About Laurie

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Greetings from rainy Vancouver, BC, Canada! My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time writer and blogger. My undergraduate degrees are in Psychology and Education from the University of Alberta in Edmonton, and I also have a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of British Columbia.

I live in a treehouse overlooking the Pacific Ocean with my husband, two dogs, cat, and other assorted animals. We live across the street from a forest, and often run into bears, coyotes, owls, raccoons, skunks, bats, and even the occasional bobcat. Meow. I mean, Rooaaarrr!!!!!

Growing Forward She Blossoms Laurie Pawlik

My first traditionally published book is called Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back and published by Bethany House. Growing forward is about moving through loss into a new season of life. I’ve been through a lot – and I bet you have, too. It hasn’t been easy, has it? But our stories aren’t over yet! The echoes of Jesus tell us that best is yet to come.

I created my She Blossoms blog and book family over 10 years ago, shortly after I started freelance writing for magazines. Talk about dreams coming true – and staying alive for a decade! I enjoy freelancing but love blogging for a living.



My favorite blog is my newest and most adventurous one:

Traveling in Faith:

Tips and Tools for Travel That Transforms You.

Will you visit me there?



A Glimpse of My Life

My mom struggled with schizophrenia and nervous breakdowns my whole life; I lived in three foster homes and was living on my own at 17 years old. My mom lives in a group home for elderly adults with mental and physical disabilities in Saskatchewan.

I follow Jesus but my dad is Jewish, born and raised in Jerusalem, Israel. He still lives there. I didn’t meet him until I went to Israel when I was 29 years old.

I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for missionaries’ and ex-pat kids in Nairobi.

My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from the University of British Columbia (UBC) in Vancouver, Canada.

I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister was 11 when we were matched. Soon I’ll be visiting her in Quebec — her dream is to attend university in Montreal! I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today; she lives in Toronto, Ontario.

As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

I didn’t get married until I was 35. I married Bruce, who I met when I was 18 and he was 21. He was a bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant, and I was a waitress. We were friends for a long, long time (17 years!) before we finally got married. We struggled with infertility and can’t have children because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). Those fertility treatments didn’t work; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen Blossom Tips ebook

I’ve written several “She Blossoms” books and ebooks, and have been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. My first ebook is How to Let of Someone You Love: 3 Powerful Secrets (and 75 Tips!) for Healing Your Heart.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW) and taught myself to play the flute. I also started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true!). I also went on my first mission trip to Haiti.



I’ll be 50 soon, walking into the second half of my life. That’s why I started Traveling in Faith: Tips and Tools for Travel That Transforms You. This is the blog I wanted to start a decade ago, but didn’t feel qualified. To be a “real” travel blogger, I thought, I should travel regularly. Often. Maybe even live on the road, or as an expat in Africa or Australia or even America. But things are different now. It’s time for me to travel faithfully into the second half of my life!



My “She Blossoms” Blog Family

I started blogging as a way to make money more than 10 years ago, which means I have a huge variety of articles. I’ve changed so much since I first started The Adventurous Writer and my “Quips and Tips” blogs – and I’m not thrilled with everything I wrote. I’m a new person now, but I don’t want to delete or erase my old blog posts. I’m trying to update them to reflect the new me (the Holy Girl God created me to be!), but it takes a lot of time to rewrite 2,000 blog posts!

My past is part of who I am today, and who God is creating me to be. Thus, my past articles and blog posts reflect who I was when I first started writing. They aren’t who I am now. Though I’d love to rewrite all my old articles (for both writing/editing practice and to reveal who I am today), it’s not a top priority because I’m no longer concerned what people think. I know who I am in Christ, and that’s all that matters.

My two most popular blogs are: 1) How Love Blossoms – articles about marriage, relationships, and healing from breakups, divorce, and other losses in love; and 2) Blossom Tips – articles about life, work, family, career, and spirituality.

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer Blossom
Jackson and Me

Originally called Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships, She Blossoms contains my first love and relationship articles. That blog grew too big — a victim of its own success — and I had to plant and grow a new garden.

Once called Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals, Life Blossoms has all my first articles about goals, life, family, and work.

