About Laurie

About Laurie

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Greetings from rainy Vancouver, BC, Canada! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time writer and blogger. My undergraduate degrees are in Psychology and Education from the University of Alberta in Edmonton, and I also have a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of British Columbia.

I live in a treehouse overlooking the Pacific Ocean with my husband, two dogs, cat, and other assorted animals. We live across the street from a forest, and often run into bears, coyotes, owls, raccoons, skunks, bats, and even the occasional bobcat. Meow. I mean, Rooaaarrr!!!!!

Growing Forward She Blossoms Laurie Pawlik

My first traditionally published book is called Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back and published by Bethany House. Growing forward is about moving through loss into a new season of life. I’ve been through a lot – and I bet you have, too. It hasn’t been easy, has it? But our stories aren’t over yet! The echoes of Jesus tell us that best is yet to come.

I created my She Blossoms blog and book family over 10 years ago, shortly after I started freelance writing for magazines. Talk about dreams coming true – and staying alive for a decade! I enjoy freelancing but love blogging for a living.

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My favorite blog is my newest and most adventurous one:

Traveling in Faith:

Tips and Tools for Travel That Transforms You.

Will you visit me there?

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A Glimpse of My Life

My mom struggled with schizophrenia and nervous breakdowns my whole life; I lived in three foster homes and was living on my own at 17 years old. My mom lives in a group home for elderly adults with mental and physical disabilities in Saskatchewan.

I follow Jesus but my dad is Jewish, born and raised in Jerusalem, Israel. He still lives there. I didn’t meet him until I went to Israel when I was 29 years old.

I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for missionaries’ and ex-pat kids in Nairobi.

My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from the University of British Columbia (UBC) in Vancouver, Canada.

I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister was 11 when we were matched. Soon I’ll be visiting her in Quebec — her dream is to attend university in Montreal! I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today; she lives in Toronto, Ontario.

As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

I didn’t get married until I was 35. I married Bruce, who I met when I was 18 and he was 21. He was a bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant, and I was a waitress. We were friends for a long, long time (17 years!) before we finally got married. We struggled with infertility and can’t have children because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). Those fertility treatments didn’t work; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen Blossom Tips ebook

I’ve written several “She Blossoms” books and ebooks, and have been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. My first ebook is How to Let of Someone You Love: 3 Powerful Secrets (and 75 Tips!) for Healing Your Heart.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW) and taught myself to play the flute. I also started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true!). I also went on my first mission trip to Haiti.

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I’ll be 50 soon, walking into the second half of my life. That’s why I started Traveling in Faith: Tips and Tools for Travel That Transforms You. This is the blog I wanted to start a decade ago, but didn’t feel qualified. To be a “real” travel blogger, I thought, I should travel regularly. Often. Maybe even live on the road, or as an expat in Africa or Australia or even America. But things are different now. It’s time for me to travel faithfully into the second half of my life!

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My “She Blossoms” Blog Family

I started blogging as a way to make money more than 10 years ago, which means I have a huge variety of articles. I’ve changed so much since I first started The Adventurous Writer and my “Quips and Tips” blogs – and I’m not thrilled with everything I wrote. I’m a new person now, but I don’t want to delete or erase my old blog posts. I’m trying to update them to reflect the new me (the Holy Girl God created me to be!), but it takes a lot of time to rewrite 2,000 blog posts!

My past is part of who I am today, and who God is creating me to be. Thus, my past articles and blog posts reflect who I was when I first started writing. They aren’t who I am now. Though I’d love to rewrite all my old articles (for both writing/editing practice and to reveal who I am today), it’s not a top priority because I’m no longer concerned what people think. I know who I am in Christ, and that’s all that matters.

My two most popular blogs are: 1) How Love Blossoms – articles about marriage, relationships, and healing from breakups, divorce, and other losses in love; and 2) Blossom Tips – articles about life, work, family, career, and spirituality.

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer Blossom
Jackson and Me

Originally called Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships, She Blossoms contains my first love and relationship articles. That blog grew too big — a victim of its own success — and I had to plant and grow a new garden.

Once called Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals, Life Blossoms has all my first articles about goals, life, family, and work.

Originally Quips and Tips for Successful Writers, Writing Blossoms is the first blog I started, back in 2008! My goal was to share my writing journey and help my fellow scribes get published.

And finally, I started Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility when my husband and I discovered we can’t have kids. Health Blossoms contains my articles about trying to get pregnant and deal with childlessness.

Farewell – For Now!

Your thoughts are welcome on any of my blogs – I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments section below, or on any blog post.

Take good care of yourself, for you are a child of God…and that means you are worth taking good care of.

In peace and passion,
Laurie

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  1. Hi Laurie, I have just read you are from the Jewish bloodline. I forgot to mention I am a Messianic Jew, also from the direct Jewish bloodline. My wife is a Christian Jew, after spending many years with Christian Gentile teaching. She cannot forget that I repented from being unfaithful to her and that I did this repenting in the presence of her Pastor. Mathew 6:14,15.) is easy to read as you know already Laurie, but how do you forgive someone who, Elohim does not! I am not judging my wife? What I have written is true! I agree that Elohim through His Son Yeshua-Jesus has already given His answer to such issues? But I like Elohim hates divorce!

