- What Is the Best Breakup Music?
Find the right music – the breakup song that touches your heart and soul – and you will feel comforted, consoled, and less alone. Here’s a list of my best songs for breaking up and letting go of someone you love. I included a variety of music: angry breakup songs, soft rock ballads, soothing jazz,… Read More »What Is the Best Breakup Music?
- How Does an Innocent Friendship Turn Into an Emotional Affair?
When an innocent friendship causes problems in a marriage or love relationship, it is emotional cheating. The “betrayer” may not even be aware that he or she is having an emotional affair – especially if it’s an innocent work or community-based relationship. But the heart has reasons, plans and paths that reason cannot know. Here’s… Read More »How Does an Innocent Friendship Turn Into an Emotional Affair?
- When You Live With a Moody Husband – Loving What Is
If your husband’s mood swings are unpredictable and confusing, you might not know how to talk to him. You feel judged and criticized; maybe you’re starting to lose yourself in your marriage. How do you live a happy life when you’re married to a moody man? Here’s what on reader said about her anxious husband…… Read More »When You Live With a Moody Husband – Loving What Is
- 6 Reasons Men Hurt the Women They Love
Why does love hurt? This isn’t just a question of the heart. Why do some men physically, emotionally and even spiritually hurt the women they love? These six reasons some men harm or even abuse women in relationships may help you see your own boyfriend more clearly. I wrote this article for a woman who… Read More »6 Reasons Men Hurt the Women They Love
- How Do You Find Love When You Have Ulcerative Colitis?
Finding the right man – and getting intimate – feels impossible for women who have an inflammatory bowel disease (IBD). I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis a few years before my husband and I married. Now, 15 years later, I understand how a woman with IBD can have loving relationship with a man. I’m not a… Read More »How Do You Find Love When You Have Ulcerative Colitis?
- 5 Ways to Stop Feeling Alone in Your Marriage
The worst type of loneliness is being married but feeling lonelier than when you were single. How do you cope with emotional disconnection in your marriage? Is it possible to reconnect with your husband and rebuild your relationship? Last week my husband and I went to a couples therapy group session. A marriage counselor counseled a… Read More »5 Ways to Stop Feeling Alone in Your Marriage
- How to Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship
You have good reasons for feeling anxious, especially when life is difficult and unpredictable! Maybe you’re worried about your health, family, money, job, or future. You might even be having anxiety attacks for no reason at all – which is even scarier than having good reasons to be anxious! How do you stop anxiety from… Read More »How to Stop Anxiety From Ruining Your Relationship
- When You Can’t Forgive Your Mom – But You Want to
Your mother doesn’t have to change – or ask for forgiveness – in order for you to be happy. Forgiving your mom for hurting you isn’t a gift for her…it’s for you. With forgiveness comes healing, freedom, and peace. Learning how to forgive your mother for what she did (or didn’t do) you won’t just… Read More »When You Can’t Forgive Your Mom – But You Want to
- How to Stop Being a Toxic Girlfriend
How do you know if you’re a toxic girlfriend? These 12 signs will help you see the truth about yourself. Unfortunately, you have to rely on your own honest, ruthless self-awareness to know just how toxic you are! Other people aren’t always willing or able to tell if you’re negative or critical, much less how… Read More »How to Stop Being a Toxic Girlfriend
- How Do You Help an Unhappy Husband?
When you said your wedding vows you assumed you’d have a happy husband and marriage, but life is full of surprises! Some not so happy. Loving a man who is struggling with unhappiness or even depression may not be easy, but it is possible. Here are seven ways to help your unhappy husband, plus several… Read More »How Do You Help an Unhappy Husband?
- 5 Ways to Get Healthy When You’re on a Relationship Break
Making the decision to take a break in your relationship is important and good. But what do you do on your relationship break? Do you date other people, or stay faithful to a guy you may never get back together with? These ideas and tips for things to do when you’re not sure if you’re… Read More »5 Ways to Get Healthy When You’re on a Relationship Break
- How to Heal Your Heart Without Relationship Closure
Relationship closure after a breakup is important, but not necessary for healing your heart. It can be healthy to have a formal end or goodbye, but relationship closure not always possible. And even when it is possible, it may feel unsatisfactory or too sad for words. These eight ways to heal when a relationship ends… Read More »How to Heal Your Heart Without Relationship Closure
- 7 Ways to Know Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For
Some relationships are worth fighting for; others are better off broken. How do you know if your relationship is worth fighting for? These seven tips will help you see your relationship more clearly and decide if it’s worth the time and energy it’ll take to rebuild your love. I also included three stages of love, so you can see what stage you may be in.
- How to Deal With a Husband Who Complains About You
How do you respond when your husband says he doesn’t like the way you dress? Maybe he complains about the style or colors of your clothes. Maybe he says you dress too sexy, or too frumpy, or too young, or too old. Maybe your husband wants you to wear different clothes because he’s concerned what his coworkers or family thinks.
- How to Convince Someone to Give You a Second Chance
The bad news is that you broke up. Maybe this is even the second or third breakup. But wait, I have good news! Convincing someone to give you a second chance may be easier than you think. A surprising number of breakups aren’t permanent because it is really hard to let go of someone you love (which is good news when you want to convince your ex to come back to you!).
- How Do You Break Up With a Guy Who Has a Disability?
How do you break up with a disabled boyfriend? You don’t want to hurt him – just like you wouldn’t want to hurt a man who is able-bodied. These tips are inspired by a reader whose boyfriend is in a wheelchair. She loves him, but their relationship isn’t good for her. “I am in a… Read More »How Do You Break Up With a Guy Who Has a Disability?
- 6 Surprising Ways to Get Revenge on Your Ex
Your ex boyfriend hurt you, and all you can think about is hurting him back. But will getting revenge on your ex make you feel better? Here’s my favorite quote about seeking vengeance: “Get revenge in a way that is almost cruel. Forgive them.” What if forgiveness is the best way to get revenge on… Read More »6 Surprising Ways to Get Revenge on Your Ex
- When You Don’t Feel Physically Attracted to Your Husband
An often-asked question from women who love their husbands, but don’t feel the need for much affection or physical interaction: I’m not attracted to my husband physically, but he wants to be closer. Here you’ll find four tips for increasing physical attraction in your marriage and building a stronger, more fulfilling relationship with your husband.
- Your Heart Changes Everything – 21 Heart Quotes
“The heart has reasons that reason cannot know,” is my favorite quote about the heart. “Your heart changes everything” isn’t one of the most popular heart quotes, but it changes how I do everything. And that makes it a truly transformative quote about the heart.
- What if You Never Find Your Soulmate?
The only thing worse than living without your soulmate is never having met one in the first place. You can’t lose a soulmate you never had. How do you live a good, full, happy life knowing you never met or married your soulmate? You never experienced “soulmate love.”
- Should You Travel Alone, Without Him?
You don’t have to choose between your relationship and your travel dreams! Leaving your boyfriend or husband at home and traveling alone will increase your self-confidence and improve your relationship. Your partner may not want to or be able to travel with you, but this doesn’t mean you should stay home. You have a world to explore!
- What to Do When You Feel Like No One Loves You
When you believe nobody truly loves you, you feel alone, unloved and unwanted. When you allow yourself to dwell on those feelings, you feel even worse about yourself and your life! And the downward spiral begins. These tips will help you cope with feeling like no one loves you.
- How Do You Leave Your Husband When You Have No Money?
If you have no income or financial support, you may feel like you’ll be stuck in an unhappy marriage forever. How do you leave your husband when you have no money? These ideas and tips will give you something new to think about. Even if you don’t find an idea that will work for you, you might find support and comfort in the readers’ comments at the end of the article.
- Why You’ll Never Regret Joining a Women’s Circle
Feelings of unworthiness and self hatred are deep wounds that need emotional healing. Women’s circles are the balm, the elixir, the soothing embrace of compassion, of healing and growth. Whether they are women’s healing circles, professional career women’s circles or contemplative prayer groups for women — the companionship and acceptance you find in a circle of like-minded women will change how you see yourself.
- You Don’t Want Him, But You Want Him to Want You
Maybe you’re relieved or even glad the relationship is over. But still, you can’t help wanting him to want you! You don’t want to get back together and you wouldn’t take him back even if he tried to reconcile, but still. You just can’t help wishing he wanted you back.
- Aromatherapy for Depression After a Breakup
It’s natural to feel depressed after a breakup. You said goodbye to someone you love, perhaps losing the most important relationship in your life. You will never be the same, and neither will your heart. But even though breaking up hurts — and feels so unnatural — there are healthy ways to encourage the healing process.
- 3 Ways to Cope With an “On Again Off Again” Relationship
How do you cope with an “on again off again” love relationship that seems more off than on? Even more important: how do you find peace, stability and joy in a relationship that is filled with uncertainty and confusion?
- Overcoming Setbacks to Healing After a Breakup
Discouraging – often painful – setbacks are part of the healing process after a physical illness, injury, or surgery. Overcoming setbacks is a difficult but necessary part of the healing process. It’s the same with healing a broken heart after a loss; the setbacks are inevitable…but healing is still happening despite the paint.
- How Do You Heal From the Shock of a Sudden Breakup?