Originally Quips and Tips for Successful Writers, Writing Blossoms is the first blog I started, back in 2008! My goal was to share my writing journey and help my fellow scribes get published.

And finally, I started Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility when my husband and I discovered we can’t have kids. Health Blossoms contains my articles about trying to get pregnant and deal with childlessness.

Farewell – For Now!

Your thoughts are welcome on any of my blogs – I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments section below, or on any blog post.

Take good care of yourself, for you are a child of God…and that means you are worth taking good care of.

In peace and passion,


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41 thoughts on “About Laurie”

  1. Hi Laurie,
    I have been fascinated by your article about letting go of a man you love.
    My name is Sandy G, I am a wife, a mum,a Vlogger, and founder of a woman and family ministry.
    I do host Christian ladies on my program, together we seek to encourage on different topics.
    I would be blessed if you could accept to be a guest on one of my programme. I love all your topics, as they are all so relevant to families, women and relationships.
    I would be happy to work with you on any topic.
    Thank you for your consideration.
    Yours in Christ,
    Sandy G.

    1. Thank you for your kind words and invitation, Sally, but I’ll have to decline. I’m not an expert, I don’t give advice, and I have no answers. I just write and let it go. 🙂
      In peace and passion,

  2. Hi Laurie, I have just read you are from the Jewish bloodline. I forgot to mention I am a Messianic Jew, also from the direct Jewish bloodline. My wife is a Christian Jew, after spending many years with Christian Gentile teaching. She cannot forget that I repented from being unfaithful to her and that I did this repenting in the presence of her Pastor. Mathew 6:14,15.) is easy to read as you know already Laurie, but how do you forgive someone who, Elohim does not! I am not judging my wife? What I have written is true! I agree that Elohim through His Son Yeshua-Jesus has already given His answer to such issues? But I like Elohim hates divorce!

  3. LAURIE. . I want you know that in a little corner over here in South Wales U.k🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 .i am shouting out to you a heartfelt Thank you and a big hug. Purely by chance it’s only now I have discovered this site and I only wish I. Had done so a long time ago.
    For me blossoms is like a best friend,it is a reminder that your never truly alone in life.There are others around suffering and over coming problems I thought only I found hard to deal with .
    Often I have felt alone and scared of what life was throwing my way. With no one close to me to share my sadness. Looking at social media and seeing old friends with marvellous photos displaying their happy lives, lavish holidays and their adoring partners.
    It left me feeling like I was a failure and a troubled soul that my life was worthless. I didn’t come close to my old school friends happy , wealthy lives.
    Everything just seemed hopeless. A struggling single mum to 3 beautiful children. Even the thought of this made me like a bad person . A mother who no matter how much I loved them . My love alone was never going to be enough. I had basic money to live on struggles with finding a job . I couldn’t give them enough to make them feel as though they were up and at it with the other kids. I look back and I’ve lived and learned but I will always feel guilty at them never having holidays and great clothes and the best they deserved.
    Just this place makes me feel that I am understood and I can come to terms with emotions that have haunted me. Thank you

    1. Dear Cherry,

      Thank you for your kind thoughts – I’m so glad you’re blossoming in South Wales! You’re facing the painful emotions and dealing with all sorts of uncomfortable thoughts…and as painful as it is, it really is the only way to grow forward and flourish.

      It sounds like you’ve come such a long way. And yes, you still have some way to go — and so do I! Just this morning I was writing to God, asking why it’s taking me so darn long to heal from my critical, judgmental, defensive self. It just takes time to work through our issues, because the wounds run deep. But so does the healing, if we stick to it, keep looking up, and keep growing our relationship with Jesus.

