How to Convince Someone to Give You a Second Chance

The bad news is that you broke up. Maybe this is even the second or third breakup. But wait, I have good news! Convincing someone to give you a second chance may be easier than you think. A surprising number of breakups aren’t permanent because it is really hard to let go of someone you love (which is good news when you want to convince your ex to come back to you!).

These seven tips will help you convince someone to give you a second chance. Even more importantly, they’ll help you see if your relationship is indeed worth revisiting.

These tips for reconciling with your ex are inspired by a reader’s comment.  “I would do anything to get her back, anything,” says Terry on 3 Ways to Cope With an “On Again Off Again” Relationship. “I screwed up our relationship, I made mistakes that I regret so bad. Now I wish I could go back to the way things were. What do I do? How do I get her back? I just need to convince her to give me a second chance. I know I can prove my love and commitment if we get back together. Advice?”

Here’s a spiritual perspective that may not convince someone to give you a second chance, but may help you cope with the breakup: have faith that everything happens for a reason. Maybe you’ll get back together with your ex, and maybe not…but the relationship and the breakup happened for a reason.

Maybe your ex – and the mistakes you made – was meant to prepare you for a future relationship. Maybe your past relationship is meant to help you grow, mature, and become a better person. Is it possible that you’re better off learning how to find peace after a breakup?

If you’re sure that you want to convince your ex to take you back, here are a few tips for convincing her to give you a second chance.

7 Tips for Convincing Someone to Give You a Second Chance

One of the most important tips for reconciling is to give your ex time and space to breathe. The more you call, text, email, and contact her, the more she’ll pull away. The trick is finding the balance between wooing her romantically and giving her time to miss you. It takes careful thought when you’re trying to figure out how to get your ex back.

While you’re giving her space to breathe, use the time to get emotionally and spiritually healthy. The healthier you are, the more attractive you will be – and the happier you’ll be! A happy, healthy person is difficult to walk away from. We gravitate towards people who are grounded, centered, and whole.

Asking someone to give you a second chance isn’t about manipulating or convincing them to take you back. It’s about learning from the experience and becoming a better person.

1. Apologize for your role in the relationship and breakup

Apologizing for your actions and attitudes is a simple, powerful way to make up with your ex. You’re both in pain, you both may feel defensive, scared and confused – but a sincere apology without excuses or rationales is the first step towards convincing someone to give you a second chance. Take it a step further by sharing what you actually learned from the breakup. Is your love stronger – and why? Are you more convinced than ever that you’re meant to be together? What do you regret about the breakup, and how can you use your newfound wisdom to convince your ex to take you back?

Here’s what I’d like to hear from my husband if we had an argument that led to a breakup: “I’m really, really sorry that I hurt you. I wish with all my heart that I didn’t do “X”, but I did. I can promise you it will never happen again because I learned __________ from that experience.”

2. Discuss the reason your relationship broke up

If you cheated on your ex by having an affair, your ex deserves answers. Share some details of how and why the affair happened – such as how it came about and why you know it’ll never happen again. Talk about ways you and your ex can ensure it doesn’t happen again. Pinpoint the reason for the breakup, and discuss ways to protect yourself from it happening again.

Don’t avoid the difficult discussions or painful moments. Do not brush her questions away, even if you feel painfully uncomfortable. One of the main things I hear from women is that men don’t want to talk about stuff. This tip for reconciling with your ex is one of the most important – and one of the most difficult. Be honest about how you feel and what you think. If you don’t know what to say, tell her that. If you don’t know how to convince her to give you a second chance, say so. Share what’s on your heart.

3. Change your lifestyle in obvious ways

Are you clear about why you broke up? If not, listen to what people are telling you. Were you working too much, spending too much money, or not around enough? After you figure out why you broke up, make changes in your life that solve that problem. For example: if you cheated on your ex, you can no longer do the things you did. Of course you can’t cheat again – but you also lost your freedom to go and do whatever you want. If you really want to convince your ex to give you a second chance, you have to accept new limits and boundaries. You can’t go out for drinks or dinner with women, or hide your computer or phone passwords from your wife or girlfriend. If you want to make up with your ex, your life has to be an open book..

How to Convince Someone to Give You a Second Chance
How to Convince Someone to Give You a Second Chance

You need to rebuild trust by being open to reasonable requests regarding boundaries and behavior. If you don’t know what this means, consider couples therapy or marriage counseling.

One of the biggest obstacles to getting back together with an ex is lack of communication. Sometimes, an ex simply doesn’t want to talk about the breakup or the relationship, and you’re forced to move on without further communication. If this describes your situation, you might find How to Heal Your Heart Without Relationship Closure helpful.

4. Talk about how your life is different now

How are your habits – and you yourself – different now? Share how your life, habits, and perspectives will be different after you make up with your ex. Ask your ex what changes she would like to see in your relationship.