Recovering from the emotional, mental and physical shock of breaking up is hard. Even if your relationship was troubled – and you suspected it was ending – you just don’t bounce back from such a big loss in your life! The shock of a sudden breakup hits hard…even when you knew the relationship wasn’t healthy and you were thinking of leaving.
- 10 Breakup Tips for Guys From a Divorced Dad
This breakup advice is a refreshing change from my usual Blossom Tips for women! A divorced dad left this advice on one of my articles about wives cheating. He shared what helped him heal after his marriage ended; in this article I share the best of his breakup tips for guys.
- When He Just Wants to Be Friends, But You Want More
Why does he only want to be friends when you know you’d be great together as a couple? Your relationship is easy and fun, you laugh and talk, your friends agree you were meant to be together, everything is perfect…of course you want more than friendship!
- Getting Over Him When You Can’t Get Him Back
Getting over him feels impossible because a breakup changes you. Breakups are especially painful when you want him back but can’t have him. But you WILL heal, grow forward, and even blossom into who God created you to be…especially if you let yourself slowly and completely get over him.
- How Do You Help Your Husband Stop Drinking?
These 10 ways to help a husband who drinks too much are partly based on my work in a residential recovery program with men who are alcoholics and drug addicts. I was also inspired to write this article by a reader, who is searching for ways to cope with her alcoholic husband.
- 7 Signs You Should Tell Your Ex You Miss Him
How do you tell your ex you miss him more than you thought possible? These tips will help you know if getting back with your ex is a good idea, or if your loneliness is pushing you to make a bad decision. After a breakup it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing you… Read More »7 Signs You Should Tell Your Ex You Miss Him
- Are You Scared to Break Up With Your Boyfriend?
Your relationship isn’t working out, but you’re worried about what your boyfriend might do if you break up with him. Breaking up is always hard – but it’s even worse when you feel anxious or scared of how your boyfriend will respond.
- Facing Your Birthday After a Breakup
Are you dreading your birthday? Maybe you broke up with someone you love and you’re wondering how to survive the heartache. Having a happy birthday after a breakup seems impossible….but what if you can be happier on your birthday?
- How to Deal With Money Stress After a Breakup
Whether or not you broke up with your boyfriend because of money, you may not be prepared for the financial stress a breakup brings. Maybe you loaned your boyfriend money and he hasn’t repaid you. Maybe you owe your husband money for college tuition, credit card payments, mortgage payments, child support or alimony.
- Overcoming Doubt and Insecurity in Your Relationship
He tells you he loves you, yet you feel anxious and insecure. How do you overcome insecurity in a relationship with someone you love — and may even be married to? These five things to remember will help you feel more secure and grounded in your relationship.
- How to Ask Your Boyfriend for What You Want
Maybe you want to move in with your boyfriend, or borrow his dog for a jog. Maybe you want to ask your boyfriend to marry you, or to move his junk out of your apartment. How do you ask your boyfriend for what you want? It’s not easy to express your desires, say what you need, or ask for help…especially to a guy you love and want to be loved by.
- 5 Things You Need to Survive a Breakup
These five “core needs” will help you get through a breakup — even if you’ve been sad and miserable for months. You may already have done the most important thing, which is to simply say “I need help getting through this breakup.” Admitting that you need help, you need something different or better to help you through a breakup, is called the first step for a reason.
- How to Handle Emotional Numbness After a Loved One Dies
Feeling numb after the death of someone you love is a natural, healthy part of the grieving process. The shock protects you from the cliff of insanity and helps you cope with daily life. But what if you feel like you’ll never feel normal again? These ideas for healing emotional numbness will help you through the grieving process.
- 4 Ways to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself After He Leaves
When a relationship ends – especially after a man unexpectedly leaves – how do you stop feeling sorry for yourself? You don’t want to struggle with self-pity for months or even years after a breakup…and yet you can’t change your feelings.
- 4 Easy Ways to Share Your Faith With Your Husband
You’re a Christian wife who wants to follow Jesus, but your husband doesn’t believe in God. How do you share your faith with your husband peacefully, without forcing conversations or conversions? Even more importantly, how do you stop your marriage from weakening your faith and bringing you down spiritually?
- When You’re Dating Someone Who Doesn’t Believe in God
Should you date a man – or stay with a boyfriend – who doesn’t believe in God? Or maybe he’s a “non Christian” (a man who says he believes but doesn’t live in faith). These nine dating tips for Christian women will help you handle your relationship with a non Christian (or “non Christian”) man.
- 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
Are you picking up on signs he doesn’t love you anymore? Maybe your boyfriend doesn’t listen to you, or your husband hasn’t “dated” you for years. These eight signs he doesn’t love you will help you see your relationship more clearly. If his feelings for you have changed, it’s time to think about how your relationship may have to change, too.
- When You Don’t Feel Good Enough to Be Loved
No matter how many times your friends and family tell you how much they love you, all you think is “I don’t feel good enough to be loved.” You’ve read articles on how to increase your feelings of self-worth, you listened to your counselor’s tips on how to feel good enough for love, and you’ve even asked God to help you feel better about yourself.
- How to Handle Your Boyfriend’s Lack of Effort
You love your boyfriend and you think (or know!) he loves you back…but he stopped making an effort in your relationship. You’re starting to wonder about your boyfriend’s feelings for you. Maybe you’re even worried that he no longer loves you the way he used to.
- Is Your Marriage Over? 6 Signs You Shouldn’t Ignore
These signs a marriage is over will help you see yourself – and your husband – more clearly. It’s not easy to see your marriage objectively when you’re in the middle of it. It’s even harder to see yourself and your husband without your history coloring your lens! These signs your marriage is over will help you take a step back and look at your life from a different perspective.
- What to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Have Time for You
How do you cope with feeling neglected and lonely when your boyfriend doesn’t spend time with you? There are smart ways to respond and draw him closer (instead of reacting and pushing him further away!). You don’t have to break up with him or even talk about your relationship. And you definitely shouldn’t beg or threaten your boyfriend was ways to get him to spend more time with you.
- 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting You
Your boyfriend texted all the time at the beginning of your relationship. Now, he is sending fewer text messages – and they aren’t as loving, fun or sexy. Did your boyfriend lose interest? Why isn’t he sending as many text messages? Most importantly, what should you do?
- 5 Signs You’re Emotionally Smothering Your Boyfriend (and How to Stop!)
If your boyfriend says you’re smothering him emotionally – or if you suspect you are – these tips will help you see your relationship more clearly. You’ll learn how dangerous emotional suffocation can be and how to stop smothering your boyfriend.
- When Your Husband Still Works With His Ex Affair Partner
Your husband is still working with the woman he had an affair with – which means he sees his “ex affair partner” every day. Of course you feel jealous and insecure! You know your husband loves you, but what if he’s still emotionally attached or physically attracted to the other woman?
- Is Love Powerful Enough to Save Your Relationship?
Love is powerful..but is the power of love strong enough to save a relationship that is failing? It depends how you – and your boyfriend – harness that power to renew your love for one another. The power of love is a learned skill, not something that comes from your feelings, hormones or even your… Read More »Is Love Powerful Enough to Save Your Relationship?
- Should You Break Up With Him?
Even when you know deep down you should break up with your boyfriend, you sometimes feel confused, sad, and even afraid. Here’s how to know if you and your boyfriend should break up. You’ll also find tips for coping with the pain of letting him go. Deciding if you should break up or try to… Read More »Should You Break Up With Him?
- 6 Tips for Dealing With Your Boyfriend’s Ex-Wife
When you date a guy with an ex-wife from his previous marriage, you’re “dating” his whole family. Sometimes your boyfriend’s ex-wife is lovely…and sometimes she’s not. These six tips for dealing with your boyfriend’s ex-wife won’t solve all your problems, but they will help you see your relationship in a new light.
- Emotionally Detaching From Someone You Love But Can’t Be With
How do you distance yourself or detach emotionally from someone you love, but have to let go of? Learn how a healthy emotional detachment can help you heal when a relationship breaks down. You won’t always struggle with these painful feelings. Your heart will heal, and you will recover your true self. Emotionally detaching from someone you love – but can’t be with – is the first step to healing.
- Why Your Boyfriend Cheated: A Relationship Style That Leads to Affairs
- When You Miss Your Husband’s Presence in Your Life
Maybe all you can think is “I miss my husband” – and sometimes you feel foolish and even childish because you miss him so much! Know that your feelings are normal. Your husband’s presence has been part of your life for years, perhaps even decades. Your husband is part of you. Your heart, your home,… Read More »When You Miss Your Husband’s Presence in Your Life
- Are You Sad Because You Never Got Married?
If you grew up wanting to get married, you may be struggling to cope with sadness and grief now – especially if you believe you’ll never get married. My three tips for dealing with sadness as a single woman are inspired by a She Blossoms reader. “For appearance’s sake I wish I could say I… Read More »Are You Sad Because You Never Got Married?
- 7 Ways to Deal With Guilty Feelings After a Breakup
No matter how long you prepared for the breakup, you’ll still deal with guilty feelings. After all, you broke up with someone you once loved…and perhaps still do. But no matter what the circumstances of the breakup were, you must remember that guilt will eat you away and destroy your life if you let it fester and grow.
- Is PMS Ruining Your Relationship?
Coping with moodiness, bloat and tenderness caused by premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a pain – but it’s even worse when PMS symptoms cause problems in your relationship with your boyfriend or husband! My emotional and physical health tips will help stop PMS problems from ruining your relationship.