      I veered into Wales a few years ago (like, 30!), and wished I could’ve stayed longer. I was hitchhiking, and my ride was going to Scotland, I think…I was worried about getting stuck in Wales ’cause I didn’t know much about it. But I saw enough to know I wanted to return 🙂

      With love from Vancouver, Canada,

  4. My husband abandoned me almost 2 years ago. We have known each other for almost 50 years beginning with dating when we were teenagers and young adults. We married 11 years ago and had challenges before and during the marriage stemming from his alcoholism and blending our families (we both were divorced with adult children when we married). I have been upset every since the abandonment and am estranged from my immediate family because of interference and abuse by them. The financial aspect has been devastating and I have reached out to him to reconcile on several occasions. At first, he was willing to talk about reconciliation but not now. I have discovered a lot about alcoholism as well as he spoke untruthfully and unkindly about me to others (which alcoholics do). He is ill but I am reelilng because of little to no communication from him. I am a Christian and pray unceasingly for everything and particularly the reconciliatin of our marriage. Logic is being considered but I cannot let him go. I love him and it causes me daily pain. I have had some therapy but I am praying that God will touch his heart so that he can spend his remaining time with me. I believe he is getting sicker and possibly terminally ill. His children are supportive, particularly his son; but, his daughter is not, as much. I could explain more; but, this is the gist of it.

  5. What a life you have had. I have struggled with depression and weight for years. I did not get my Open University degree until I retired, an Open University Level three with honors. I made the mistake of taking on too many hard courses before I was ready.


  6. Laurie…i cannot thank you enough for sharing your journeys…esp abput your sister. My journey mirrors that one. I’m crying so badly, I can’t see to type! But, i agree 100%: it’s a necessary part of healing. Ive cried on numerous occasions since Oct 2015 when she ceased communication. Then last year i was reunited with her…because her husband/bf/best everything died unexpectedly. I finally also got to hug and smell and kiss my 2 nieces who i love as my own…at their daddy’s funeral. I dont even want to continue cuz i feel so redundant and am not having a pity party…im just flipin sad. I am so so sad. I miss her so so much. Even tho her not talking to me for those 2 1/2 yrs was not any fault of mine, she trumped any and all pain I’d ever endured as far as my concern, ther4 i gave her everything she’s wanted. Unfortunately, it’s been continued separation. She’s talking, texting, visiting with everyone except for me amd my 2 sons 28 & 29 who she calls her little brothers. Both my sons are broken. Not just from losing their “uncle dad” but from losing their”natnat” too. When they release at times saying “WE WERE THE CLOSEST TO HIM!??!” I repeat he was their everything…no one’s allowed to be upset at her no matter how hard it hurts!! I know I’ve needed to let go, laurie. I hold on and refuse to not believe anything else except that God is preparing the best relationship we’ve ever had and will have in the future. I have to. What remains is nothing if i dont. God answered my prayers of helping me to let go. And it’s time. That’s why the sadness. Ive already got other things in the works and grown closer to our Lord…but today i need to officially say byebye. Even typing that just now…well…i guess there’s more crying needed. “Nat…i love you…i gotta go now.” Thnx laurie…thanku!!

  7. Thank you for such beautiful articles. I would like to adapt from your article, giving you credit for “6 females heroes who ignored a why me and chose yes Lord. I am presenting for our ladies ministry.
    Thank you
    Daisy Cummings
    PS. I am also a social worker.

  8. Thank you so much for being here, sharing your hearts and thoughts! I’m sorry I haven’t responded to every comment.

    Julia, your compassion and love for the women who commented is more than touching: it is convicting. I agree with you – there is so much pain and unhappiness not just here on She Blossoms, but the world. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, like I can’t do or say anything to make things better or ease the pain. But I CAN do something – and even though it seems as “small” as responding to comments, it is something. And it’s better than nothing.

    About gathering a group of women together – I do send a She Blossoms newsletter every Wednesday, to encourage and inspire women (and men!). Here’s the link: http://eepurl.com/ca2mJr

    And I have a private She Blossoms Facebook group, for women only: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sheblossoms/

    Please join us. I can’t offer personal support, advice or counseling, but I can provide a place for us to gather and take shelter from the world.

    With the love of Jesus,

  9. As I read these comments, there is so much pain. So much unhappiness. The first thing that comes to my mind is how I wish I could gather every woman here and form a group of friends. I think it is so easy to feel alone and isolated when you’ve experienced such losses. I know I need friends who “get me” and are in the same boat as me. Like war veterans, you’ve been in the trenches and know what it’s like. I would simply love to have a gaggle of friends to do things with, to laugh with, and enjoy the holidays. Everyone needs to feel they have a place where they belong. I think we need that more than ever.