When you’re trying to convince someone to take you back, talk about the changes you’ll both need to make. But, be very careful not to blame her for the relationship problems. If you want to save your relationship, you’ll both need to change in some way. You need to learn new ways to communicate and be together as a couple.

Make this part of your apology! When you’re figuring out how to convince someone to give you a second chance in a relationship, you have to be honest, real, and humble. Apologize for your part in the breakup; not only is saying “I’m sorry” good for your soul, research shows that apologies repair relationships and help to facilitate forgiveness.

5. Don’t just talk

Part of the reason it’s difficult to convince your ex to take you back is that talk is meaningless. You can talk until you have no words left, you can repeat yourself over and over, and you can write everything until you’ve used every letter of the alphabet a million times. It’s meaningless, useless – especially if you and your ex have had these problems before.

So, how do you convince your ex to take you back by going beyond talk? By going into counseling, reading books about relationships, and changing your habits to reflect your commitment to your ex. And, when you’re thinking about how to convince someone to give you a second chance, keep learning what she thinks about the breakup. Don’t assume you know why she’s mad or what you did wrong. Ask sincere questions about the breakup, and listen between the lines. Watch her face and body when she talks to you; look for nonverbal cues that show hurt, pain, or grief.

6. Listen carefully to your ex’s words

No matter how difficult it is, try to hear your ex’s thoughts and perspectives all the way to the end. Don’t try to convince her to think or feel a different way. Listen intently – without interrupting – until your ex has nothing else to say about you, your style of love, or your relationship. Put your feelings of guilt, remorse or pain aside. Your shame and regret shouldn’t be the focus of attention when you’re trying to save your relationship.

Convincing someone to give you a second chance is about setting aside your own viewpoint and trying to see your relationship from your ex’s perspective. A counselor would be able to help you work through your emotional issues so you can be open and honest with your ex.

7. Make a sweet gesture of love and reconciliation

how to convince someone to give you a second chance

Sending flowers is a cliche, but it’s a cliche for a reason. It works! Flowers are uplifting, beautiful, fresh sign of love and new beginnings. A fresh bouquet of sunflowers, roses or seasonal blossoms is a traditional way to say “I’m sorry” and ask someone you love for forgiveness.

One of the most traditional ways of convincing someone to get back together is flowers. A surprise bouquet of flowers at work or home is a romantic, thoughtful gesture. Flowers – and chocolate! – are classic ways to say sorry and convince someone to give you a chance to prove your love. An ex-boyfriend sent me flowers at work once, and I’ll never forget it. Flowers are inexpensive and easy, and will change how your ex sees you.

Building a better relationship doesn’t happen overnight, especially if a partner was betrayed physically or emotionally. Sometimes it takes weeks for wounds to heal; other times, they never do. Healing and reconnecting takes conscious effort – but it’s worth it if you really want to make up with your ex.

convince someone to give you a second chance

You might also consider reading When Sorry Isn’t Enough: Making Things Right with Those You Love by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas.

This book will teach you how to resolve conflict, soothe angry feelings, and offer apologies that are fully accepted. You’ll also learn how to rekindle love that has been dimmed by pain, and restore your relationship.

If you combine the information you learn in When Sorry Isn’t Enough with a beautiful bouquet of “please give me a second chance” flowers, you have a better chance of convincing someone to give you a second chance in a relationship.

What do you think – will you try to convince your ex to give you a second chance? Your comments are welcome below! I don’t give advice, but you may find it helpful to share your story. You may even list the pros and cons of getting back together. It may seem like a good idea…but some ideas are best left alone.

If you want to get back with your ex because you don’t want to be alone, read What if You Never Find Your Soulmate?


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57 thoughts on “How to Convince Someone to Give You a Second Chance”

  1. My ex is my daughters father. We didn’t get a fair chance the first time around. He hangs out a lot and acts almost as if he needs me. Over the last few months I am continuously catching him staring at me. Smiling at me. Giving me looks and trying to get physically close. We have talked a lot too. I brought up the possibility of us giving each other a second chance. He is now looking for a girlfriend to “help him heal from the last girl he was in love with!” Why do I not rate a second chance?

  2. I have proposed to a girl 3 years back but she rejected
    From then i didnt leave hope n loving n i didnt speak with her from 3 years without visiting because far distance
    N she blocked my fb account i thought it was block but it was nt actually block
    After three years i texted her n now she started a small conversation by saying let be frnds
    Can anyone say me solution to nt to miss her in life

  3. Hey I stumbled upon this article on searching ways to to convince my ex boyfriend to give me a second chance. We broke up about a week ago and it still feels like it was just yesterday. He said that things didn’t feel the same anymore… that was a punch to the chest! We were doing a long distance thing plus he has conflicting situations in life with his family and job. I may be at a desperate stage now but i wanna make things right & get back to that place where we once were.. where we laughed more than argued🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m gonna take these steps and give him that space. Because my excessive texting & calling only makes him pull away even more than he already has.. the thing is i feel as though i am running out of time since this is winter break & i will only be in town for a month.. I’ll only be a hour away now since I transferred somewhere closer… I don’t knoe how times i should give him or if i should just wait until he comes around..