- 7 Positive Ways to Deal With Breakup Stress
Work, money, relationships, and daily hassles are common sources of stress — but a breakup is the worst stressor of all. How do you stay positive after a stressful breakup when you feel anxious, sad, lonely and tired?
- Is Your Boyfriend’s Mother Ruining Your Relationship?
You love your boyfriend, but you just can’t seem to get along with his mom. Maybe you think she’s trying to ruin your relationship – and you’re even at the point where all you can think is, “I hate my boyfriend’s mom.” You want to like her, and even be friends with her…but she is driving you crazy. How do you respond when your boyfriend’s mother causes problems in your relationship?
- How Do You Deal With the Silent Treatment in Your Relationship?
Giving the silent treatment is one of the most common ways to avoid conflict in a relationship. Dealing with the silent treatment in marriage or any relationship is difficult because of its very nature! When your husband or boyfriend doesn’t want to talk to you, how do you solve the problem?
- 10 Warning Signs of a Bad Relationship
You can’t ignore it anymore: your boyfriend makes you feel bad and you know he isn’t treating you with love or respect. You aren’t sure, so you’re searching for the warning signs of a bad relationship. You’ve come to the right place! It may be hard to even think that your relationship isn’t healthy, but the truth will set you free. The truth will give you courage and strength…if you let it.
- How Do You Accept a Breakup You Didn’t Want?
These four insights will help you get to acceptance, whether your breakup happened today or ten years ago. Accepting a breakup you didn’t want, expect or plan won’t be the easiest thing you ever do. But, learning how to accept that it’s really over will give you a new sense of freedom and peace in your life.
- A Change of Heart – Blossom Tip 82
When was the last time your heart was changed by something you saw, did, or felt? Maybe your heart was warmed when a friend called unexpectedly or a stranger helped you push a heavy shopping cart through a snowy parking lot. Maybe your heart was softened by a baby’s big eyes and smile, or lightened by a glimpse of God’s glory in a sunrise, burst of laughter, or sweet taste of strawberries.
- The Problem With Secret Keeping – Blossom Tip 81
Remember when keeping secrets was something to admire? When you were a kid, you learned that keeping secrets—especially about birthdays, school events, surprise parties and plans—was good. As an adult, keeping secrets can backfire. Especially if your secrets are dark, harmful, and holding you back.
- If You Knew What God Knows About Your Body – Blossom Tip 80
If we knew what He knows—if we could see the big picture with all the pieces—we would ask God for exactly what we have. Imagine that! If you knew what God knows, you would give yourself the exact same body, life and relationships you have right now.
- Being Who You Were Called to Be – Blossom Tip 79
As you get older, do you find it harder or easier to be who you were called to be?
Maybe you find it harder because of loss, grief, pain and circumstance. Maybe you’re just too tired and far from your childhood self to think about being who you were called to be, much less blossom into who God created you to be.
- Your Loudest and Deepest Desires – Blossom Tip 78
Your loudest and deepest desires are natural, primal and purposeful. You deeply desire safety and security, peace and healing. You loudly desire freedom and joy, love and life! Those are good desires, and you’re right to want them.
- Choosing to Travel Lightly – Blossom Tip 77
Usually I write serious stuff. Practical tips, encouragement, information, and sometimes even exhortation to take responsibility for your life and choose to grow forward — even in an unwanted, unexpected season of life. Put on your big girl pants and blossom!
- Blossoming Into Your Calling – Blossom Tip 76
Blossoming into who God created you to be — acrobat or blogger, cardiologist or gardener — takes time. Patience. Nurturing, growing, learning, and taking little leaps of faith. But what do you do if you’re stuck, stalled, or haven’t even started? I started the “She Blossoms” blog and book family because I finally figured out… Read More »Blossoming Into Your Calling – Blossom Tip 76
- 3 Ways to Make Peace With Yourself – Blossom Tip 75
I once found those kind of mistakes — though they were small and not terrible in the grand scheme of things — difficult to live with. I didn’t know how to make peace with myself, much less forgive myself.
- Your Heart Changes Everything – Blossom Tip 74
Your heart not only changes everything, it can be can be your biggest enemy. That’s why Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
- How to See a Fresh New You – Blossom Tip 73
Are you tired of beating yourself up, of wishing you were better, stronger, smarter or happier? It’s time to see yourself with fresh new eyes – and to Blossom into who God created you to be.
- How to Help a Teenager Move Out of Foster Care
Leaving home is a huge life transition for anyone; helping a teen age out of foster care is particularly problematic! My tips on how to help a teenager move out of foster care are inspired by a question I received from Christina Dronen, a foster parent and teen advocate.
- How to Love Even When You Know the Truth – Blossom Tip 72
Visions of Vocation: Common Grace for the Common Good is one of the first books I’ve been assigned to read (I just started my Master of Divinity degree at Regent College in Vancouver, BC — though I think it should be called a “Servant of Divinity”! Not sure I’ll ever be equipped to master divinity, no matter how good the professors are).
- Stop Being Scared and Start Leaping in Faith – Blossom Tip 71
What was the last leap of faith you took? I bet you were scared. Maybe you’re taking a leap of faith right now. You’re starting a new season of life in a new job or at a new school or with a new partner. Maybe you’re learning how to live without someone you love, or you’re slowly letting go of a dear friend and companion.
- Are You Tired of Blossoming Alone? Blossom Tip 70
One of the best ways to let go of your old doubts, fears and problems is to find someone new to talk to. Someone who doesn’t know the “old you”, someone who will encourage and walk alongside you. Last week in Making New Friends When You’re Brokenhearted – Blossom Tip 69 I shared this email request… Read More »Are You Tired of Blossoming Alone? Blossom Tip 70
- Making New Friends When You’re Brokenhearted – Blossom Tip 69
It’s ironic, isn’t it? You need friends more than ever when your heart is broken. And yet it’s harder than ever to make new friends after a breakup, divorce, or death. You’re brokenhearted, sad, unmotivated, and tired. You may even feel worthless, unlovable, and empty.
- 7 Success Strategies of Female Bible Heroes
Strong Biblical women used different strategies to succeed — and we can learn success tips from every one of them. These seven female Bible heroes are Eve, Naomi, Ruth, Esther, Mary, Martha, and Mary of Nazarene.
- How to Fill the Emptiness in Your Heart – Blossom Tip 68
We’re starting a new season together — and there would be no “we” without you! I’m so glad you’re here, especially if you feel empty of heart and alone in your home.
- Growing Forward in a New Season – Blossom Tip 67
What new season is unfolding in your life? Maybe you’re walking into something unknown — a fresh semester at school, different routine at work, unfamiliar rhythm at home — and you don’t know what to expect. Maybe you’re grieving a loss, saying goodbye to an old friend, letting go of unaccomplished goals.
- When You Feel Crumpled and Worn – Blossom Tip 66
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value in God’s eyes.
- 5 Things I Learned From My Muslim Little Sister
Seven years ago — after my husband and I discovered we can’t have kids — I applied to be a volunteer mentor with Big Sisters/Big Brothers. This nonprofit organization matches adults (“Bigs”) with youth (“Littles”) and supports the friendship. I first learned about it 35 years earlier when I myself was a Little in Saskatoon,… Read More »5 Things I Learned From My Muslim Little Sister
- How Did You Meet Him? Blossom Tip 65
Join me in congratulating Holly, Judy, Gina, Jean, and Julie! They each won a free copy of Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back by entering my Free Book Give-Away for She Blossoms Readers – Blossom Tip 64.
- Free Book Give-Away for She Blossoms Readers – Blossom Tip 64
To win a free print copy of my new book Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back, tell me something about yourself in the comments section below. You might share how you found my She Blossoms blogs, what your favorite color is, what you ate for breakfast, or if you’re an introvert or an extrovert.
- How to Break Free From a Toxic Ex Relationship
These practical, effective tips for finding freedom after a breakup will help you get over an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband. Breaking free – especially from a toxic ex relationship that is destroying your self-identity – doesn’t have to take months or years.