  10. Hi,
    i am turning 77,November 27th and find myself in a crisis of what to do with the last chapters of my life. My Mom was depressed all her life because she had to marry my Dad as she was pregnant with my sister. Six years later I was born and Mom called me the love baby which I later learned was because my Dad had found someone else but gave her up and stayed married to my Mom. My Mom leaned on me and told me things about my Dad which was so hard for me. He never really loved my Mom and so didn’t treat her well and drank too much. It really affected our lives. He died sober at 92 because he fell and hurt his head and never walked or drank again. He was with another lady, Franny, who we loved but she didn’t like his drinking, but stayed with him. Ironically my sister married a man who was not faithful and on her own is suffering anxiety, depression, scared of the future. I have been married twice always looking for the perfect man, leaving the good husbands I had behind. Now, I have regrets and seem to be falling into the same space as my Mom and sister are in. I am so scared even though I have been alone in some ways all my life. I want to find peace and happiness . I have a wonderful daughter, son-in-law and two lovely grandchildren. I keep busy but feel empty and lonely all the time. I try to be thankful for what I have, but find it hard to do that. I am not religious but I am trying to have faith in God as he has always been there for me. I am seeing a counselor and take medication but so far it is not working. I need help and prayers to get through this time in my life. Thank you for your wonderful writing and ideas. They are like a life-line for me.

  11. I stumbled upon a page when I was searching on the net about trusting God during a loss. And I am writing down this with tears rolling down. I had a stillborn baby about six months ago. Yes, you read that right. I had to get induced and deliver him halfway through the pregnancy because he was very sick and my life was also at stake. Can you imagine my condition ? Though I have two boys already, I still can’t get over my third baby’s passing away. I try to be normal for the sake of my family when my chores are all done for the day, I go in to this darkness that only a bereaved parent can understand. He would have been three months as of now. Whenever I see newborns or young babies, my heart sinks and ask “Why me?”. I used to be a very religious person in our religion. Now, I don’t have any trust in God whatsoever. He has failed me to the core by giving my baby a lethal condition and thereby making it impossible for him to survive. After I delivered my stillborn, I got to spend about 12 hrs with him but that was not enough. When they took my baby away and cremated him after a week, I would have taken my life too if only my other two children were not present. There is no reason I see in this all this suffering. Losing a baby is a loss like no other and I wish someone told me what I did wrong. I feel God punished me for certain things. I prayed everyday and every time everywhere. I am one of those girls who were taught to trust in God. I have prayed forever. Then why all this ? How do I heal my heart and hands that are missing to hold the baby in my arms ? I am functioning now only for my sons and my old parents. Husband is grieving differently. I don’t even know if he grieves at all but then men are different. But I miss my baby darling so much every minute. My heart breaks as I writes this. My world is all upside down now. Suffering is all I have got now.

    1. Dearest “L”,
      I just read your heartbreaking message that you wrote in October. First I do want to say that God did not give your baby this disease, nor did he take your child from you, but he certainly does have your baby with him, waiting for you. This is not a feel-good message but something that I have personally learned from experience. Please let me tell you my quick story explain : In 1988 I had a tubal pregnancy. This was a baby that I had desperately tried to have for many years. I was only 2 1/2 months pregnant when they had to take the baby from me because he had burst through my tube and I was bleeding internally. When I woke from surgery all I could cry out was, “They threw him in the garbage!” Somehow I knew this baby was a boy and named him after his father, Michael. For months after that I went through a serious depression, and one rage after another. But three years after losing him, God showed me something that I did not know and could never have dreamed. God showed me Michael in heaven and he was exactly 3 years old. I did not know that babies grew up in heaven and to this day I don’t quite understand all of this but all I know is, Michael was not a little glob of mass…he was a three-year-old boy and as adorable as could be! Michael knew me and in that instant I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he completely knew me, fully. Because I had asked Christ into my heart and submitted my life to him I will be in heaven one day and Michael and I will spend eternity together.
      I wanted to tell you that God does not kill our children but if evil takes them or the devastation of life, what God does do is give them His life and our hope to be eternally with them. One day, quite a few years ago, suddenly out of the clear blue I heard the Lord speak audibly to me and he said, “I will give back to you everything Satan has taken away.” – Cheryl