  4. Hi,
    Me and my ex-girlfriend are broken up now for a month and a half now.. She has 2 children and can’t have anymore – And we addressed the issue from day 1 and never bothered me that she could not give me children of her own as I truly made her children my own.
    Her reason why she broke up with me was that she is going through a lot of stress at work and is taking it out on me (after a month’s rudeness from her I addressed it and the next day she broke up with me). But recently we spoke and the real reason she actually broke it off was because she asked me (a month before she started to get rude) to move in with her and I told her I think it is too soon and don’t want to rush things. So she assumed that I wasn’t committed in the relationship and so she retracted emotionally. I did notice it but assumed it was work stress and also I also retracted a bit emotionally..
    I honestly didn’t want to rush things because I was **** scared of losing her and the kids & I have never lived with a girlfriend before.. In my past relationships I rushed things and overly committed myself and that usually was the cause of the breakup…
    I explained all of this to her but she is still cold and doesn’t want to get back together.. I know that communication was our main fault in this..
    So, I really want her back and I have tried all I could to show her that I am committed towards her and the kids. She is appreciative of me helping out with the kids and wants me to be part of their lives (even when she broke it off) although we are just friends now..
    I have done some very special things last week for her and the kids, so now I decided to give her space to think about me..
    Am I doing the right thing to do NC until she contacts me? (Thought of giving her time to think and miss me)
    What should I do?
    Please help, I would marry her tomorrow! (I have gone through all the emotional stages of the breakup, I know I want them back).

    1. I have sent her this e-mail.

      Hi Katie,

      This letter won’t fix what’s broken between us, and maybe it never will.
      This letter is a sincere apology for my part that lead to our breakup.

      I know I made some big mistakes during our relationship, and I wanted to take full responsibility for those in this letter.

      I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will. That part has never changed. The part that’s changed is that I realize how stupidly blind I was and I was actually the one letting you go..

      I only realized now that asking me to move in with you guys shows how completely committed you were towards me.
      Thank you that you were and I am SO sorry that I broke that trust, I feel horrible.
      Understanding your circumstances and what you have been through in the past makes me now completely understand why you withdrew, I would to.
      My lack of trust had created the wall that is now around your heart. I hope each and every brick will be broken by true love.
      I should have been more attentive, grateful and communicated my concerns rather than just being afraid of losing you.

      I should have known that things have changed between us due to me rejecting your offer. I was blind and thought it was stress. Not an excuse.
      I slacked and got into a comfort zone, not even noticing your cry out to me to show my commitment towards you and the kids. I was completely blind. I have no excuses.

      I have realized and learned so much from our breakup.
      I have made a commitment to myself to never hold back.
      The past isn’t there to harden our hearts but to learn how to love more & wiser.

      The biggest mistake I made was losing you.
      I don’t expect anything from you, I just want you to know that.

      I can’t deny that I still have strong feelings for you, and there always will be.

      I realised that I’d much rather be friends with you than completely losing you and the babies.
      I don’t want you to think that me being part of your and the babies lives is just to try to win your love back for me.
      I love them unconditionally.


      Thank you for opening my eyes to my faults, there truly is permanent lessons learned in difficult times.


      So glad we can be friends.

      1. her reply:

        “I did see your email. Thanks! I have just not had the time or head space to respond yet 😔 I’m sorry about that!
        Thank you for your heart felt words. I really so appreciate it and I appreciate that you understand my heart. I’m really sorry about everything but I glad that we can both grow from this experience. I appreciate your wanting to be friends and to be a part of the kids lives. I will never keep them from you.”

        I guess that means I should move on with my life… And I will.

  5. Hello! I stumbled upon this post while searching for ways to convince my husband to give me a chance. I messed up really bad, I took him for granted and been a really neat to him in the past months and all finished in a huge fight, during which I told him really bad words and told him to leave the house and threw things athim etc. I didn’t mean any of these things and it took the consequences of this big fight for me to realize how bad of a wife I was. I’ve put in my mind to change, to become happy and healthy, a great person my husband would love to be around to again… But I feel that I’m running out of time. He is still living with us (me and our baby), but keeps saying that he doesn’t feel at home here anymore, that it saddens him to come here every day after work and that he doesn’t know how long he will be able to keep it like this. He asked a few times for divorce and he keeps saying, loud and clear, that he doesn’t see as his wife anymore and that we can’t be together ever again. In the light of my new discoveries about how I was and how I can become, this situation is so heavy on my heart. I have apologized many times, we have discussed a few times, he started to communicate again and be gentle in speaking (not that furious anymore…), and we are growing warm towards each other, maybe even start a small flirt, and minutes after he’s shaking himself off these feelings and goes back to ground zero and stonewalling. I know that he is disappointed and scared that I will never change and, if we get back together, we will just fight, worse and worse.