- 15 Travel Gifts for Christian Newlyweds
These travel gifts and ideas are perfect for Christian couples who are newly married – even if they aren’t going on a honeymoon yet. Each gift is both practical and thoughtful, and will build anticipation for a special, exciting honeymoon. The best travel gifts for newlywed Christians bring them together as a couple and create… Read More »15 Travel Gifts for Christian Newlyweds
- The Secret to Keeping Your Hope Alive – Blossom Tip 63
Before we talk about nourishing hope and faith — which can be hard in the holiday season — I have a Public Service Announcement about our free “She Blossoms” calendar. 🙂 A new and improved version of the calendar is coming, so don’t print your copy yet! An eagle-eyed reader pointed out a typo in… Read More »The Secret to Keeping Your Hope Alive – Blossom Tip 63
- What to Feed Your Heart and Your Free Gift – Blossom Tip 62
Thank you so much for sending me your encouragement and prayers! I’m finally back to my old self again, working at full capacity with my usual energy and enthusiasm. Even if you didn’t email me directly, you matter more than you know. Every week I scroll through my She Blossoms newsletter list, hovering like the… Read More »What to Feed Your Heart and Your Free Gift – Blossom Tip 62
- Starting Over When Life Knocks You Down – Blossom Tip 61
Have you ever been in a car accident? I can only imagine how painful it must be! I accidentally bumped into a parked car once — while walking — and was shocked at how much that little tap hurt. Life knocks us down in all sorts of ways, on all sorts of days. Not every… Read More »Starting Over When Life Knocks You Down – Blossom Tip 61
- What to Remember When You’re Left Behind – Blossom Tip 60
Did you know elephants grieve when one of their herd dies? Scientists say it’s because they live for approximately 70 years and develop strong bonds. Long, close relationships make death difficult. Yesterday I saw death. And I discovered that elephants aren’t the only animals who grieve. I’m back from my Portugal vacation — my broken… Read More »What to Remember When You’re Left Behind – Blossom Tip 60
- How to Keep Going When Life is Hard – Blossom Tip 59
When I travel — like now in Portugal — I pack light. Wearing the same clothes doesn’t bother me the way it used to. This morning, however, was special. I dug out a fresh pair of trousers and a clean shirt (I’m wearing my husband’s button up dress shirts because my broken shoulder is still… Read More »How to Keep Going When Life is Hard – Blossom Tip 59
- How to Always Be Happy – Blossom Tip 58
Greetings from Tomar, Portugal! Earlier today I explored the Convento de Cristo — a 12th-century castle that was formerly a Knights Templar, monastery, and convent. It kinda made me want to be a nun, cloistered and focused on God. But then I wouldn’t be able to travel…and exploring castles makes me happy. Yesterday I climbed… Read More »How to Always Be Happy – Blossom Tip 58
- What to Do While You’re Waiting – Blossom Tip 57
What’s the longest you’ve waited for something? Maybe it was an hour for a bus, or a week for test results. Maybe it was a month for a job offer, or a year for a husband. Maybe it was a decade for a loved one to return, or a lifetime for a prayer to be answered.… Read More »What to Do While You’re Waiting – Blossom Tip 57
- 5 Keys to Being Happy When You’re Alone
These five “Blossom Tips” for being happy when you’re alone will help you find the sweet spot. You’ve been lonely and searching for happiness for long enough! It’s time to learn how to be happy in the garden you’re planted in and flourish into the woman God created you to be. “I have been alone… Read More »5 Keys to Being Happy When You’re Alone
- When God Doesn’t Restore a Broken Relationship
A broken relationship is one of life’s most painful experiences. Whether it’s a breakup, divorce or death – losing someone you love breaks your heart. Your first and most natural reaction might be to ask God to restore your relationship, especially if the breakup or separation was unexpected.
- How to Stop Feeling Jealous of Other People’s Relationships
Feeling jealous of a friend’s happiness is normal – especially if you lost your husband, broke up with your boyfriend, or have never fallen in love. You want to be happy for your friend’s relationship but you don’t know how to deal with your jealousy. Not only are you normal, you are not alone. “Am… Read More »How to Stop Feeling Jealous of Other People’s Relationships
- How to Stop Feeling Unlovable After a Breakup
Feeling unlovable, unworthy, and unwanted is normal after a breakup. But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it’s inevitable! Here’s how to stop feeling unlovable after a breakup and start feeling happy again. I thought nobody could love me when my boyfriend broke up with me. I felt alone and ugly inside and out, and… Read More »How to Stop Feeling Unlovable After a Breakup
- What to Do When You Need a Hug
“I need more hugs! I miss being held and kissed,” said Michaela. “Nobody talks about the lack of a physical relationship after a breakup.” When you lose a man you love after a breakup, divorce, or death you aren’t prepared for the loss of physical intimacy and affection. You miss his hugs, kisses, love and… Read More »What to Do When You Need a Hug
- 7 Easy Ways to Stop Negative Thinking After a Breakup
Sometimes you are your own worst enemy after a breakup – such as when you allow negative thoughts to control your mood and mind. These tips on how to stop negative thinking will help you regain control of your life. After breaking up, you can feel better about yourself than you ever have before! Breaking up… Read More »7 Easy Ways to Stop Negative Thinking After a Breakup
- When You Miss Him Like Crazy
Whether you’re coping with a breakup or a long distance relationship, sometimes all you can think is “I miss him like crazy.” You’re overwhelmed with loneliness, perhaps missing him so much you can barely get off the floor. Here’s how She Blossoms reader is dealing with her boyfriend’s absence: “My boyfriend and I started living… Read More »When You Miss Him Like Crazy
- Getting Out of the “Couples Mindset” After a Breakup
How do you live alone after being half of a couple for so long? These tips for getting out of the “couples mindset” will encourage and inspire you. You’ll see you’re not alone, and discover a few ideas for moving on. “When you have been functioning in life as one-half of a couple, you become… Read More »Getting Out of the “Couples Mindset” After a Breakup
- How to Stop Believing Lies About Yourself
You know you’re not worthless, stupid, or lazy but you don’t know how to stop believing the lies about yourself. You know there is good in you, but you haven’t learned how to hold on to the truth. You want to feel and think better about who you are, but you just don’t know how.… Read More »How to Stop Believing Lies About Yourself
- What to Do After Your Girlfriend’s or Wife’s Mom Dies
A reader asked for tips on how to help his girlfriend cope with her mother’s death. There isn’t one right thing to say or do after a mom dies, but there are many little ways to show your love and support. I wrote Heartwarming Sympathy Gifts for Someone Whose Mom Died a couple years ago,… Read More »What to Do After Your Girlfriend’s or Wife’s Mom Dies
- When You Feel Guilty for Moving On
You know you need to move on with your life, but you feel guilty. You may even want to move on because you know it’s time, but you don’t know how. What does “moving on” even mean? How do you bring the good parts of the past – the lessons, growth and insights – into… Read More »When You Feel Guilty for Moving On
- How to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men
You want to be in a good relationship with the right man, yet you keep attracting men who aren’t available. Maybe you even feel like you’re dating the same man over and over! Different name, same problems. Perhaps he’s emotionally unavailable, financially bankrupt, or even married to another woman. “Why do I keep attracting men… Read More »How to Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men
- What to Do When You Feel Unloved and Unwanted
Even if you’re married or in a good relationship, you’ll still struggle with feelings of being unloved and unwanted. It’s normal, because even the best man in the world can’t fill the emptiness – and neither can marriage, children, a good career, or money. That’s the bad news. But wait, there’s good news! I have… Read More »What to Do When You Feel Unloved and Unwanted
- An Easy Way to Start Mending Your Broken Heart
When a relationship ends, some people quickly bounce back. Others take longer, and still others never pick up the pieces of their broken hearts. Feeling stuck and lonely is no way to live – or to Blossom into who you were created to be! Why do some people heal faster than others? Maybe they know… Read More »An Easy Way to Start Mending Your Broken Heart
- Accepting the End of a Relationship You Wish Wasn’t Over
How do you accept a breakup that blindsided you? Even if you suspected your relationship was ending, you wanted to keep it alive. You were holding on with hope and faith. Now that it’s over, you’re having trouble moving on. Learning how to accept the end of a relationship – especially one you wanted to… Read More »Accepting the End of a Relationship You Wish Wasn’t Over
- 3 Tips for Dealing With a Secret Relationship
You’re secretly involved with the wrong guy: a boss, married man, teacher or coach at school, or your friend’s boyfriend. You know it’s an unhealthy relationship. You can’t talk about him with your friends or family. These tips for dealing with secret unhealthy relationships will help you break free. Are you thinking about ending this… Read More »3 Tips for Dealing With a Secret Relationship
- How to Prepare Your Heart to Fall in Love Again
Healing your heart after a breakup or death is the first stage of moving on. The second stage is preparing your heart for a new relationship. How do you take the risk of falling in love again after being hurt in the past? Two She Blossoms readers recently asked for help getting healthy. They want… Read More »How to Prepare Your Heart to Fall in Love Again
- 5 Ways to Stop Wanting Him Back After the Breakup
The breakup had to happen, yet it breaks your heart. You can’t stop wanting him back! These tips will help you move forward without your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband, and inspire you to walk into a new season of life. After a breakup or divorce, you can’t just merrily move on with your life. Unfortunately, it… Read More »5 Ways to Stop Wanting Him Back After the Breakup
- 4 Ways to Be Calm When You Meet Your Ex and His New Partner
What do you say to your ex’s new partner when you meet for the first time? How do you cope with your feelings of anxiety, anger and insecurity? Meeting your the new girlfriend or new wife won’t be the easiest moment of your life…but it may not be as painful as you think. One of… Read More »4 Ways to Be Calm When You Meet Your Ex and His New Partner
- How to Be Happy Alone After Your Relationship Ends
Imagine being happier after a breakup – or even a divorce – than you were before! It may sound unbelievable, but it is possible. These five tips on how to be alone and happy after your relationship ends will give you a strong foundation of peace, joy, and freedom. I wrote this article for a… Read More »How to Be Happy Alone After Your Relationship Ends
- How to Love an Emotionally Unavailable Man
You’re in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man – and you love him too much to leave. You are not alone, even if he doesn’t show his emotions. In this article, you’ll find 10 tips on how to love a man who isn’t available emotionally. Here’s what a wife wrote on one of my articles… Read More »How to Love an Emotionally Unavailable Man
- How to Live With a Husband You Wish You Never Married
You thought you knew the man you married, but you didn’t find out who your husband really was until after the wedding. How do you live with – and love – a husband you wish you never married? These 101 quick tips will help you fall in love with your husband, fix your marriage, and… Read More »How to Live With a Husband You Wish You Never Married
- 5 Signs of God’s Blessing on Your Relationship
One of the best ways to see signs of God’s blessing on your relationship is to look at a marriage that wasn’t blessed by God. Step away from your emotions; take hold of the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. Put your desperate (and normal!) yearnings for love aside; learn from the word of God. In… Read More »5 Signs of God’s Blessing on Your Relationship