  12. Hi Laurie, I’m super psyched that I found your website. I don’t have alot if experience when it comes to relationships majorly because I run away from them. I like to be in control and being in a relationship takes that away from me and so I prefer to just be single until recently I met someone and I’m willing to give it shot to not turn on my heels and run but it’s so hard I don’t know what to do. We met at a concert held in my church in August. He’s a member of a popular gospel crew in my country and they came over to my church to perform at the concert. So basically everyone was trying to get pictures with them I wasn’t really interested in him but I went on to say hi anyway because my friend asked me to in fact he wasn’t even my first choice but the others were too busy so I settled for him we had a nice conversation I got his number but didn’t call him.

    He called me the next evening apparently he asked around and got my number. The following weeks we chatted every day on whatsapp and made video calls I still wasn’t sure how I felt about him. I was excited though it’d been a while since I was this interested in someone. I’m not sure I mentioned this but Unfortunately he lives in another city.

    Anyway I was in his town but couldn’t see him because I was only spending a night and my schedule was really tight plus he also has rehearsals, so in addition to being a part of the crew he’s also like the assistant administrator of the record label and he works closely with the owner.

    That night we had a long talk and he asked me if I’d like to consider being in a relationship with him and then I I said I’d think about it. And he told me to take all the time that I need that he was not going anywhere.

    The next day on my trip back home he was all I thought about he even took a minute from the rehearsal to check in on me but then things changed for me I went for being not sure about what I felt to wanting to talk to him all the time and things changed for him too. He wasn’t reaching out as much as he used to I asked why and he said he was busy

    But then I couldn’t handle it I was going crazy it felt like he was the center of my attention if he calls me I’d be pumped for the rest of the day if he didn’t it was going to be a bad day I knew that was wrong so I started reading devotionals about dating and made up my mind that it was unhealthy for him to displace God’s position in my life so I chatted him up and told him I needed some time to figure things out that I didn’t want to be in a relationship unless I have he thought I was joking or trying to test him or something but eventually he said OK that again I should take my time that he’d be there.

    But the thing is I don’t know when next we’re going to see each I can’t travel to see him until my exams are over and quite frankly I’d rather he comes over, so our communication is important to me. We don’t talk as often as we used to in fact last week we went three days without a single conversation. I know he’s busy but I hear it all the time that if he care he’ll make out time for me? Is he losing his interest in me or is he staying away because I asked for some time. I asked him but he says he’d rather not answer and I’m already sounding like a nag.

    I don’t know what to do should I just leave him alone, should I reach out to him knowing he’s busy and I’m less busy, to be honest I’m trying the best I can to not abandon things and run away but I’m really confused about what to do. I do like him alot and I have more control now it’s just I don’t know what to do. I can definitely go a week without talking to him I do have other things to do but I don’t know if that’s the right thing to do. I’ll be traveling out soon too so we’ll only see each other for a short period of time before I do and I don’t know when I’ll be back. I’m just scared I’ll lose him. But I’m also ready to face that if it’s inevitable. I just want to be sure I put in enough effort and made the right decision to either walk or stay.

  13. Hey Laurie,
    I ran into your blog while looking for somethings women go through and I’m so appreciative for a woman like you. Unfortunate circumstances and hardships have been blind siding me one after the other for the past 6 years. Even though I’ve also been blessed with other circumstances throughout the hardships. Things finally started settling down a couple of years ago where I can finally take a look at what was making it worse in my life than it had to be after coming out of a long deep depression. I’m still depressed more than half the time but do see light at the end of the tunnel at least. However, I want to say thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences of hardship, spiritual knowledge, strength, and hope!! I’d like to share more w you over time and look forward to taking the time to do that. Before I got married I set some goals to find a way to reach out and help other young single women to prevent them from falling into abusive realationships as a way of getting out of their childhood abusive homes. A way for them to find independence before falling into the trap of abusive cycles. Unfortunately, I fell into another trap before I knew it and need to find away to help myself first. Anyways, just a little about me without going too deep. God Bless You, Christi

    1. Thank you for being here, Christi – it’s great to hear from you. I love your idea of setting goals to help young single women take their time, and not rush into any relationship.

