5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting You


At the beginning of your relationship, your boyfriend texted all the time. But gradually – or suddenly! – he started texting you less. Did your boyfriend lose interest? Why isn’t he sending as many text messages? And, what should you do?

Here’s what one frustrated girlfriend says: “My boyfriend used to text me and call me everyday before he had me,” says Jasmine on What to Do When Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Have Time for You. “But he doesn’t text me anymore. I do all the calling and texting. When I complain about it, he says he is going through a lot now. He just lost his business and he is working as a waiter. He wants me to be understanding and he doesn’t have time for problems. Is it wrong for me to do all the calling, texting, and planning in the relationship? Will things will get better one day? My boyfriend admits he should text me more. What should I do?”

It’s a bit scary when your boyfriend stops texting you. Even typing the words “my boyfriend never texts me” can lead to feelings of anxiety and worry about the future of your relationship!





You’re normal if you’re worried about his love for you. Texting is a sign of connection, love, and security…and when your boyfriend texts less or stops texting you altogether, you naturally feel scared. What if he lost interest in your relationship, or even stopped loving you?

Here are five ways to respond to a boyfriend who stopped texting, messaging, or calling you…

What to Do When Your Boyfriend Texts Less – Or Isn’t Texting At All

Most love relationships start strong and passionate, but the shine of first love and passion fades as time goes by. This is normal. No couple can sustain the excitement and romance of a new relationship for very long, because life gets in the way. Work, school, goals, health, family responsibilities, and general life problems demand our time and attention.

what to do when your boyfriend stops textingSo, the good news is that it’s normal for a boyfriend to be texting and calling less often. I know this doesn’t make it easy or fun, but you can rest assured that it may not be a big deal that your boyfriend isn’t texting as much.

My tips on how to respond to a “textless relationship” may or may not work for you and your boyfriend. There is no perfect way to respond to anything when it comes to love and relationships.

The most important thing to remember is that you can’t change your boyfriend. If you don’t mind calling and texting your boyfriend all the time, then go for it. But don’t expect him to suddenly change and start calling and texting you.

Also, remember that if you always contact your boyfriend, then he doesn’t need to reach out to you. But if you give him time and space to breathe, your boyfriend might start calling and texting you again. Give your boyfriend a chance to miss you. That may be all he needs to start texting you again.

1. Ask yourself if you’re realistic about your relationship

Is it reasonable to expect your boyfriend to call or text every day? It depends on your lifestyles, future relationship plans, health, work situations, and stage of life. For instance, if your boyfriend is stressed and depressed because he lost his business and has to wait tables for a living, then maybe daily texts and phone calls are too much to ask. Maybe he needs time and space to sort out his life.

Some men can only focus on one aspect of life at a time, especially when it comes to their careers. If their jobs are in turmoil and they’re worried about money, then their romantic relationships may take a back seat for now.

If you’re worried about your relationship for other reasons – not just because your boyfriend is texting you less – read 10 Warning Signs of a Bad Relationship.



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2. Don’t complain that your boyfriend is texting you less

Be honest once about how you feel. Tell him, “I feel scared and rejected when you don’t call or text me, because I worry you’re not interested in me anymore” – and then let it go. Instead of nagging or complaining about what he does wrong or how he isn’t making you happy, start appreciating what he does right. When he calls, tell him how happy you are to hear from him. When he texts, text him back with lightness, love, and freedom.

Try not to put constraints on your boyfriend or demand his time, attention, and energy. Avoid falling into the trap of thinking he “should” do this or “should do that. Appreciate what he does well, and tell him when he makes you feel good about yourself or your relationship.

3. Create a fulfilling, exciting life for yourself

This is the best way to respond when your boyfriend isn’t texting you, or texts less than he used to! Are you a happy woman? Do you love life? Are you enthusiastic about your day, your job, your life, your place in this world? THAT’S the best way to respond when your boyfriend doesn’t text or call – start looking at your own level of happiness and life satisfaction.

Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting YouDon’t rely on your boyfriend to make you happy – and don’t fool yourself into thinking your love will help him overcome depression or anxiety. The best way to spark your boyfriend’s interest and get him to call and text you again is to start genuinely loving your life.

If your life bores, frustrates, disappoints, or depresses you, then it’s time for a change. You need figure out what makes you happy, and start doing that. Your boyfriend is not your sole source of happiness – you need to create multiple levels of fulfillment. The best thing to do when your boyfriend is texting you less is to create a life you love.

4. Remember that happy women are beautiful  girlfriends

If you’re enjoying your life and experiences, then your boyfriend will naturally gravitate towards you. He’ll want to spend time with you because he won’t feel pressured to make you happy. He won’t feel like it’s a chore to contact you – he’ll WANT to contact you because it makes him feel good to be in touch with you.

You don’t have to be a perfect cover model to be a beautiful, valuable, charming girlfriend. The most attractive people are those who are happy and enthusiastic about life! The more you focus on what you need and want from your life – and the more you realize that you can’t change anyone but yourself – the more empowered you’ll feel. The more powerful you feel, the happier you’ll be.

5. Strengthen your relationship with Jesus

Instead of fixing your eyes on your relationship – or worrying that your boyfriend isn’t texting or calling you often – start focusing on your spiritual growth. Your relationship with God will fill you with a sense of peace, love and joy that no man can fill. You will be lit from within if you set your heart on Jesus.

When you’re spiritually grounded, your relationships will fall into place. This doesn’t mean you’ll be happy with this boyfriend forever…it just means you’ll have the strength, joy and courage to face whatever comes your way. Even if your boyfriend never texts you again!

Help With Emotionally Detached or Distant Boyfriends

What to Do When Your Boyfriend Texts You LessIf you’re worried about your relationship, read Men Who Can’t Love: How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic Man Before He Breaks Your Heart.

Steven Carter and Julia Sokol describe how to recognize the signs that a man is afraid of commitment, and how to avoid heartbreak. If your boyfriend can’t commit to you and your relationship, you need to know as soon as possible.

Most importantly, get emotionally and spiritually healthy so you can recognize what’s happening with your boyfriend. The healthier you are, the better decisions you’ll make about your relationship. 

One last thought: maybe your boyfriend hasn’t lost interest; maybe he just isn’t ready for a serious relationship! If you’re wondering about his level of commitment, read How to Know if a Man is Emotionally Available for Love.

Feel free to share your thoughts about what to do when your boyfriend is texting you less. I can’t give relationship advice, but it might help you to share your experience. Often, writing brings clarity and insight – and it might help you see you’re not alone. Writing can help you put your relationship in perspective!

xo



SheBlossoms Laurie Pawlik Kienlen




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76 thoughts on “5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting You

  • Julia

    I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now and this summer was so great we talked and hung out until 3 am every night! Until he returned to school (im homeschooled) and moved from being next door to 20 minutes away. he became less and less chatty. at this point today is our 8 months and he hasn’t texted me or called at all. I understand stress and school but I even reminded him yesterday. I’ve broken up with him before for like a month because of our distance. This post helped me out sm!!! thanks 😉

  • Patience

    I’m in a long distance relationship my boyfriend he is not working I’m the one does I made an effort to go and see him after I’m back he started to cut our chat when i ask him why he don’t give me answer but he is always online i end up sending him a message telling him better we broke up cauz i see im the one ho makes effort in this relationship he didn’t reply so im confuse he really love me ow

  • Laurie Post author

    It’s hard to know why boyfriends stop texting – and I agree that men are hard to understand! So are women, because we can’t read each other’s minds. Sometimes we don’t even know what we ourselves are thinking 🙂

    The best way to respond when your boyfriend stops texting you is to give him space while you’re building an interesting, fulfilling life. Waiting for your boyfriend’s text messages will make you feel insecure and unstable. You’ll appear desperate and clingy, which won’t draw him hear! The more emotionally and spiritually healthy you are as a woman, the more attractive you are…and the more your boyfriend will want to text you.