- How to Heal Your Heart After Your Marriage Falls Apart
“My marriage fell apart and I’m scared my heart will never heal,” says a She Blossoms reader. She asked for help coping after her husband left her, and for ideas on how to trust God for healing her broken heart. She knows God has a plan for her…but what is it? How will she find… Read More »How to Heal Your Heart After Your Marriage Falls Apart
- How to Heal After Losing the Only Man You Ever Loved
Moving on after you lose the only man you’ve ever loved may be the hardest thing you ever do…and the most important. These tips for healing a broken heart are intended for relationship and marriage breakups, but they apply to different types of losses as well. You’re not alone – no matter how you lot… Read More »How to Heal After Losing the Only Man You Ever Loved
- How to Get Over an Ex-Boyfriend You See at Work Everyday
Work breakups are painful because seeing him every day makes it more difficult to forget and move on. Seeing your ex-boyfriend at work every day also reopens old wounds and stirs up painful thoughts and emotions. How do you get over an ex you work with? Most breakup articles — mine included — encourage women to… Read More »How to Get Over an Ex-Boyfriend You See at Work Everyday
- How to Protect Yourself From Being Used in a Relationship
Sometimes it’s hard to know if you’re being kind and loving in a relationship, or if a man is using you. How do you protect yourself from being walked all over — especially when you’re in love? Love is blind; you can’t see as clearly and you’re less able to make rational, level-headed decisions. That’s… Read More »How to Protect Yourself From Being Used in a Relationship
- 5 Reasons to Take Your “Couples Vacation” After an Unexpected Breakup
- How to Forgive Your Husband for Cheating While He Was Alive
After her husband died, Kate found out her husband was having an affair. How do you cope with your husband’s death — and forgive him for cheating on you while he was alive? Here’s my reader’s comment: “Nobody has addressed being married to husband who died, then finding out he cheated with a coworker for… Read More »How to Forgive Your Husband for Cheating While He Was Alive
- When You Feel Scared You’ll Never Be Loved
“How to overcome fear” is our theme on She Blossoms this week. What do you do when you feel scared you’ll never be loved? It’s a natural, normal fear that we all struggle with. Every day I get comments and questions about coping with the fear of being alone. Here’s what one reader said on… Read More »When You Feel Scared You’ll Never Be Loved
- 5 Ways to Stop Protecting Yourself From Falling in Love
Two She Blossoms readers recently asked for tips on how to get rid of fear in relationships. In this article you’ll learn how to stop protecting yourself from falling in love, and why it’s time to consider new ideas for committing to a healthy relationship. Here’s what one reader said: “I’m scared to fall in… Read More »5 Ways to Stop Protecting Yourself From Falling in Love
- How Do You Celebrate Your Birthday After a Breakup?
How to you celebrate your birthday after your relationship falls apart? It’s not a riddle, unfortunately. It’s your life. You may not be having a happy birthday this year, but my tips for blossoming after a breakup will help.
- 5 Tips for Trusting Your Intuition in a New Relationship
Your gut instincts or intuition can be a reliable source of information when you’re starting a new relationship. But how do you trust your intuition if you never learned how — or if you trusted your instincts in the past and made a huge mistake? Recently I wrote a blog post called How to Trust… Read More »5 Tips for Trusting Your Intuition in a New Relationship
- How to Leave Your Partner When You Live Together
These tips will help you Blossom by giving your the hope and inspiration you need to leave your boyfriend when you’re living together. Ending a relationship is never easy; leaving a partner you love and live with might be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done. If you have children together, figuring out how to… Read More »How to Leave Your Partner When You Live Together
- How to Trust Your Intuition After a Failed Relationship
Maybe you’ve heard advice about “trusting your instincts” when you’re in love, but how do you trust your intuition after a failed relationship? After all, your instincts brought you into a past relationship that fell apart. How do you know if can trust yourself to start a new relationship? More importantly, how do you know how… Read More »How to Trust Your Intuition After a Failed Relationship
- 6 Ways to Avoid Repeating Your Past Relationship Mistakes
Staying in a relationship too long, picking the wrong man, and ignoring red flags are three of the most common relationship mistakes — and I’ve made them all! Here’s how to avoid repeating your past mistakes, plus tips for making new, better, healthier ones. Because, let’s face it, we’ll never stop making mistakes. No matter… Read More »6 Ways to Avoid Repeating Your Past Relationship Mistakes
- 5 Signs Your Heart is Healing After a Breakup
Take heart, for you may healthier and happier than you think – even though you’re still searching for breakup advice because your heart is broken! These five signs of healing after a breakup will give you hope and encouragement to keep moving forward. First, a sprinkle of advice from a reader whose heart is more… Read More »5 Signs Your Heart is Healing After a Breakup
- How to Decide What to Do About a Troubled Relationship
Whether your troubled relationship is a difficult marriage, uncomfortable work situation or toxic family drama, these steps will help you decide what to do. First, here’s a comment from a reader who took too long to make a decision about her troubled marriage: “I’ve been separated from my husband for a year,” says Tonya on… Read More »How to Decide What to Do About a Troubled Relationship
- Do You Feel Lost Without a Relationship?
After a breakup – or any type of relationship loss – you don’t just miss the person’s presence. You miss the feeling of having that relationship in your life. You miss the emotional stability, physical security, and familiarity of knowing your boyfriend or best friend was there.
- When You Want to Believe He Can’t Live Without You
Deep down you know your heart will eventually heal, but right now you feel like you’ll die without him. Here’s what to do when all you want is to believe he loves you so much that he can’t live without you — whether he was your boyfriend for a year, your husband for a decade,… Read More »When You Want to Believe He Can’t Live Without You
- When God Says No to the Desires of Your Heart
Having a baby was the desire of my heart; I was 42 when God said no. I prayed, hoped, and believed that God would give me the desires of my heart. Over two decades of wondering, believing, and relying on God’s strength to keep moving forward. We tried fertility treatments, acupuncture, herbal remedies and all… Read More »When God Says No to the Desires of Your Heart
- How to Do the Only Thing You Ever Wanted to Do
You don’t need advice about your relationship, job, family life, or parenting skills. You already know what you want and need to do! The problem is that you don’t know how. You also might be struggling to find the motivation, courage, and strength to actually do it. “The purpose of this book is to remind… Read More »How to Do the Only Thing You Ever Wanted to Do
- How to Break Your Addiction to a Toxic Relationship
The book Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love explains why romantic relationships are addictive. Here, you’ll learn how to break your addiction to a toxic relationship. The first and most important step is to understand how love affects your brain chemistry. “When you fall in love, it sets your limbic system ablaze,” writes… Read More »How to Break Your Addiction to a Toxic Relationship
- 10 Reasons You Can’t Face the Truth About Your Relationship
Accepting the truth about someone you love is painful, even if you know he isn’t good for you. These ten reasons you can’t face the truth about your relationship will help you see him — and yourself — in a different light. Sometimes we know the truth deep down, but we don’t want to admit… Read More »10 Reasons You Can’t Face the Truth About Your Relationship
- 9 Signs You Found the Lifetime Love of a Soulmate
These nine signs you found your soulmate will help you hold on to a good relationship – or let go of an unhealthy one. Finding the love of your life happens quickly for some couples. For others, it takes a lifetime. Before we find out if your boyfriend, husband or boss really is your soulmate,… Read More »9 Signs You Found the Lifetime Love of a Soulmate
- How to Trust God After a Heartbreaking Loss
When you’re dealing with death, divorce or a difficult time, the hardest thing is to keep trusting in God — and in His plan for your life. A heartbreaking loss feels like it ruined your life. It can take years to truly recover and heal, and even longer to start trusting God again. You are… Read More »How to Trust God After a Heartbreaking Loss
- 5 Ways to Stop Fear From Ruining a Relationship
You want to start a new relationship, but your fear of getting hurt is stopping you from taking a leap of love and faith. The past is over, but it’s still affecting how you think, feel, and relate to potential new partners in your life. “I’m so afraid of getting hurt again,” said Rick on… Read More »5 Ways to Stop Fear From Ruining a Relationship
- How to Recreate Yourself After a Relationship Ends
The end of a relationship is never easy – even when you expected to break up. It hurts to say goodbye; it takes time to recreate yourself and move forward. But, all endings bring new beginnings. If you choose, a breakup can help you blossom into who God created you to be. Recreating yourself after a… Read More »How to Recreate Yourself After a Relationship Ends
- 8 Tips for Redecorating Your Home After a Breakup
Changing your environment – redecorating your home – is one of the best ways to heal your heart and soul after a breakup! You can start over with inexpensive furnishings and small things to cheer up your bedroom, living room, and kitchen. These tips will lift your spirits and soothe your soul. I’m not a… Read More »8 Tips for Redecorating Your Home After a Breakup
- Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds – But This Does
It’s not true that time heals all wounds. Time alone won’t heal your broken heart after a breakup or ease your grief after you lose someone you love. Time can’t heal the wounds of your past — even if those wounds are decades old. Think back to your childhood. Your most painful memories are burned… Read More »Time Doesn’t Heal All Wounds – But This Does
- What to Do While You’re Waiting for the Right Relationship
You feel ready to meet the right man and start building the right relationship. What do you do while you’re waiting? These tips will help you tidy up the emotional and spiritual loose ends, and help you grow forward while waiting for Mr Right. First things first: let go of the past. Learn how to… Read More »What to Do While You’re Waiting for the Right Relationship
- Why It Feels Impossible to Let Go of Someone You Love
When you understand why letting go of someone you love feels impossible and more painful than anything you ever imagined, you’ll find yourself moving towards acceptance and freedom. Here you’ll find four of the most common reasons women hold on to the past, ranging from unrealistic expectations to fear of the future. If you recognize… Read More »Why It Feels Impossible to Let Go of Someone You Love
- 9 Solutions to Your Relationship Problems
How long have you been struggling with – or avoiding – your relationship problems? These solutions to even the worst difficulties in your relationship will help you move forward, grow, Blossom! Before you scroll through my solutions to your relationship problems, take a moment to think. Pause. Put the phone down, lean back from your… Read More »9 Solutions to Your Relationship Problems
- 10 Conversation Starters to Help You Talk to Your Girlfriend
Talking to your girlfriend will be easy, fun and interesting with these conversation starters! And guess what? It’s easier than you think to find topics to discuss with your girlfriend at night, during the day, and even in text messages.