    I don’t know, at this moment, how I can get him to see the change, to see that I can make him happy again. Will it work, if he will just see me around, maybe get to miss me and our moments, if he will feel positive energy coming from me? Does anyone else see that we can still have a chance? Is there any hope that I can convince him to give me a chance? I went to sleep last night with a little bit of hope, but I don’t need to go over my heard and fantasize, because he also said that he will never give me a chance and that I should stop trying, because I will just end up hating him for not answering.

    He also says that he is still in love with me and I can see it in him. I know that he is stonewalling me as a defense to not break his heart again. This situation has been like this for almost 3 weeks. I know that maybe even more time should pass..

    All I am asking is…can I hope? Is there anything that I can really do, to get things warm up inside him? I went to speak with a counselor and she suggested to become the woman he fell in love with (happy, full of joy and life) and even to try seducing him. I’ve tried to be positive around him, to smile more.often, make jokes and be a little but flirtatious. I don’t want to push things, because, although I see in his eyes that he still wants me, be he always runs away from me and doesn’t allow me to touch him not even on his hand.

    Any advices for me? Does anyone think that there is still hope to win him back? Do you think that a happy, healthy wife, the joy of our child, the positive energies I’m trying to bring in our home will make him reconsider? How can I make him feel home at home, again? I am always cooking, doing laundry, the house is clean, I am a baker so there’s always dessert…so what would work to give him this feeling again? I’d do anything, at this point, to prove him how much I need to change (and that I started to do so) and how much I need him around me, to see this and enjoy the new me! He’s saying that I should do the changes for me and for our daughter, to not think about him anymore, that everything is lost between us.

    Is there any chance? Is there anything that I could do? Thank you so much!

  6. I sent my ex a message to say I’m truely sorry for everything I did to make her unhappy (took her for granted and didnt give her the attention she deserved) I also told her how I was able to change and reinforced that it was a positive change that I’ll keep till the day I die) and I also thanked her coz I it wasn’t for her I’d never change. I received a reply saying glad ur moving on in a positive way. So that means she doesn’t accept the apology and doesn’t wana get back together when all I wish is that I can show her the affection and commitment she was lacking from me. I have such a special place in my heart for her and i would always treat her like a princess but she won’t allow herself to see it. I want to get her to agree to meet up with me so I can show her what iv become and to ask for a 2nd chance coz we both felt we had the perfect relationship till communication shortfalls crept up. I just dono what to do

  7. Is your boyfriend willing to give you a second chance, or does he want to move on with his life? If he wants to move on, then you need to let him go. Don’t hang on to a relationship that doesn’t exist anymore. You’ll find yourself desperate and begging your boyfriend for another chance, and you’ll hate yourself.

    If your boyfriend wants to give you a second chance to start fresh, he knows how to contact you. Give him a chance to miss you, and don’t push him to make a decision about your relationship. He’ll just feel pressured, and he’ll withdraw even more.

    Let him go. Find ways to heal your heart and soul, and create a new identity for yourself. Don’t chase after something that isn’t yours.

    You can do this. You can find strength and peace in God, if you only look upwards for healing and power, instead of backwards at the past.

  8. I left a couple of months to go to Texas because my life wasn’t going well and my bf said we should break up because he can’t stand long distance relationships. so I accepted it and when I came back and I was kind of forced to stay here, we both still have feelings for each other and he told me he met someone. but here he is telling me how he loves me and missed me. I told him how I’ll never do it again. I didn’t tell anyone I left. especially my parents. I ran away to be with a friend and start fresh there. please help. He said he is doing wrong in leaving this girl buy I told him we had more good memoris together and we go to the same school, went to movies, each other’s houses, etc. I did my best and cried while telling him how sorry I am. I’ll never in my life leave him like that. Pease help me.

  9. My boyfriend of 2.5 yrs broke up with me out of the blue two days ago. We are both 27 years old, have both been in long term relationships before, and we thought very carefully about being together. Our relationship and our friendship is amazing, we he a connection like I never imagined possible. Only three weeks ago he was talking about having children together and our future.
    He has recently been through multiple stressful situations, to the point where he began to become depressed and was prescribed some medication. That was a few months ago. When I spoke to him on the phone two nights ago, he seemed sad, distant, and depressed. He said he is just living day to day, doesn’t want to see his friends, and doesn’t know how to feel about anything any more.
    I realise that I do take some responsibility in the break up, and I have apologised for the things I did, and I have begun counselling to get myself better.
    I am completely devastated by him saying we should just be friends. I am so scared that I will never get him back. He says that he still loves me and he will forever, which is why I am wondering if his medication or depression is to blame. A doctor prescribed him some meds (and gave him the wrong dosage) and neglected to follow up with him to see how he was doing.
    I desperately want to help, but he has asked for space, and I have no idea what to do….