    Also, trust your gut instincts. Are there signs or signals that your boyfriend is losing interest in your relationship?

    Here’s an article that might help:

    How to Fix a One Sided Relationship
    https://www.theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/tips-for-finding-balance-in-a-one-sided-relationship/

    Read it, let me know what you think!

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Claudia

    I have a boyfriend for over a year. We have a distance relationship so we only see each other on weekends or holidays. It’s important for me to talk to him, after all nobody is so busy that can’t talk for 5 minutes. What happens is that he stays for several days without answering my messages /calls, we’ve talked about it several times but he always returns to do the same. I think a healthy relationship is not like that. Btw he doesnt text me but it’s not because we argue or something, everything is fine and from one day to the next he stops talking to me.
    Should I break up with him??

  • three123

    I have had a boyfriend online for 4 months, we love each other so much. he tried to have me. When I answer yes and will be his wife in the future. Then he answered the message very slowly, for the first time I was anxious to ask many times what was happening. He reassures me that nothing and he loves me so much and can not live away from me. The second time he answered slowly after 5 days, I kept silent too, today he text me asking me why I am so quiet and if I still love him?, I’m confused for him It was the silent person with me first. Men are so hard to understand. Please tell me if you know, Thanks

  • Zilinee

    Is a distant relationship for a month now . We r both serious and wanting to go for marriage. But since from day one his habit is replying text after 24 or 48 hours ,I complained once , he then promise to change he said he is always busy daz why. So I keep calm but he is still not changing. I always reply few minutes after his message, now am confused should I dumb him or wait for change or stop replying his text instantly, coz is really making me crazy waiting.

  • Eva

    I agree with you… Our happiness doesn’t depends on our boyfriend based on my personal experience.. Girls, women we need to create our own happiness do something that makes us happy,healthy and stay positive always

  • Hannah

    “My boyfriend and i have been dating for a month and in the past week he has just started reading the texts and not responding, he responded once. Should I be worried he’s losing interest already?”

    • Novelette*

      I learned a lot from this I hope I will be able to help someone else off lion who are having a bad day because the health you are in life the happer you will be in life.

  • Rachel

    My boyfriend up and left me and wen to another state and he still called me and texted the first week but all of a sudden stopped and was very cold to me and was not reassuring me he loved me like he hates me and he doesn’t have the balls to tell me he is done. I feel like I ruined it.

  • Diana

    My long-distance boyfriend stopped texting me more than 1 month!! Idk what’s the problem and why is he ignoring me all the time.he is always active on social networkings such as Insta or whatsapp but he doesn’t text me😢 it’s annoying me and I can’t stand to be ignored

  • Awilda

    My boyfriend and I Were ok for the past couple months and when his brother passed away thats when he started changing his ways with me. He wasn’t texting or calling like he use too. Idk what to do im so down right now. Not knowing whats going through his mind is killing me.

  • Atlegang

    He doesn’t call or text me anymore .I always calling him and checking up on him.everytime when I say “I miss you so much bbe”he just say don’t worry I will see you soon.soo that’s why I think of leaving him but I’m not sure if its great idea or wat.he always posting girls on Facebook and watsup that’s what makes me mad .

  • Caroline Blankenship

    My boyfriend and I used 2 text all the time but now he won’t even reads my texts. I will be on the phone with my friend and she would say oh he texted me so then I would text him but he won’t read it or sometimes he reads it but doesn’t respond. Wut do I do???

  • Zhell

    It’s true at first, we texts each other a lot like every minute counts. However, as time goes by. My boyfriend no longer texts me or sometimes he doesn’t even reply.I still text him but then I got discourage and disappointed thinking that he already had other girl. And so I just focus on work instead. Though deep inside my heart, I’m still hoping he’ll get in touch with me and we’ll sort this out and be together once again.