- How to Move on From an Ex You Still Love
Your heart is asking “Does he miss me?” but your head knows it’s time learn how to move on from an ex boyfriend. You’re still in love, you miss him and you want him back, but you know this relationship is over. Maybe you even know, deep down, that it’s better that he’s not in… Read More »How to Move on From an Ex You Still Love
- How to Write an Obituary for Your Relationship
Are you struggling to find relationship closure after a breakup? Writing a “relationship obituary” will help heal your heart after breaking up with someone you love, miss, and feel like you can’t live without. I discovered the idea of writing an obituary for a relationship while revising How to Let Go of Someone You Love.… Read More »How to Write an Obituary for Your Relationship
- How to Forgive Him for Breaking Your Heart
The relationship is over and your heart is broken. You trusted him and you loved him…how do you forgive him for breaking your heart? Maybe you feel stuck, like you’ll never get over this or be happy again. You may even feel embarrassed and ashamed by how your relationship ended, or foolish because you should’ve… Read More »How to Forgive Him for Breaking Your Heart
- 3 Ways to Stop Your Relationship From Falling Apart
“Why do my relationships always fall apart, fail, self-destruct?” is one of the most common relationship questions I get. That, and “How can I save my relationship from falling apart?” I have good news, and I have bad news… The problem with this question is that there is no number one reason relationships fall apart.… Read More »3 Ways to Stop Your Relationship From Falling Apart
- How to Deal With Regret After a Breakup
Ending a relationship hurts, and post-breakup regret is natural. These tips for dealing with regret after a relationship ends will help you let go of the past and move toward a happier future. But first – why is crucial for you to start coping with your regret? Because your physical health is at stake. Research… Read More »How to Deal With Regret After a Breakup
- 6 Reasons You Get Stuck in Unhealthy Relationships
Learning why you get stuck in unhealthy relationships will help you move one step closer to freedom, peace, and joy. These reasons women feel trapped in bad or unhappy relationships will help you see yourself – and your partner – in a different light. Sometimes you can be painfully aware of all the signs he… Read More »6 Reasons You Get Stuck in Unhealthy Relationships
- How to Fix a Love-Hate Relationship
The helplessness and frustration of loving someone you hate can create serious problems in your life. These tips on how to fix a love-hate relationship were inspired by a reader. The Blossom Tips in this article will help you face the truth about your relationship. While you’re reading them, think about these questions: How is… Read More »How to Fix a Love-Hate Relationship
- 5 Signs It’s Time to Give Up Hope for Your Relationship
Should you stop hoping in your relationship? These signs it’s time to give up hope that your relationship will change are based on an excellent book by Dr Henry Cloud. I also describe the difference between wishful thinking and healthy reasons to hope for change. You believe in your relationship…but are you hoping for a… Read More »5 Signs It’s Time to Give Up Hope for Your Relationship
- How to Live by Faith and Heal Your Broken Heart
When your heart is broken after a breakup, living by faith is all you have. In this article you’ll find additional strength to survive, hope to continue, and help letting go of the past. These tips on how to live by faith after breaking up are inspired by a She Blossoms reader called Sue. “I… Read More »How to Live by Faith and Heal Your Broken Heart
- How to Live Without Your Boyfriend or Husband
“I can’t live without him” is one of the most common comments on my She Blossoms blogs. These tips on how to live without him are practical and effective ways to let go of someone you love – whether your husband died or divorced you, or your boyfriend betrayed or broke up with you. “My… Read More »How to Live Without Your Boyfriend or Husband
- Healing From an Affair in a Christian Marriage
Not even a Christian marriage is safe from infidelity, affairs, and cheating spouses. A pastor’s wife asked for help healing from an affair; her experience inspired me to write this article. “I must be doing something wrong, for my pain seems to get worse by the day,” says Samantha on How to Heal Your Heart… Read More »Healing From an Affair in a Christian Marriage
- 3 Reasons You Can’t Stop Loving Him
Here’s why you can’t stop loving your boyfriend or husband even though he’s not good for you. I also share tips on how you can let him go, find yourself, and live in joy and freedom. I’ve written thousands of relationship articles on my She Blossoms blog, and I get hundreds of comments and questions… Read More »3 Reasons You Can’t Stop Loving Him
- 5 Ways to Heal Emotional Pain After Losing Someone You Love
If you find it comforting to know you’re not alone, then you’ll be comforted here. These tips on how to heal your emotional pain are inspired by a man who lost his wife a year ago. He’s one of the kindest, gentlest souls I’ve ever met, and his story is the most sadly romantic one… Read More »5 Ways to Heal Emotional Pain After Losing Someone You Love
- 7 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Through the Divorce Process
Divorce proceedings are killer – emotionally, spiritually, socially, financially. These tips on how to take care of yourself through the divorce process will help you avoid overwhelm and burnout. I’m writing this for you…and a reader who asked for help takin care of herself while divorcing her husband. “Three months ago my husband of 27… Read More »7 Ways to Take Care of Yourself Through the Divorce Process
- 5 Ways to Stop Obsessing About Him
Obsessive love is powerful – and destructive – because your heart is captivated. When you can’t stop thinking about him, your life is ruled by an impossible relationship. That’s the bad news. But wait – there’s good news! You CAN stop the destructive train wreck of obsessive love, and you can get emotionally and spiritually healthy… Read More »5 Ways to Stop Obsessing About Him
- How to Get Over the One That Got Away
The truth? You’ll never fully get over “the one that got away.” The consolation? You can learn how to live in peace, acceptance, and even joy — even without someone you thought would always be part of your life. Sometimes we think we’re living in the present, but we’re actually surrounded by ghosts of the past.… Read More »How to Get Over the One That Got Away
- What to Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Unfriends You on Facebook
When your ex boyfriend unfollows or unfriends you on Facebook, you feel the pain of breaking up all over again. These tips on coping when your ex unfriends or unfollows you on social media will help rebuild your self-confidence and heal from the heartache of a breakup. “Your feelings will pass and life after the… Read More »What to Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Unfriends You on Facebook
- How to Move On From a Relationship When You’re Still in Love
Healing after a breakup isn’t easy even when you’re ready to let go – but when you’re still in love, moving on from a relationship feels impossible. Here you’ll find three creative ways to accept the breakup and start over, plus tips for Blossoming in a new season of your life. You may not have… Read More »How to Move On From a Relationship When You’re Still in Love
- 7 Ways to Pick Up the Pieces of Your Broken Heart
The man you built your life around is gone, and you’re struggling to figure out how to move on from a broken heart. These ideas for Blossoming after a relationship ends will help you step into a new season of your life. Have you been pretending that everything is okay? You get out of bed in… Read More »7 Ways to Pick Up the Pieces of Your Broken Heart
- What to Expect When You End a Relationship
Leaving someone you once loved can bring unexpected surprises – some good, some bad. Here’s what to expend when you end a relationship, plus tips for coping with the fallout. This article was inspired by a comment a reader left on one of my most popular articles… “I know my boyfriend wants to end our relationship but… Read More »What to Expect When You End a Relationship
- How to Let Go of a Past Relationship
The person you loved – and lost – will always be tucked away in your heart. These tips for letting go of a past relationship will help you remember the best of your love while you heal and move forward. “I wish I’d read your ideas for letting go of a first love when I… Read More »How to Let Go of a Past Relationship
- When the Man You Married Changed – and Not for Better
Your husband isn’t the same man you married, and it’s unsettling – or downright scary. Read my tips for coping when your husband is different than he was before, and start Blossoming into the woman God created you to be. “My husband isn’t the man I married and it scares me,” says Alice on How… Read More »When the Man You Married Changed – and Not for Better
- When Your Husband Returns From Combat – The Warrior Soul
The physical, emotional, and spiritual “soul damage” of war, combat experience, or military service is part of the battle you and your military husband will face when he comes home from active duty. Surviving and healing from the trauma and violence won’t be the most romantic thing you face as a married couple, but it… Read More »When Your Husband Returns From Combat – The Warrior Soul
- How to Cope With Heartache After the Break Up
Here’s the best tip for coping with heartache after a break up – even if you regret it and wish you were back together: stop trying to convince yourself that you need to heal. Stop trying to mend your broken heart, stop talking about how you need to move on, and stop searching the internet… Read More »How to Cope With Heartache After the Break Up
- 5 Ways to Survive “No Contact” in a Relationship
Whether you’re coping with a breakup or a temporary separation, surviving “no contact” in a relationship feels terrible. These tips will help you find hope and healing, peace and rest. I gathered both practical and emotional strategies for living without contacting someone you love. The first tip is from a woman who made the painful… Read More »5 Ways to Survive “No Contact” in a Relationship
- How to Fill the Emptiness When You Miss Your Ex