  10. For a person to get a second chance, you must give the person space after you realize they no longer want to be bothered with you, give them 3-7 days, then you must find a way to get a face to face, because if she had real feelings for you there is still something left after 7 days, plus seeing you in person has a different effect on her, she’s still angry but seeing you makes her realize she miss you, pick a topic she will respond to, once she start talking listen look her straight in the eye the hold time, after she finish then u apologize short and brief, tell her you don”t know what you did to turn her off, but whatever is was your sorry, then say i miss you, and i believe you miss me, i just want to get back with my friend, remener you were friends before anything else..

    1. I like what was said here, and you’re right.I made mistakes with the guy I really enjoy being with and haven’t talked to him in 3 weeks. I want to talk to him and really made changes to make things right with him, I want a second chance to prove to him we are good for each other and I can make him happy. Any advice how to talk to him?We live in the same apt complex but I’m not sure what to do.Help please.

  11. Dear Waleed,

    You’re Christian, so you have an invaluable and vast source of wisdom and guidance at your disposal! Take a deep breath, and turn your heart to God. Spend time in prayers of gratitude for the beauty of relationships and for second chances that do sometimes come our way.

    And ask Him if you and your ex-girlfriend should get back together. Really listen to what the spirit tells you, for there are answers there.

    What is your impression of how to approach your girl? Do you think this relationship is still alive in some way, or do you need to let it go?

  12. I met my girl at dunkin donuts October 11th and we started dating on the 26th didn’t even know each other moved in and things fell we argued a lot because we worked together and only been a month and now we’ve broken up and i miss her deeply she and i are Christian and she dont have feelings or likes me anymore how can i win her back? Or give me another chance?

  13. Is convincing someone to give you a second chance a good idea? Take a week and really give it some thought. Listen. Pray. Ask for guidance, listen to the still small voice. Don’t rush back into a relationship that doesn’t make sense, just because you miss having a warm body beside you at night.

  14. Hi Laurie, Read lots of your great articles. Some more than once. Very helpful I am just past 3 months of getting over the ex who drank too much, then in the end after saying he was going to change, for himself, was a long time coming, etc. I listened and encouraged. He did not quit and cont. to get drunk on several occasions where I was present, maybe other nights when he did not see me. I was going to walk away after he told me one night when we were on vacation and he drank too much, and was in his own little world. When I asked him why he could not stop, he yelled at me and said “I am not going to change!” and said how am I bothering you? I did not answer not wanting to argue. Next day he said he has been changing and did not drink for a month (a month back) A couple weeks alter I was going to talk to him and say which is it, can you change or don’t want to? If want to keep drinking to his and our detriment then I could not cont. Was a busy week then I tried to suggest he talk to someone for support. Three days later he broke up with me. I know I got my answer but left me feeling rejected.
    Anyway, read lots of your stuff and purchased the e-book How to Let Go of Someone You Love. Read it then lost it. Or could have been the 75 things e-book. Anyway, I did not save it or know how to. Can you help me with that? Thanks for everything. Please right more on alcoholics, the different types (my guy did not drink in the day, only wine, but would not stop if the wine was flowing with friends or family). I did not see the extent of the problem as I did no grow up around drinkers, not have friends who are heavy drinkers, etc. Should have asked him earlier on what his drinking habits were, not just say I did not like it and expect him to stop. Think he hid when he was drinking in the evg. at home as often did not answer phone. Make excuse cell was in the car. Sending love and appreciation to you!

  15. My ex and i were dating for about a year and a half everything was perfect for about 4 months then i ended up getting pregnant, we’re both extremely excited about our daughter and things were good my first trimester. Then we started arguing about everything and i do mean everything, I found out he’s been lying about some things but we talked about it and i forgave him but the arguments still didn’t stop because he kinda lost my trust. Well I’m 7 months pregnant and he decided that he wants to end the relationship so he can party and hang with his friends, i am completely in love with him i feel like he is the one and i don’t want to let him go. I can’t do the no contact thing because we actually live together we bought a house together we were gonna get married we had our whole future planned and everything is ruined what should i do i really want us to get back together I’m completely miserable please any advice helps, I want to convince him to give me a second chance…