  • all this day

    i have a relationship with a very egoistic man, and i am not sure if this one is worth to continue since we both on the same page, everytime we had misunderstanding it took as days or even weeks to bring back the communication and i am always the only who will reached out first.
    now it happened again its been 3 days since we didnt message. he is always online both whattsapp and facebook but didnt bother to message me. I love him, he was my first that’s why im having hard time to let go our relationship.
    please give me advise if this relationship is worth to continue. 🙁

  • Unknown

    Hi, me and my bf have been together for 2 months and surprisingly fell in love 12 days after we met. he calls me his baby and his sweetheart and all that, but he doesn’t text me anymore…he texts me once and a while from week to week, but we used to text each other everyday when we started dating. we go to high school together and we go out for lunch and stuff, but the texting is what i’m worried about. Anybody got any tips for me on how I can make our connection better?

  • Judian

    After our first night together he stopped calling, I don’t know what to do. He has not said anything to me why he is doing this. Last time I called he said he is sorry and since then he hasn’t still called. What do I do please?

  • Ester

    I just spend with him for 4 months and he use to cheat on me in front of my eyes . And he’s always telling me um not boss madam I’m must stop calling him every time . And I’m deeply in love with him . He’s the one who broke my virginity. And he’s always sayings fun thing to me . And now he doesn’t want to talk to me . If he need sex that day ,is the time he will call me to go to him . What can I do ?

    • Victoria

      Its vivid
      He’s a flirt
      You shouldn’t call him your boyfriend
      He ain’t worth it🙄
      Like I’ll always say
      You gotta move on girl!☺

  • Lexie

    Um I know I’m kinda young to be on here. I’m 12 and me and my bf just got together 3 wks ago. But we have been on and off we dated in 5th grade he broke up with me and we dated in 6th grade and we broke up. he has not been answering my txts and im scared im not ready to be dumped again. what should i do i mean this kinda helped me but after all I am only 12 so I don’t understand.

  • asma

    hi me and my boyfriend were okay last 2days but i rmber him tryaing 2tell me he has issues suddenly he dont respond 2my calls and my text and then he text back saying he is no longer use the number then i realise that mybe he needs his space since he has alot of issues thats why he answer me that way wat 2do am still worried and confused or i dnt want 2text him back again since i realised that he has alot of issues

  • Maria

    I’ve been with my bf for 5 years and he changed he don’t kiss me and won’t hug me or say I look pretty anymore I tell him and tell him he says I complain to much so I backed off we still together but if he didn’t wanna be with me he would of left a long time ago right and when he texts me I’m starting to wait for a bit b4 texting him back he takes like one hour in between a text ugh makes me mad please give me pointers

  • Anna

    My boyfriend went from messaging me every single day to almost nothing. We gave each other space for a week and now he said he wants to stay together and work on things but just take it slower. His texts have dropped and it seems like he doesn’t want to talk. However he has a lot of stress and work and with money and has explained this to me. Just because his texts are off and he’s stopped being quite as full on I think I need to stop thinking something is wrong and just roll with it. If he didn’t want to be together we wouldn’t be together. This post helped me out big time realising this!!
    Thanks!

  • Kat

    My “boyfriend” used to message me every day, then it dropped to once a week, now he disappears for months at a time, message for 5 minutes then disappear again for several months. I’ve been extremely ill lately as well, not once has he asked how I’m feeling, or shown any interest in my health, yet when he tells me he’s depressed I try to help him (as I’ve had depression since childhood) As much as I love him.. I just can’t do this anymore, sitting and waiting on him as I’m getting more and more sick.

