You don’t need advice about your relationship, job, family life, or parenting skills. You already know what you really want and need to do…the problem is finding the motivation, courage, and strength to actually do it.
“The purpose of this book is to remind you of what you already know and to kick you in the shins and inspire you to do something about applying it,” writes Dale Carnegie in How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. (By the way – I actually have this 1948 edition of this book! It’s available on Amazon; I love the fact that it was published 60 years ago, and it’s still selling today).
That’s my new focus of She Blossoms: inspiring you to do what you already know, and what you really want to do. So, dear reader, use the comments section below to tell me what you really want to do with your life. Tell me what you already know, and what you’ve already tried. While you’re thinking about that, I’ll tell you what inspired me to do what I really wanted to do: write a book that highlights amazing Biblical women and offers practical life lessons for us today.
“I know I need to let go of it,” said a reader in response to Blossom Tips to Help You Stop Dwelling on the Past. “And I really want to be free of the guilt and shame I feel. But I can’t. My problem is that I don’t know how.”
She’s not alone. We’re drowning in oceans of information. And, there’s nothing new under the sun! All these billions of words being posted online — and published in print books, magazines, reports, newspapers, newsletters, news briefs — are rehashing all the same old stuff.
You know you need to ______________ (fill in the blank). In fact, you might really want to ___________ because you know you’d find peace, joy, happiness, and love.
But you can’t find the inspiration to do what you really want to do.
Here’s more wisdom from Dale Carnegie, who also wrote How to Make Friends and Influence People: Knowledge isn’t power until it is applied, and our problem is we don’t apply the knowledge we already have! We don’t need more information about building better relationships, getting a promotion, losing weight, or spending less time watching soul-sucking, mind-numbing tv shows. We just don’t know how to actually do it.
How to Find the Inspiration to Do What You Want
There isn’t one single tip for finding ways to be inspired. Rather, there’s a garden of wildflowers — fields and fields of Blossom Tips! — that will help you. But I can’t plant the whole Blossomy mess here. That’s what books are for.
But, I will share how I found inspiration…
Learn what it means to be “Inspired”
Okay, you need to find inspiration…but what does this actually mean? Inspiration isn’t a “kick in the shins”, like Dale Carnegie said in his book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. A kick in the shins would never help me write the book I really want to write or share my Blossy Girl in wacky poses. I don’t want a stern taskmaster or teacher hovering over me, forcing me to do what I really want to do. That’s not inspiration. That’s the army.
Inspiration is a “divine influence or action.”
Inspiration is also defined as “the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.”
Look up for inspiration to do what you really want
In How to Break Your Addiction to a Toxic Relationship, readers have commented literally hundreds of times about the “impossibility” of breaking up with a married man they love. They really want to move on with their lives and rebuild their own marriages, but they can’t. They haven’t found the inspiration to do what they really want to do for two reasons.
First, they can’t find inspiration because they’re spending their free time talking about what they don’t want to do. They more they write and think about this thing they say they don’t want to do, the more they do it. They’re putting their time and energy in the wrong place.
Second, they don’t feel inspired because they refuse to look for inspiration from the right source. Some of these married women say they’re Christian, they know God, and they believe in Jesus. Yet they’re cheating on their husbands with men who are married. They say they really want to rebuild their marriages, yet they keep coming back to the pit of despair.
(I really should shut that comments section down, shouldn’t I? But the readers keep saying how much they appreciate the support they’re getting from each other there…so I let it go. But I just don’t think it’s helping anyone).
Reflect on the truth about inspiration
Inspiration to do what you really want comes from God. There is no other long-lasting, true, valuable, good way to be inspired! His inspiration is divine — just like the dictionary definition said. “Divine” means coming from God.
God’s inspiration is holy, powerful, sacred, and everlasting. If you let Him, He’ll help you figure out what you really want to do with your life, job, relationships, and family. He’ll give you the desires of your heart!
But, the only way to discern the authentic, true desires of your heart is by developing a relationship with Jesus. The only way to be truly inspired to not only do what you really want to do but sustain it for the rest of your life is to surrender to God.
So, you tell me. What do you really want to do? What do you need to learn about inspiration and your relationship with God?
Read 6 Practical Ways to Find God’s Call on Your Life if you have no idea what you really want to do.
Stick with me, my friend. We’re entering a whole new world, here on She Blossoms. We’re done with the “how to” tips, and we’ll start sowing seeds of true, divine, holy inspiration. Yay! And amen.
Your thoughts are welcome below! I don't give advice, but you can get free relationship help from marriage coach Mort Fertel.