  16. Well here goes…. I fell in love with this man and he said he lived me too. We have been friends, couple, engaged, separated, back together, and kind of back thru a few times. I have been in some bad relationships and due to this I have had to take care of everything cuz of the other’s laziness, so this has led me to just do what needs done without asking for help. I asked God many times for a man that would love me and let me just be a woman and not have to take care of the house, yard, cars,etc.
    Well God did,I fell in love with him, but when he didn’t turn lazy, or treat me like total dirt, I unknowingly was trying to make him into that type. That is when all the arguments would start, mean vicious things would be said, other people got involved, and I never wanted to hurt him. I felt so guilty for hurting him, and nothing I did to try and stop worked, I hate fighting, and I couldn’t bear to see him hurt all the time. I left. This happened twice. We got back together after the second time and I misunderstood and didn’t communicate with him well enough and I got an apartment so we could have space while we took it slow. He took it that I left again. We have communicated since. He has said he loves me still. He says I still have a chance but I have to give him time to get over what has happened over the past year. I love him still. I have no interest in dating, or any thing like. I see him quite often as we live very close. He says the same about dating and looking for a woman. I know if he would come to me right now and ask me to try again, “yes”. And from him proposing before it would still be the same answer. He tells me to not push the issue of trying again. I try not to. I am so afraid ‘I am way too late, and a whole paycheck to short.’

  17. I broke up with my boyfriend and really feel bad about it. I really regret it and only wanted him back. I didnt cheat. We just had trust issues and mostly heated our arguements. I didnt intend to break up with him, it was just sort of anger or remorse that made me decide to break up with him in an instant. I tried calling him but he never respond. I tried texting him over over but he responded in a very negative way. We never discuss it in person. So bad he left the town and Im so hurt that we didnt even talk face to face. I really wanted him back in my life. What should I do?

  18. I’ve been dating a guy for over a month now. He lives1hr and 45 min from me. I really love him a lot. I accidentally said something where he thought I meant I wanted to break up. So now he just wants to break up because he thinks I complain to much. Which all I’m trying to do is see him. Because I’m trying to make plans To Hang so we can see each other to like talk about making this stronger. He always says will you stop I’m always busy. But no matter what I want this to work! But he said he was done putting up with my BS. I don’t want to lose him. I will change to make this work. What do I say to make him believe I will change ?

  19. Which of the seven tips in this article have you already tried? Before you start thinking about how to convince someone to give you a second chance, you need to consider what hasn’t worked in the past.

    Also, why did the breakup happen? Whatever you do to convince him to give you a second chance has to take the reason for your breakup into account.

  20. I have been in a relationship for a year now. and my boyfriend n i had an issue n i disrespected him. so he said he was going to post my nude pictures on the internet,so i took his hard drive to my house. i returned it the next day. now he says he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. what should i do?

  21. I have dated this girl for eight yrs. Nw she gave up cz she’s always hurt by the more girls that have a heart for me. We are apart nw. How do I get her back.

  22. Me and my girlfriend just broke up a week ago, this hit me as a complete blindside since i thought our relationship was unbreakable.. We have only been dating for about a year but the chemistry we had with each other was amazing, physical and mental. So my story is she broke up with me because she was so sick of hearing about my ex from friends, family and constantly seeing her around. I never saw how much it bothered her but after we broke up it woke me up, i was so self centered and took her for granted, she was the best thing that happened to me.. I have made all the changes in my life to never hear from my old ex girlfriend and really took the appropriate measures i just hope she will give me a second chance but im afraid im to late 🙁

  23. Dear Sincere People,

    My virgo girl had recently broke up with me for two months ago. We been dating nearly less than a year. She had breakout with me twice and we back together after I a couple trip which I arranged earlier on. We both knew each other from colleague to become friend> close friend> couple> now back to stranger again. In this break up period of two months we are still contact each other few times a week which is the conversation is related to her rented room which need to be rent out during her semester break. Both of us had last met up in Sydney 2 weeks ago to have our last two friends trip since it is already been arranged before she broke up with me 2nd time. The things started to happened on the first day when reach Sydney and that night I accidentally saw a conversation in the phone that I had borrowed her. She had a cybersex texting by sending her photos and short video to the stranger that she barely know.

    Summary: We both make mistake but no matter how serious our mistake were, one thing I could not lose is to be able to be her friend again (Which I think it is not possible). I would like to hear all of your advice how should I able to get her back as best friend and regain her trust to me as best friend again? I thinking to send her a flower with Forgiving Note but then will this make the things worst? I regretted screwed up the last trip by telling her cheated on me and the photos. I just wish this can help her to understand and never do this again. Thank you for all your time to read this and hope to hear from you guys soon.