  • Madeline Flood

    There’s this guy Im falling for, we’ve been talking for a while now . He use to text me,FaceTime me and call me . Now I barely even get a hello I’m scared and worried my boyfriend doesn’t want me anymore. It’s like right after we had sex he just stopped texting me and calling . He always has an excuse, he’s not cheating and he can be talkative in person. Any advice?

    • Lacey

      stick with your gut feeling when your boyfriend stops texting you and have a break and see if he puts in effort but dont tell him thats what you want! if he works for u then algood if not ull soon see!

    • Ellie

      I can totally relate to you! My bf just moved out to California we started out as a fling and now are in a “relationship”. I just recently told him how I felt about him not texting me and being distant. He told me he was focusing on his career and I tried to be understanding, he said he would work on it and did a great job until today I have no heard from him a day. I get tired reaching out to him, so I’m just tough-ing it out and letting him text me now, I know he’ll come around.

    • Danni

      I feel you my bf and I had sex and then he started texting me less often and people were saying he was using me. We took a break and decided to try again, we were intimate again yesterday and he still hasn’t texted me back. I know he gets texts on his watch so I’m really confused

  • Kristian

    OK so i’m dating a guy online but he hardly ever talks to me use to be he text me everyday but now he just stopped texting talking to me and im like did i do something wrong or what? I love him but he doesn’t act like he loves me, I been through so many bf that either say they can’t date me or they want to wait until they graduate but at the end they never liked me for me and now this one he hardly talks to me. but see them being this way is making me a more stronger person knowing I don’t need a bf to feel like I am cared. The only person you can rely on is your family’s and your friends.

  • Linda

    When they stop texting us we feel like we have lost connection with them (and maybe in reality we have). The truth hurts. If they longed for us and was concerned about our day, it shouldn’t take much o their time to send a quick message to let us know that they are thinking of us….I believe that lack of effort is their way of saying they have one foot in the door and one out

  • JoJo

    When my boyfriend stopped calling and texting me, I realized to my surprise that I really didn’t care about him that much. He was more like a habit in my life, not really someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. So when he stopped contacting me as much as he used to I was hurt at first, but then I was relieved. I had to figure out how to break up with him because I realized I didn’t love him anymore. I think he realized he didn’t love me anymore either, but he didn’t know how to break up with me. We need more articles about how to break up without ruining somebody’s life or self-esteem.

  • Laurie Post author

    Relationships – and boyfriends – can be so frustrating! And difficult to understand.

    Sometimes, as Freud said, a cigar is just a cigar. In a relationship this means that sometimes boyfriends stop texting not because anything is wrong or they love you less, but simply because they don’t like to text. Other times boyfriends stop texting because they aren’t interested in the relationship anymore.

    The good news is that a boyfriend not texting may just be a sign you have different “love languages.” Do you know what your love language is? This article will help:

    Examples of Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages
    http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/express-love-languages-examples/

    On the other hand, when your boyfriend stops texting you it could be a sign of a more serious relationship problem. I don’t know what’s true in your relationship because I’m not in it, but this article may help you see the truth more clearly…

    8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You
    https://howloveblossoms.com/signs-he-doesnt-love-you/

    And here’s a question for you:
    What do you think is going on in your relationship? What is your gut telling you?

  • Zetty

    My boyfriend does’nt text me for a month now. We have been together for 5 years. Tonight, I ask him about it and he says that he just does’nt has the feeling to text me. Is this normal? Or should i just move on and find a person who can spend time with me?