      I hope you signed up for my newsletter! Then, you’ll hear from me weekly and we can grow forward together 🙂


      With His love,

  14. Hi Laurie,

    I just stumbled upon your page while browsing through the internet and I absolutely love it! I am a follower of Christ and your website is so helpful. It is not overly spiritual or “preachy” but really gets to the heart of various relationship issues without excluding God. I just subscribed to your newsletter 🙂

    Thank you!

    1. Hello Lena,

      I hope you’re getting the newsletters, and that they’re helpful! Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.


  15. Hi Laurie,
    I paid for the book “How to let go of someone you love” and once I received confirmation, hit delete by accident and lost your email address. Anyway, I’m writing because I can’t find where to access the book, now that I purchased it. Can you please let me know if I will receive and email with the book to download or pdf.file? I really want to read it but not sure where to find it. Thank you

    1. Dear J,

      Thank you for your message; I emailed you the pdf ebook.

      May your heart heal, and may you move forward in acceptance, peace and joy. And remember to take good care of yourself – for you are worth taking good care of!


  16. Laurie,
    Why can’t you write about rescuing a relationship that is/has been through rough times?
    I lost my job in a huge industry downturn, got triplets in addition to the 2 Daughters we already had, and had to move to a country I couldn’t settle in after my partners breakdown. My Mother passed away 3m after my partner became distant and 2m after that she ended our relationship.
    She gave her reasons as my Anger Negativity and Stress, the fact she couldn’t get through to me and the combination of the two meant she couldn’t be herself.
    We tried counselling in 2 batches over the period of 16m with one counsellor (therapist?). We never fully probed the sheer depth of my partners feelings, never followed up properly on our things to do to revive our relationship, never raised our sex life, and although at the start of both batches we both said we wanted to stay together, it was the counsellor that was the one to say to my partner (5m before breakup) that the relationship was over.
    But we had 12 wonderful years together (my partner – oops ex partner) still has never raised a single issue regarding that period before life threw a few curved balls at us.
    To my mind the relationship was entirely/is possibly with the correct actions (mostly from me) recoverable.
    Why can you not write about a positive road to recovery as opposed to the gloom of inevitable and irretrievable loss?

    1. Thank you for your thoughts, Alan. And, thank you for sharing your story.

      It sounds like you and your partner (ex-partner) have been through so much together. And, you yourself have experienced the death of your mom, the loss of your job, and all sorts of life changes. I can’t imagine what it was like for you, to go through all that.

      To answer your question: I write to help people walk through loss. I feel called to help people accept and adapt to their situations, to grieve the past and move forward into a new season of life. This doesn’t mean I have no hope for difficult relationships. Indeed, I support the millions of marriage counselors, couples therapists, and relationship psychologists who are working to help people recover their love!

      I’m not called to save marriages. My purpose here is to help people cope with loss, and transition into new life.

      Take good care of yourself, Alan. You’ve been through a lot, and it takes time to process the grief. Give yourself time, and keep looking forward. Remember that looking forward can mean starting a whole new relationship with your partner and children! It just may be different than you expected.


    2. I have been widowed for 6 1/2 years. My “couple” friends have been supportive of me, but I’m very unhappy. I’m always the 3 or 5 wheel. I have not been on a date. A guy I knew confronted me about wanting to see me. I asked if he was still married. He said yes. I said let me think about it. That was 6 mos ago. We have had a lot of fun and 3 weeks ago he had surgery. Just before the surgery (last time I saw him) he said his wife asked him if he had a girlfriend, I haven’t seen him since. I did call his cell and left a message, but nothing. I’m sure it’s over!! I am so stupid…!! I knew I shouldn’t have gone along with him. But, I thought “I’m single, I won’t get hurt”. Now, I’m miserable, I can’t quit crying. I need a quick solution to get over him!!!