The emptiness that fills your heart and soul when you miss your ex boyfriend or husband can feel overwhelming. You are not alone; I wrote this article for a reader who says, “I miss my ex more than I ever believed possible.” The good news is you can find a million ideas on how to… Read More »How to Fill the Emptiness When You Miss Your Ex
- 11 Ways to Stop Being the “Clingy Girlfriend” in a Relationship
Needy girlfriends are suffocating and unappealing – both to themselves and to their boyfriends! Learn how to stop being clingy in a relationship, and how to start Blossoming into the woman you know deep down you’re meant to be. You were created to love and be loved, to give your heart and to receive a… Read More »11 Ways to Stop Being the “Clingy Girlfriend” in a Relationship
- 7 Ideas for Living Single After a Serious Relationship Ends
I won’t lie to you: learning how to be single after the end of a serious relationship isn’t a quick or easy process. But, it is a worthwhile journey – and you will emerge happier and healthier than you ever thought possible. “I was in a serious relationship for seven years,” says Corinne on 7… Read More »7 Ideas for Living Single After a Serious Relationship Ends
- How to Know if You Can Trust Someone in a New Relationship
A new relationship is both scary and exciting, risky and rewarding! It’s even better when you trust your new partner. These tips on how to know if you can trust a new boyfriend are inspired by a reader who says… “I’m a 32 year old woman, I’ve been in several relationships, and even though some… Read More »How to Know if You Can Trust Someone in a New Relationship
- Is the Affair Really Over? 5 Signs He Will Cheat on You Again
- When You Know It’s Over But You Can’t Say Goodbye
Ending a relationship isn’t easy or painless – even when you know it’s over. Here’s how to cope when you feel like you can’t say goodbye but you know you have to. I wrote this article for a reader who knows her relationship has no future, but is having trouble accepting the truth… “I have… Read More »When You Know It’s Over But You Can’t Say Goodbye
- Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship After a Secret Love Affair
The end of a secret love affair is the beginning of a new stage of life! Whether you’re rebuilding trust in a relationship or starting fresh, these tips will help you recover after the end of the affair. “I found the strength I needed to end a secret affair,” says Mary on How to Break Up… Read More »Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship After a Secret Love Affair
- 9 Ways to Find Your Life Purpose After a Sad Breakup
What makes a sad breakup worse? Having nothing to look forward to. These gentle ways to find your life purpose will comfort, encourage, and help you let go of a relationship that meant everything to you. I wrote this article for a reader who is struggling to get over a sad breakup. “I’d stop thinking about my… Read More »9 Ways to Find Your Life Purpose After a Sad Breakup
- How to Get Away From an Abusive Husband
There are no “quick tips” for leaving an abusive husband after 20 years of marriage. But there is good news: you’re still here, and there is hope! You are not alone. I was inspired to write this article by a strong, brave woman who is ready to talk about the abuse her husband has been… Read More »How to Get Away From an Abusive Husband
- How to Get Through a Breakup When You’re Still in Love
Breaking up was the right thing to do, but your heart aches. Here’s how to get through a breakup when you’re still in love with him, you miss him, and you wish your relationship could have turned out differently… “I broke up with my boyfriend of six years, and I know it was the right… Read More »How to Get Through a Breakup When You’re Still in Love
- When You Don’t Feel Good Enough for Your Husband
Learning how to deal with feelings of low self-worth and insecurity in your marriage will change everything! Here’s what to do when you feel like you’re not good enough for your husband – I was inspired to write this article for a wife who was brave enough to share how her husband makes her feel.… Read More »When You Don’t Feel Good Enough for Your Husband
- Why You Need to Talk About Your Husband’s Affair – and Who to Tell
- Should You Stay Together for the Children?
These insights and information will help you decide if you should stay together for the children. The effects of divorce on kids can be serious and long-lasting – but so can the impact of growing up in a home with parents who are unhealthy, disconnected, or abusive. Meet the reader who inspired me to write this article; she’s a wife… Read More »Should You Stay Together for the Children?
- How to Live Without the Man You Love
You won’t find quick and easy tips on how to live without the man you love – because there is nothing quick or easy about letting him go! Here’s how to heal your heart, grieve your loss, and trust God to put the pieces of your life back together. I was inspired to write this… Read More »How to Live Without the Man You Love
- How to Help Your Children Through a Painful Divorce
These tips for helping your children cope when you’re getting a divorce will make the transition to your “new normal” much easier. A reader inspired me to write this article; she asked how to help her kids through a separation and divorce initiated by her husband… “About 6 weeks ago my husband, whom I’ve been… Read More »How to Help Your Children Through a Painful Divorce
- How Do You Live With an Angry Man When You Can’t Leave?
You may feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re living with a man who lets his anger control him. These suggestions for living with an angry husband or boyfriend will help you cope. You may not be able to leave your home when he gets mad – or even leave him – but you can learn ways to live with his anger.
- How to Be With a Man Who Doesn’t Care About You
You know deep down your boyfriend doesn’t love you, but you just can’t break free. Here’s how to be with a man who doesn’t care about you. This relationship advice was inspired by a reader who feels “addicted” to her boyfriend but knows he doesn’t love her the way she loves him… My boyfriend and… Read More »How to Be With a Man Who Doesn’t Care About You
- How to Know if Your “Lover’s Spats” Are Destroying Your Relationship
Some relationship conflict – such as an occasional “lover’s spat” – is normal and even healthy for couples. But, fighting can start to affect how you feel about each other and even destroy your relationship. The following signs that a couple’s fights are unhealthy and destructive are inspired by a reader. “My boyfriend and I fight all the… Read More »How to Know if Your “Lover’s Spats” Are Destroying Your Relationship
- How to Uncouple and Detach When a Relationship Ends
If you can successfully “uncouple” and detach from your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband, you’ll find yourself healing faster after a breakup or divorce. These tips on how to successfully uncouple when a relationship ends will help you put your life back together. “I was married for 20 years,”writes Diane Vaughan in Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate… Read More »How to Uncouple and Detach When a Relationship Ends
- 6 Ways to Deal With Your Husband’s Past Secrets
When you learn how to deal with your husband’s past secrets and old relationships, you hold the key to freedom and joy – not to mention a happy marriage! These tips are inspired by two readers who are coping with their partners’ past lives and decisions; they’ll help you accept your husband for who he… Read More »6 Ways to Deal With Your Husband’s Past Secrets
- How to Tell Your Boyfriend the Truth
You don’t lie to your boyfriend, but you’re not exactly honest, are you? It’s time to tell the truth. These 7 tips on how to be honest with your boyfriend will help you set healthy boundaries in your relationship. I was inspired to write this article for two readers. The first wants to tell her boyfriend the… Read More »How to Tell Your Boyfriend the Truth
- 10 Ways to Stop Being a Needy Girlfriend and Feel Confident Again
These tips on how to love your boyfriend without anxiety or fear can save your relationship, for you will learn how to stop being a needy girlfriend. I was inspired to write this article for a reader who asked for help with her anxious attachment style…but don’t let the words “anxious attachment style” scare you; they have the power… Read More »10 Ways to Stop Being a Needy Girlfriend and Feel Confident Again
- How to Stop Past Mistakes From Ruining Your Relationship
Do you regret something you did when you were young and foolish? Here’s how to stop your past mistakes from destroying your relationship or ruining your life. You CAN let go and be free – and you can heal your relationship with others and yourself. But, you will have to do a little work to get there.… Read More »How to Stop Past Mistakes From Ruining Your Relationship
- How to Stop Falling in Love With the Wrong Guy
Do you feel like you’re doomed to keep making the same relationship mistakes? Learn how to stop falling in love with the wrong guy and how to start preparing for a healthy, lasting love relationship that will make you happy. I wrote these 10 tips for a reader whose sister keeps dating men who mistreat and abuse… Read More »How to Stop Falling in Love With the Wrong Guy
- How to End a Toxic Love Affair Before it Ruins You
You know you need to end the love affair because it’s toxic – but how? These tips will help you see how toxic love ruins your self-esteem and makes your life miserable. This, in turn, will help you move forward in your life. I was inspired by Dr Henry Cloud’s book Necessary Endings on saying good-bye to… Read More »How to End a Toxic Love Affair Before it Ruins You
- How to Stop the Painful “Breakup and Makeup” Cycle
You keep breaking up and getting back together – and you know it’s not good for either of you. These tips on how to stop the “breakup and makeup” cycle are inspired by a reader who is struggling to accept a recent split from her boyfriend. On 5 Healthy Ways to Cope When You Miss… Read More »How to Stop the Painful “Breakup and Makeup” Cycle
- Is He Cheating? How to Be Your Own Private Investigator
You don’t need to hire a private investigator to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you! Here are 12 signs he’s involved with another woman. It’s time to stop asking “Is my boyfriend cheating?” and start preparing for the truth. Why do you want to know if he’s having an affair? Because “you can’t… Read More »Is He Cheating? How to Be Your Own Private Investigator
