep with. He asked her if he can be friends with benefits. That’s why I left. He needs help thinks he done no wrong playing dumb. To be honest I’ve pretty much lost faith in God. In blink of an eye everything gone. Even the ones who you thought knew better. It’s crazy to see how people believe what they hear when they know better. Not even coming to me reaching out to see if I’m ok or ask if the rumors are true. Even if they were true. No one held their arm out or even stood in the gap for me. Not even my kids which are my world. I’m always their for them. Been to everyeeting,school play, games ECT. Their father hate to say is was never their. I feel had cuz my kids had no father figure yet he was in home. I’ve had really bad aniexity,depression and so on latley. I’ve come across you and am looking forward to the encouraging words. Please pray for me. I need out and far away from his and of 20+ years. We have done the marriage counseling several times. Even with the number one councilor. Done with pastors also. Worldly and spiritually. Can’t help someone who don’t want the help. He is playing with my heart and I’m a wreck. Wendy

  • Pamela

    Thank you for your lovely blogs. Truly wonderful! I too, like others, stumbled upon you blog, I cannot explain how I ended up here, therefore I can only attribute this to being a “God” thing. I am still shaking my head, amazed that discovered your website. As I write, I wipe away tears that have accumulated all day. It’s the last day of 2017. Next week will mark the second anniversary of my husband’s passing. It was sudden. I was 53 and he was 59. It has been a painful journey for my teenagers and myself. We have moved forward, but this time of year is particularly difficult. Thank you for your blog. It means so much.

  • Joanne

    You are a Godsend to me today. I stumbled across your blog inadvertently. Yeah, God. I’ve been miserably bumbling along in a damaged relationship for the last 11 years ( infidelity). I’m 58 years old. I have no income. The only asset that I have is relying on the sale of our home. We have to divorce and I have no place to go. I’m a licensed RN but my confidence is shattered to go back to work because I had a brain tumor and I feel like I don’t think right anymore.

  • Louise

    Hi Laurie, I simply had to thank you for the wonderful work you do. I think the love you put out into this blog and your articles has helped a lot of people, including me. I came over from the “how to get over a married man and heal your heart” article and all the comments on it. Thank you for letting us talk through these issues and work our way up to be stronger healthier women.
    Best wishes and lots of love.

  • Kassandra

    Love your site and your posts! Came across you through an ad you posted from 2016, but it came up under a writing site search? Please know that you are a blessing to the Body of Christ. Let us know if we can help in any way if you still need social media assistance.
    We help with blogs, marketing ads, social media, SEO, etc., and personally, I’ve worked on about 10,000+ articles, descriptions, and blogs for our clients. God makes us a blessing to help others and He always makes the way. We just have to prepare our hearts to receive from Him so we can pour out to those in need as He positions us to be a blessing to others, i.e., the oil that runs and won’t run dry. The problem is we sometimes give up too soon because a test can be overwhelming, but the test builds our faith and the fire makes us, well, fire-proof! That bush that’s burning? When it’s not consumed? That’s nobody but Jesus! Glory to God!

    BTW, you can find us on Facebook at God-Driven-Designs or through our site, God-Driven-Designs.com. We help businesses and churches with their marketing and ministry products. Now more than ever, we pray encouraging words for those in need of comfort – that’s why it’s so important to stay encouraged, stand firm, and fight the good fight of faith. God’s got this!

    May God bless your ministry with angels and the support you need and take good care of those horses! Will keep your ministry in our prayers. Keep shining your light for God and may your ministry prosper in Him!

    K

  • Laurie Post author

    Thanks for being here, Bertil, it’s great to hear from you! Yes, men are welcome to follow Blossom and sign up for the newsletter 🙂 I hope you stay in touch – -and that you get your essay published.

    It sounds like you have a great deal of interesting experience, and I’m sure your readers will be inspired and encouraged by your adventures. Let me know how your publication journey goes!

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Bertil Wedin

    Is this a website for ladies only, or am I, a man, allowed to take advantage of your information and enthusiasm? What a surprise it was for me to meet this very charming young Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen while I was searching for information on how much I should charge for my essay, 50 years in journalism. A soon 77 year old Swede with a military and intelligence service background, I live with my British wife Felicity on the northern coast of Cyprus. I became a journalist in 1967 and am now trying to remember what I have been doing since then. Like yourself I am a Christian believer. I am also trying to re-introduce chivalry.
    Your website is superbly informative and wonderfully cheerful. I wish you and your husband much further success and happiness.
    Bertil Wedin