  2. LAURIE. . I want you know that in a little corner over here in South Wales U.k🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 .i am shouting out to you a heartfelt Thank you and a big hug. Purely by chance it’s only now I have discovered this site and I only wish I. Had done so a long time ago.
    For me blossoms is like a best friend,it is a reminder that your never truly alone in life.There are others around suffering and over coming problems I thought only I found hard to deal with .
    Often I have felt alone and scared of what life was throwing my way. With no one close to me to share my sadness. Looking at social media and seeing old friends with marvellous photos displaying their happy lives, lavish holidays and their adoring partners.
    It left me feeling like I was a failure and a troubled soul that my life was worthless. I didn’t come close to my old school friends happy , wealthy lives.
    Everything just seemed hopeless. A struggling single mum to 3 beautiful children. Even the thought of this made me like a bad person . A mother who no matter how much I loved them . My love alone was never going to be enough. I had basic money to live on struggles with finding a job . I couldn’t give them enough to make them feel as though they were up and at it with the other kids. I look back and I’ve lived and learned but I will always feel guilty at them never having holidays and great clothes and the best they deserved.
    Just this place makes me feel that I am understood and I can come to terms with emotions that have haunted me. Thank you

    1. Dear Cherry,

      Thank you for your kind thoughts – I’m so glad you’re blossoming in South Wales! You’re facing the painful emotions and dealing with all sorts of uncomfortable thoughts…and as painful as it is, it really is the only way to grow forward and flourish.

      It sounds like you’ve come such a long way. And yes, you still have some way to go — and so do I! Just this morning I was writing to God, asking why it’s taking me so darn long to heal from my critical, judgmental, defensive self. It just takes time to work through our issues, because the wounds run deep. But so does the healing, if we stick to it, keep looking up, and keep growing our relationship with Jesus.

      I veered into Wales a few years ago (like, 30!), and wished I could’ve stayed longer. I was hitchhiking, and my ride was going to Scotland, I think…I was worried about getting stuck in Wales ’cause I didn’t know much about it. But I saw enough to know I wanted to return 🙂

      With love from Vancouver, Canada,
      Laurie

  3. My husband abandoned me almost 2 years ago. We have known each other for almost 50 years beginning with dating when we were teenagers and young adults. We married 11 years ago and had challenges before and during the marriage stemming from his alcoholism and blending our families (we both were divorced with adult children when we married). I have been upset every since the abandonment and am estranged from my immediate family because of interference and abuse by them. The financial aspect has been devastating and I have reached out to him to reconcile on several occasions. At first, he was willing to talk about reconciliation but not now. I have discovered a lot about alcoholism as well as he spoke untruthfully and unkindly about me to others (which alcoholics do). He is ill but I am reelilng because of little to no communication from him. I am a Christian and pray unceasingly for everything and particularly the reconciliatin of our marriage. Logic is being considered but I cannot let him go. I love him and it causes me daily pain. I have had some therapy but I am praying that God will touch his heart so that he can spend his remaining time with me. I believe he is getting sicker and possibly terminally ill. His children are supportive, particularly his son; but, his daughter is not, as much. I could explain more; but, this is the gist of it.

  4. What a life you have had. I have struggled with depression and weight for years. I did not get my Open University degree until I retired, an Open University Level three with honors. I made the mistake of taking on too many hard courses before I was ready.

    Sheila

  5. Laurie…i cannot thank you enough for sharing your journeys…esp abput your sister. My journey mirrors that one. I’m crying so badly, I can’t see to type! But, i agree 100%: it’s a necessary part of healing. Ive cried on numerous occasions since Oct 2015 when she ceased communication. Then last year i was reunited with her…because her husband/bf/best everything died unexpectedly. I finally also got to hug and smell and kiss my 2 nieces who i love as my own…at their daddy’s funeral. I dont even want to continue cuz i feel so redundant and am not having a pity party…im just flipin sad. I am so so sad. I miss her so so much. Even tho her not talking to me for those 2 1/2 yrs was not any fault of mine, she trumped any and all pain I’d ever endured as far as my concern, ther4 i gave her everything she’s wanted. Unfortunately, it’s been continued separation. She’s talking, texting, visiting with everyone except for me amd my 2 sons 28 & 29 who she calls her little brothers. Both my sons are broken. Not just from losing their “uncle dad” but from losing their”natnat” too. When they release at times saying “WE WERE THE CLOSEST TO HIM!??!” I repeat he was their everything…no one’s allowed to be upset at her no matter how hard it hurts!! I know I’ve needed to let go, laurie. I hold on and refuse to not believe anything else except that God is preparing the best relationship we’ve ever had and will have in the future. I have to. What remains is nothing if i dont. God answered my prayers of helping me to let go. And it’s time. That’s why the sadness. Ive already got other things in the works and grown closer to our Lord…but today i need to officially say byebye. Even typing that just now…well…i guess there’s more crying needed. “Nat…i love you…i gotta go now.” Thnx laurie…thanku!!

  6. Thank you for such beautiful articles. I would like to adapt from your article, giving you credit for “6 females heroes who ignored a why me and chose yes Lord. I am presenting for our ladies ministry.
    Thank you
    Daisy Cummings
    PS. I am also a social worker.

  7. Thank you so much for being here, sharing your hearts and thoughts! I’m sorry I haven’t responded to every comment.

    Julia, your compassion and love for the women who commented is more than touching: it is convicting. I agree with you – there is so much pain and unhappiness not just here on She Blossoms, but the world. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, like I can’t do or say anything to make things better or ease the pain. But I CAN do something – and even though it seems as “small” as responding to comments, it is something. And it’s better than nothing.

    About gathering a group of women together – I do send a She Blossoms newsletter every Wednesday, to encourage and inspire women (and men!). Here’s the link: http://eepurl.com/ca2mJr

    And I have a private She Blossoms Facebook group, for women only: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sheblossoms/

    Please join us. I can’t offer personal support, advice or counseling, but I can provide a place for us to gather and take shelter from the world.

    With the love of Jesus,
    Laurie