- How to Cope When the Man You Love is Marrying Someone Else
You’re heartbroken and lost, and it seems like you’ll never learn how to cope when the man you love is getting married to someone else. Take heart, my friend. Know that you are not alone, and that you will survive this and be happy again one day! These tips will help you grieve and move… Read More »How to Cope When the Man You Love is Marrying Someone Else
- How to Overcome Depressed Feelings After a Breakup
Post break up, you may feel depressed, lonely, afraid, and anxious. Here’s how to overcome depression after a breakup, plus important tips on how your body and emotions are reacting to the end of your relationship. Your heart feels emotionally broken, but did you know the breakup had a physical effect on your body as well? Your heart is… Read More »How to Overcome Depressed Feelings After a Breakup
- How to Decide if You Should Reconcile With Your Husband
Here’s what you need to know about getting back together after a separation. Reconciliation is common for many couples who have separated or divorced, but is it a good idea for you? “My husband is desperately trying to reconcile our marriage after we separated,” said Lynda on Emotional Disconnection in Marriage. “I feel he has changed… Read More »How to Decide if You Should Reconcile With Your Husband
- How to Leave a Man You Love – But Can’t Live With
Leaving a man you’ve loved for years isn’t just a physical move out of the house…it’s a painful emotional break. These tips on how to leave a man you love but can’t live with will help you decide if it’s time to say good-bye. Here’s how one woman describes her struggle: “My husband and I were… Read More »How to Leave a Man You Love – But Can’t Live With
- How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Get On With Your Life
These seven simple, effective tips on how to stop thinking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend will help you overcome obsessive thoughts. Take heart, for you will move on with your life. You can stop ruminating about the past – and you can rebuild your life, renew your heart, and restore your joy! The most important thing… Read More »How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Get On With Your Life
- 9 Ways to Know if Your Husband is Lying About Cheating
If you think your husband is cheating, you’re picking up on important subconscious clues. Here are 5 signs your husband is cheating, plus 4 ways to know if he’s lying to you about the affair. These tips are from Gary Neuman, author of The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. On… Read More »9 Ways to Know if Your Husband is Lying About Cheating
- Why Married Men Cheat – and How to Prevent It
Marriage counselor Gary Neuman explains why men cheat – and it’s not because the other woman is more attractive. The best way to prevent husbands from cheating in marriage is to know why they stray from their wives. “[My boyfriend] had slept with a woman that weekend,” says Seattle-based life coach Sarah Cline in Brangelina proves… Read More »Why Married Men Cheat – and How to Prevent It
- How to Know if Your Husband Still Loves You
You don’t need a marriage quiz or relationship test to find out if your husband still loves you! What you need is objective, external signs that a marriage is over. Combine these signs with your own intuition and situation, and you will know if your husband still loves you.
- How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationship
“Codependency in relationships” is the psychological term; this help for codependent relationships is clear and easy. Learn what codependency is (including the signs of a codependent relationship), plus real examples from readers’ comments. “I think our marriage is codependent but does that mean I should leave my husband,” says Sherry on 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love… Read More »How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationship
- How to End a Relationship When You Don’t Want to Be Alone
Being alone can be lonely, boring, and even scary…but it’s better than staying with a guy who isn’t right for you. Here’s how to end a relationship even when you’re scared or reluctant to start life on your own… “I’ve been in the same relationship for 18 years,” says Nikki in response to How to Know… Read More »How to End a Relationship When You Don’t Want to Be Alone
- 5 Signs You Can Trust Your Boyfriend After He Cheated
Forgiving your boyfriend’s affair is easier if you can rebuild your trust in your relationship. Here are five signs you can trust your boyfriend after he cheated on you, plus tips on how to forgive. These tips are inspired by a reader’s question about her boyfriend’s affair with his closest female friend. “He spent alot of… Read More »5 Signs You Can Trust Your Boyfriend After He Cheated
- 7 Signs He Wants to Be More Than Friends
Are you reading him right? Here are 7 signs he likes you as more than a friend, plus 10 ways to know if he’s the right boyfriend for you. The best way to know if you should be more than friends with a guy is your gut feeling. When you’re thinking about being more than friends,… Read More »7 Signs He Wants to Be More Than Friends
- 11 Common Signs of Cheating – Wisdom After the Affair
Here are 11 signs of cheating, plus insight into an unfaithful husband from a wife’s perspective. If you suspect your boyfriend or husband is cheating, you’re probably picking up on one or more of these signs of infidelity. There are always signs. I’m reading a fascinating but sad book about a husband who is a cheater… Read More »11 Common Signs of Cheating – Wisdom After the Affair
- How to Know if a Man is Emotionally Available for Love
These signs of emotionally unavailable men will help you see him – and your relationship – more clearly. Also, here are the reasons women fall in love with men whose hearts aren’t available. The more you know yourself, the healthier your relationships will be. The best way to stop falling in love with men who… Read More »How to Know if a Man is Emotionally Available for Love
- How to Apologize and Make Amends When You Were Wrong
Saying, “I was wrong, and I’m sorry I hurt you,” can be surprisingly difficult! These tips will help you apologize and make amends after hurting someone you care about. The relief and freedom you’ll feel after saying you’re sorry is worth the painful moment of the apology. You’ll need to be vulnerable and authentic if you… Read More »How to Apologize and Make Amends When You Were Wrong
- How to Know if Divorce is the Best Decision
If you’re struggling with the difficult “Should I get a divorce?” question, you may need an unbiased external perspective that isn’t overwhelmed by emotion. Here are 10 signs to help you decide if divorcing your husband is the best choice, inspired by Should I Stay or Should I Go? “It takes a lot of bravery to… Read More »How to Know if Divorce is the Best Decision
- How to Let Go of Someone You Love
Letting go of a relationship takes courage and strength. Here, you’ll learn how to let go of someone you love in healthy ways, heal your heart, and move forward in your life. These tips are inspired by a reader who asked for help detaching and letting go of someone she cares about. “My husband of three years… Read More »How to Let Go of Someone You Love
- How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships
Insecurity may be caused by your own low self-esteem, or it may be a result of a critical or demanding husband or boyfriend. These tips on how to stop feeling insecure in your relationship will help you dig up the roots of your insecurity – which will help you fix it. When did you first start feeling… Read More »How to Stop Feeling Insecure in Your Relationships
- Coping With Shock and Sadness When Your Ex-Boyfriend Has a New Girlfriend
Your relationship is over and the breakup is behind you. Your heart may be mostly healed, your spirit mostly happy, and your self mostly peaceful. And yet, the news that your ex has a new girlfriend has shaken you to the core! Maybe you feel shocked and surprised, rejected and lonely. A man you loved is already in a new relationship, and you’re struggling with breakup feelings all over again.
- 4 Signs of Emotional Distance in a Love Relationship
Is your boyfriend or husband physically present, but emotionally distant? Here are four signs of emotionally distant love relationships, plus tips for bridging the gap between you and him. Emotional distance is characterized by a lack of an emotional, spiritual, or intellectual level connection with your partner. You know you’re disconnected when your boyfriend or husband just isn’t… Read More »4 Signs of Emotional Distance in a Love Relationship
- When You Love Someone Who is Scared to Love You Back
Fear, insecurity, or a painful past relationship can lead to fear of abandonment. Here’s what you can do when you’re in love with someone who is scared to love you back. Here’s what one reader said about his ex-girlfriend. “I dated a great lady for 11 months,” says Steve on 10 Warning Signs of a Bad… Read More »When You Love Someone Who is Scared to Love You Back
- 5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship
You’ll understand why women stay with emotionally or physically violent men when you read through these five stages of leaving an abusive relationship. If you’re stuck in one of these stages, you are 100% normal! Here’s why it takes time to leave a man who abuses, and how you can get help. I also share some… Read More »5 Stages of Leaving an Abusive Relationship
- Comfort and Healing After Your Husband Leaves You for Another Woman
Saying – even just thinking, “My husband left me for another woman” – is heartbreaking. You’ve been betrayed and lied to. Your heart is broken. You will never be the same. But, even though this may be the lowest point of your whole life, you are here. You are searching for ways to cope when your husband leaves you for someone else. This means you’re ready to start reaching forward, moving forward, and healing your heart.
- How to Know if You Can Trust Him After an Affair
Can you trust your boyfriend after he cheated on you? It depends. Here are five signs your boyfriend probably won’t cheat again, plus help forgiving an affair. These tips are inspired by a reader’s question about her cheating boyfriend, and they apply to all girlfriends who have boyfriends who cheated on them. “My boyfriend and I have… Read More »How to Know if You Can Trust Him After an Affair