  17. Your blog appeared on my Facebook page as I am a widow and have been struggling living alone. I was stunned when I saw my book, This Is Not The Life I Ordered which you recommend. Thank you and even though I wrote a book about surviving and thriving, there are days (like today) that prove difficult.

    We are writing a second edition. If you are interested, I would love to interview you for possible inclusion in the second edition.

    Thanks for the wisdom!

    1. Thank you for your comments, Deborah, it’s great to hear from you! I loved your book, and have featured it on several blog posts 🙂 It’s one of my regular reads on my bookshelf, because it’s both inspiring and practical.

      I’m sorry you lost your husband. It really is hard to learn how to live along again, no matter how many books you’ve read, or even written, about surviving tough seasons. Head knowledge is one thing…and grief is a whole different beast.

      I’d love to be interviewed for possible inclusion in your second edition. My own book – Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back – will be published in January 2019. The manuscript is due in a month! In it, I share glimpses of my life after foster homes, a schizophrenic mother, infertility, an attempted rape in a home invasion, and a painful family estrangement. Nope. Definitely not the life I ordered 🙂

      Feel free to email me your questions, or proceed as you wish. I’ve emailed you directly.

      Again, my condolences. May you find hope and healing, joy and laughter as you move into a new season of your life. Hold on to the good parts, and move through the bad. Look upward, always!

      In peace and passion,

  18. I loved getting to know you via your written word, I would love to send you a short piece I just finished, I do not claim to be a writer, just a Caption Writer for an ad agency in NYC many years ago. I will be 89 in just 5 days and don’t feel a day over 88 !! I can laugh at myself for no reason–is that a problem ??
    I have written a very short story about a dream dictated to me by GOD. It is a Chick Flick my wife says and would make the basis for a good Hallmark film—I’d like to send it to you.
    Your New Friend In Sarasota Florida
    Rick Koenig Sr
    PS JR is 60 !!

    1. Thank you for being here, Rick! Great to hear from such an energetic, happy guy 🙂
      Have you signed up for my newsletter? That’s how you’ll get my email address, and you can send me your poem. Here’s the link:
      I don’t want to post my email address here, because of Spam. But once you sign up, you can email me directly.

  19. Its so great to find this website,I fell cold to my husband because I have cronic hurt feel because him,he is handsome,nice,atractive,not hard work,love our kids,very christian religeous,my husband n my kids go to church every Sunday n give some service,I only go to church when I feel not to tired,I have hard job,and hard working person,anyway Why I so icy to my husband because one lonely lady try reach my husband ,I dont know my husband cheating or not,but its already so many time since I known him 18 years ago,and now I m so tired,I just thinking,why I have to keep the man not have pkanning in my future family,he is funny,stylish,friendly,but I no need it,I need a mature man,wise,hard working,I feel better after read every story inyour website,I think I will ready to leave him step by step,thank you n Gbu.

  20. I’m going through a horrible relationship now. Only getting worse with the emotional abuse he does. His lies & still cheating bit lieing to me. I have caught him daily. The think is he brings kids in middle of it. The things he says to them trying to get them to hate me. It is working and he has his mom to help. I’ve prayed to God that if he don’t wanna change then helpe leave. Make my life hell so I know to get out or something. Well that is what’s happening now over a yr of hell but getting worse. Him & his mom has made sure I have no one or nothing. My ID gone! Along with birth certificate. Can’t order new one with out ID or notarized. In order to get that I need ID. My $15 he side jobs gone. They let me go cuz they didn’t want trouble. No I with kids dad cuz I have no one or no where to go. He verbally abuses me daily. While he’s at work bashing me & talking with female coworker he says is hot & sleep with. He asked her if he can be friends with benefits. That’s why I left. He needs help thinks he done no wrong playing dumb. To be honest I’ve pretty much lost faith in God. In blink of an eye everything gone. Even the ones who you thought knew better. It’s crazy to see how people believe what they hear when they know better. Not even coming to me reaching out to see if I’m ok or ask if the rumors are true. Even if they were true. No one held their arm out or even stood in the gap for me. Not even my kids which are my world. I’m always their for them. Been to everyeeting,school play, games ECT. Their father hate to say is was never their. I feel had cuz my kids had no father figure yet he was in home. I’ve had really bad aniexity,depression and so on latley. I’ve come across you and am looking forward to the encouraging words. Please pray for me. I need out and far away from his and of 20+ years. We have done the marriage counseling several times. Even with the number one councilor. Done with pastors also. Worldly and spiritually. Can’t help someone who don’t want the help. He is playing with my heart and I’m a wreck. Wendy