    Scorpio Guy who still care for her Ex

  24. I been dating this guy for 3 months and then we had the talk since he wasn’t really talking to me and I always had to make plans with him and stuff so it made me feel like I was just a friend to him. I was crying and a complete mess we both never actually said we were over for good! But we had a long hug and went our seperate ways a week later I texted him maybe once your live starts to calm down a bit we can try us again? And he said I mean i think it’s worth another shot I just don’t know exactly when that will be so I said it’s ok and I know so I gave him space for a month and I texted him hey and we ended up getting deep into details and he said that it really hurt that we broke up and he didn’t want too and he things that we aren’t worth another shot since we will just break up again you should be with someone you work better with. But I get people change there mind I hope the best for you! And I got no response from that either 🙁 so I haven’t spoken to him since then I don’t know what to do I really want him back but I don’t know if I should give him a second chance. Feel like I’m just gonna make it worse if I keep texting him. Especially since he won’t respond to them as of now. If you have any thoughts on what I can do please let me know!!! After all he was my first and I really want him to be my last!!

  25. I have been talking to the guy about 5 months,a couple of weeks ago he told me he was done and completely ignore me,like any other human being I got drunk and had a one night stand,then on Monday morning he called and apologized of course I had to tell him what happened,I did,now he’s asking why I should be given a second chance,he’s been hurt in the past,and wants me to tell him why I should be worth the chance,what should I say?

    1. If you think that “like anyone else, I got drunk and had a one night stand” then to be honest, there is no reason he should take you back. You’re wrong, and that’s unacceptable. Until you understand that I wouldn’t bother.

  26. Me n mine stared as friends we got along very well n i was very sweet to her for about a year n a half n during that time she always brought up the relationship n turned it down said she was scared to have her heart broke,so i ended up in jail before thanksgiving n she was their for me the whole 90 days i got out n about a mounth after that she decied she wanted the relationship we started off good start n little issues came up she would break up with me get back together n break up this is the second serious break up i have beged pletted and sent her a promise ring she called n said she realy apprciated the ring but could not accept it she never droped the ring off or my apt keys its been a mounth that we been broke up know im in no contact mode its been 13 days any addvice n my drinking kinda of caused it both times n ive solbered up i love her her kids talk to me all the time n when she sees me she will stop and look at me

    1. Hey bro I been there done that don’t plea or beg just go on and live your life do what’s best for you think about what keeps on causing those break ups think about your old habits of doing things and changing them for the better not for her but for yourself the only way you can get her back if you make a change of your bad habits go workout do something new that will inspire her to see that you have potential in life just be confident and as for right now just work on yourself and live your life sometimes it’s them but they don’t know it but for a girl who been there for you during jail time she loves you so don’t show her your weakness just man up and live your life for now make a change that’s it no need to change for who you are but change those bad habits add some positive things in your life like I said hit up the gym look good be confident and you’ll be good to go if she doesn’t come around anymore it’s ok there is always plenty of tacos out in this world bro keep ya head up and live it up one life to live

      1. Hey pong shes kinda coming around, i work at an apartment complex she lives here too any way about a week ago she came up to the office,, when she was walking out i said good morning sweetheart she just walked away so after i picked my grounds up i went into the office to check my service orders n the accountant said your ex was here she reqested for ou and told her to use my key that she trusted me ib her apt without her being there i was shocked so i texted her n when i got there she was there weve kinda been talking n ive told her i quite drinking,, guess time will tell so do you think shes done with me?

        1. Hey bro that’s a good sign my brother you still got a chance but my advise is to not hope for it to come let things unfold naturally play your cards smoothly show her you did change by not telling her but show it within your actions just be nice and live your life normal on a daily basis I cannot say she will want you back but for now be a good friend towards her in a way but for now that’s a good sign trust is the main key in a relationship to be given A key is a very good start of trusting so like I said play it smoothly don’t go back to those bad habits bro at the end you will never know good things might happen and if u do get her back don’t ruin it again good luck bro

  27. My ex says that he doesn’t believe in second chances and even though he misses me he doesn’t want to get back together. What should I do?

    1. My ex is the same but we still both love each other so while there’s no hope in his eyes of a second chance I’m trying everything I can to show him I will change. I haven’t cheated on him. It’s just the arguing he is over. I believe if I show him how much we are still good together he may come round and give me another go.

  28. I see this article is old, but I have to try. My gf recently told me she needed a break. That’s fine, but I still asked why. At first, it was that I smoke to much, never wrote her a love letter and that she didn’t feel I loved her anymore. During the same conversation, she said that she didn’t feel the same now as when we started. She said she doesn’t see us working out in the long run and that we would be better off as friends. I have no idea what to do about this.

