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Are you tired of beating yourself up, of wishing you were better, stronger, smarter or happier? It’s time to see yourself with fresh new eyes – and to Blossom into who God created you to be.
Here’s a little ditty that offers a new way to see yourself…
Martha is known for being practical and preoccupied with preparing the comforts of home and food for her houseguests. Her sister Mary sat learning at Jesus’ feet—unusual and even scandalous for women in those days. She opened her heart and absorbed every moment with Him.
These sisters chose to spend their time and energy differently because they had unique personalities, abilities, and gifts. They expressed their love for Jesus in different ways. The problem? Martha wanted Mary to care about the things she, Martha, cared about. For example, she wanted Mary to serve but didn’t ask for help. Perhaps she already knew the response: “I’ll be there soon,” or “Yes, the minute Jesus leaves.” Martha knew Mary wouldn’t—or couldn’t—change.
So, Martha approached the only person who could change Mary. “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself?” she said in Luke 10:40. “Tell her to help me!”
But Jesus didn’t tell Mary to be more like her sister. He didn’t urge her to conform to Martha’s or anyone else’s expectations. Instead, He accepted Mary for who she was.
“Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed, only one,” said Jesus. “Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Jesus also accepted Martha for who she was. He told her the truth and let her decide for herself. Jesus loved both Martha and Mary unconditionally. Not only does God give us the same gift of love and acceptance, He wants us to boldly Blossom into who He created us to be. God created us to flourish and thrive, and to help others do the same.
Scary, perhaps. But what command is repeated more than 365 times in the Bible? “Fear not.”
A New Way to See Yourself
Your traits, abilities, proclivities, and passions are important. The world needs you to be who you are. Whether you’re raising kids or running a factory, your presence and personality matter. Maybe you feel like an outsider at home or work because your quirks aren’t understood or appreciated. Maybe you’re different in big or little ways, and you feel pressured to conform. Maybe you don’t believe you have any gifts or talents at all.
Jesus knows you. He sees your eccentricities and foibles, and He loves you more because of them! They are what makes you you. He accepts your crooked smile and zany thoughts, your penchant for collecting ceramic chickens and cross-eyed clowns.
And He asks you to share your thoughts, ideas, plans, prayers, hopes, and dreams with us.
Sharing who you are is scary—I know. People won’t agree; they’ll say you should have done it differently. Your coworkers may raise their eyebrows, your husband may shake his head, and your neighbors may wonder if you’ve lost your marbles.
But you know what? The more of you share, the easier it gets (if you base your identity and self-worth on God, not people). The more you follow the Holy Spirit’s nudges, the simpler and more joyful your life will be (if you stay grounded in Jesus). The more often you meet God’s gaze, the stronger and calmer you’ll be (if you humbly bow before your Creator consistently and wholeheartedly throughout the day).
Jesus simply requires you to show up, speak out, and participate in ways only you can.
Start by discovering, accepting and loving the Holy Spirit for who He is—just like He accepts and loves you. God is sacred yet available, complex yet kind, mysterious yet loving. He has allowed a variety of experiences into your life: joy and pain, beauty and tragedy, sunshine and storms. Give Him the gift of surrender and faith by choosing to release your doubts, fears, and confusion.
Keep moving forward. Don’t look back. You will Blossom into who God created you to be—if you delight in who you are and release who you are not.
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” ~ Isaiah 43:19.
This article was inspired by Chapter 6 (Growing Roots With Mary and Martha) of my book Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back.
With His love,
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