  21. Thank you for your lovely blogs. Truly wonderful! I too, like others, stumbled upon you blog, I cannot explain how I ended up here, therefore I can only attribute this to being a “God” thing. I am still shaking my head, amazed that discovered your website. As I write, I wipe away tears that have accumulated all day. It’s the last day of 2017. Next week will mark the second anniversary of my husband’s passing. It was sudden. I was 53 and he was 59. It has been a painful journey for my teenagers and myself. We have moved forward, but this time of year is particularly difficult. Thank you for your blog. It means so much.

  22. You are a Godsend to me today. I stumbled across your blog inadvertently. Yeah, God. I’ve been miserably bumbling along in a damaged relationship for the last 11 years ( infidelity). I’m 58 years old. I have no income. The only asset that I have is relying on the sale of our home. We have to divorce and I have no place to go. I’m a licensed RN but my confidence is shattered to go back to work because I had a brain tumor and I feel like I don’t think right anymore.

  23. Hi Laurie, I simply had to thank you for the wonderful work you do. I think the love you put out into this blog and your articles has helped a lot of people, including me. I came over from the “how to get over a married man and heal your heart” article and all the comments on it. Thank you for letting us talk through these issues and work our way up to be stronger healthier women.
    Best wishes and lots of love.

  24. Love your site and your posts! Came across you through an ad you posted from 2016, but it came up under a writing site search? Please know that you are a blessing to the Body of Christ. Let us know if we can help in any way if you still need social media assistance.
    We help with blogs, marketing ads, social media, SEO, etc., and personally, I’ve worked on about 10,000+ articles, descriptions, and blogs for our clients. God makes us a blessing to help others and He always makes the way. We just have to prepare our hearts to receive from Him so we can pour out to those in need as He positions us to be a blessing to others, i.e., the oil that runs and won’t run dry. The problem is we sometimes give up too soon because a test can be overwhelming, but the test builds our faith and the fire makes us, well, fire-proof! That bush that’s burning? When it’s not consumed? That’s nobody but Jesus! Glory to God!

    BTW, you can find us on Facebook at God-Driven-Designs or through our site, God-Driven-Designs.com. We help businesses and churches with their marketing and ministry products. Now more than ever, we pray encouraging words for those in need of comfort – that’s why it’s so important to stay encouraged, stand firm, and fight the good fight of faith. God’s got this!

    May God bless your ministry with angels and the support you need and take good care of those horses! Will keep your ministry in our prayers. Keep shining your light for God and may your ministry prosper in Him!


  25. Thanks for being here, Bertil, it’s great to hear from you! Yes, men are welcome to follow Blossom and sign up for the newsletter 🙂 I hope you stay in touch – -and that you get your essay published.

    It sounds like you have a great deal of interesting experience, and I’m sure your readers will be inspired and encouraged by your adventures. Let me know how your publication journey goes!


  26. Is this a website for ladies only, or am I, a man, allowed to take advantage of your information and enthusiasm? What a surprise it was for me to meet this very charming young Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen while I was searching for information on how much I should charge for my essay, 50 years in journalism. A soon 77 year old Swede with a military and intelligence service background, I live with my British wife Felicity on the northern coast of Cyprus. I became a journalist in 1967 and am now trying to remember what I have been doing since then. Like yourself I am a Christian believer. I am also trying to re-introduce chivalry.
    Your website is superbly informative and wonderfully cheerful. I wish you and your husband much further success and happiness.
    Bertil Wedin