    1. Make a change within yourself go workout do something new stop the old habits of you really love yourself then it’s possible you can change your ways in order to love someone else and if you really want her back not as a friend but it’s time to step it up and show her your alpha side hit up the gym look good and I guarantee you’ll she’ll start noticing you again and build that interest again

  29. I been single for 2 years. I met a guy I really care about. We dated for a few weeks and upfront I told him I had one problem and that’s when I drink and go out I could wild out. So I stopped going out. My gf had boyfriend issues and wanted to go out. Me wanting to be there for my friend I went out. The spot was at an event the guy I was dating was having. When I pulled up I begged my gf whatever happens please don’t let me drink to much. Please let’s leave the club if you see me over my limit. I never go out with people that can’t watch over me. Well that didn’t happen she let me drink and drink and I got drunk and wilded out. Even thou I’m grown I knew better but also I accept knowing I have a problem. So I embarrassed and hurt the guy I care about by being all over guys laughing and having fun. I was very much out of control. Outside of that one problem I’m a loyal and good hearted person. I never want to see anyone hurt and I love to see others happy.
    Well I sent flowers, teddy bear etc all over to his house to show I’m sorry but he never wants to speak to me again. I’m taking this as a learning experience because hurting someone with my actions I never want to do again. He’s hurt mostly because his friends were there. I completely understand. No one is perfect but I wish he could see past that mistake and see me for the person I am.
    Do guys ever forgive and give a person a second chance.

    1. Make a change within yourself and stop drinking do it for yourself maybe he’ll come back around either way stop the old habits

    2. i hear you i feel the same thing toward people i like to see them happy just never felt what they feel it’s just painful not to have someone to care back i lost many feelings yet hatred didn’t get inside my heart i never dated someone because i might not be worth to be loved i hope you find happiness in your life and i wish i lose mine

    1. You convince or tell someone to fall back for someone they don’t want to be with just leave it alone everything is built by natural feelings if she or he wants them back they’ll make the effort if not let it be plus it’s not your choice it’s his or her so leave it alone from there

  30. My ex boyfriend broke up with me coz of something he heard from someone i dont know who. He said ive been seeing other guys and that is not true. He believed on other people rather than me. How can i convince him that its not true and how do i make him come back to me.

    1. My suggestion is to let him know that you weren’t talking or seeing anybody behind his back if it’s true let him know and leave it from there just give him time and space and just go on living your life and leave him alone for now a few weeks

  31. I’m trying to get my ex boyfriend back I really really love him and I’ve tried to nc rule but he only gets angry and wants nothing to do with me we have a lot of history together and I miss him more than anything and I feel that I’m completely in love with him I have begged yes and I guess I am being obsessive but how can I get him back without doing the nc rule

    1. Coming from a guy’s perspective I been through that phase with my ex gf what you have to do now is let it be go silent for a month or so give him space and time let things balance off before then it’s up to him to contact u first within a month or you can reach out to him then with a greeting but for now work on yourself and live your life analyze what went wrong and just let things be for now don’t beg or plead trust me it dosent work it just pushes him further away so relax just redefine yourself for now just don’t think about him ok keep your chin high and just try to be happy even though it’s tough on your part but when he notice you’re living it up he’ll come back around and then the power is in your hands it’s either take him back or forget about him there is always plenty of male fishes in the sea

    2. No matter how hard you try begging pleading it just pushes the person away so don’t do that I wouldn’t like my ex gf doing that to me it’ll just push me so far I’ll cut her off completely so just relax and live your own life for now don’t even contact him at all for now if he calls or texts you don’t pick up or reply back play hard to get a little that will put him into curiosity mode and wi attract him more knowing that your not needy and desperate so keep your cool and be positive and leave him alone for now if it’s meant to be he will contact u ok but for now work on yourself good luck

      1. Give him a month even when he contacts you don’t respond within that nc period 21 to 30 days ok if he does contact you respond back in two days or so but keep things short let him know your worth something not just a toy to play with and throw away

  32. I want to convince my ex to come back she really means something to me and I never felt this way about anyway about any other girl that I dated

    1. Give her space and time let her reach out to you my brother I’m in the same stage but I actually pushed her away far by begging and pleading and talking crap about the guy she is seeing so don’t do that keep yourself busy and leave her alone for now nc is the way to go give her 21 to 30 days until then reach out to her

    2. If it’s meant to be she will come back just give her space and time like 21 days or so if she dosent contact you you can try to reach out to her but don’t plead or beg just try to act like a friend first and be nice don’t talk about the relationship unless she does first ok good luck

  33. Dear Ashenafi,

    I hope you are able to convince your husband to save your marriage, but I encourage you to be open to whatever God wills! Sometimes we can’t convince people to do what we want, no matter how hard we try and how important we think it is.

    I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, that you are open to accepting life and the future even if the reconciliation with your husband does not happen.


  34. Dear Laurie,
    I really appreciate all the tips mentioned. I am in the middle of marriage crisis. I will use as appropriate to end the crisis.
    Because of the crisis, I am confused & frustrated. I hope the tips help me to solve the problems.