  • Summer Jaramillo

    My boyfriend stop texting me and he go’s to a military school on the last day before he had to go back he stops talking to me I don’t know what happen the other dayou what I did or what I didn’t do

  • Melissa

    I met my bf at work we knew each other for a month until he gave his number to me. My bf lives an hour away from me he wakes up 3am Monday to Friday as maintenance worker. And can be off before 2 or after 2:30. He says he can only see me if off after 2:30. If before he has to go home to be with his mom. He’s 15 years older than me. He would always text me first everyday and ask if we can see each other until we had a chance we went out he asked to be his gf I said yes. the next week we went out had fun. But we still haven’t gone out on weekends when we don’t work weekends. We’ve been together for 3 weeks going to 1 month but 2 weeks ago he stopped texting first I’m the one always texting him and when I ask if we can go out on the weekend he has excuses all the time either family, work, or something. I think if he really did love me he would do his best and find time to see me or at least contact me. It’s hard not being able to see him if lucky I see him once a week for a bit at work most time don’t see him at all for whole week. but not the same because we have it as a secret to not lose our jobs. Am I overreacting or overthinking this relationship, what should I do? I want to talk to him in person but he never has time for me. Feels like he doesn’t contact me because I always do.

  • Lady T

    my boyfriend and I we’ve been together for 5 months @ first he would text me all day n call me several times a day ,we would talk non stop
    But now he doesn’t talk anymore I’m always the one who start the conservation or do the calling and he doesn’t keep the conversation going, my boyfriend takes long to reply or text me even when he’s online
    I’m feeling lonely n sometimes I feel as if I’m used,don’t knw wat to do

  • Laurie

    When your boyfriend stops texting you, it’s difficult to know if he’s just busy or if he’s gone cold. It’s especially difficult when he changes every day!

    But, there are often signs that he still loves you…and there are red flags that he doesn’t.

    Here’s an article that may help:

    5 Signs Your Boyfriend Is In Love With You
    http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/signs-he-loves-you/

    Trust your intuition. Listen to that still small voice inside you that is telling you what you want to know. (but do you want to hear it?)

  • Tamra

    My boyfriend totally runs hot and cold on me. One day he’s all lovey dovey and wants to hang out all day and night. The next day I can’t find him anywhere. I want to believe my boyfriend loves me but sometime I think he’s just using me because he’s bored or something. How do I know if he loves me? He’s never said it but that doesn’t mean anything.

  • Fedup1

    No one is ever to busy to call out of 24 hours. Doctor Phil says a healthy relationship has at least 17 min, equal to a break time at work. If you think your man is working 24 hours in a day, you are crazy. He has checked his cell several times during the day, so he could of easily dialed out to you. If a man cared for you and made you a priority he will call you every day. He will reserve time just for you, cause you are a priority. I bet you women who fall for that busy stuff, you see each other mostly when he says it’s a good day to. Ladies 70 percent of narcissist are men, and narcissist want every thing on their terms and will always say they busy when they just don’t want to speak to you certain days. Also. Him shooting you a brief 4 word text early morning don’t count. He is simply seeng if you are with someone in the morning. My x actually admitted that’s why he only called me late at night and early morning. I later found out he was cheating. Shortly after he begged for me back but I realize it was only until he found someone new. He has used me for my car, sex…etc. I decided to make sure he can never reach me again. After he get his things soon, he is blocked from every way contact. Ladies please don’t fall for the busy excuse. Every man who has said that to me, had other women on the side.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Thanks for your thoughts on what to do when your boyfriend lost interest and doesn’t call. I agree, it’s not possible to be happy all the time, and I definitely agree that being yourself and accepting yourself is crucial. Especially if your boyfriend has lost interest – because that’s when you really need to find yourself.

  • Zaki

    Not everyone is riding the Happy Train all the time. In fact, that’s not even normal or healthy. A full, rich life encompasses all experiences and emotions (which are only fleeting states of being), but not our true essence. We are allchasing something: happiness, money, the elusive psrtner. Be yourself. Accept ypyrself. And hopefully ypu will be blessed with someone who is thete for you throughout All of your life, happy, sad, challenged, grievong. In other words, a grown up actualized person. A life without games anf psychobabble. iI highly doubt one would pressure the man to always be happy. In fact, this very article does not. Accept Yourself and Others.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Thank you for sharing your experience of your boyfriend texting you less – it’s really helpful to hear how other girlfriends are coping. The best thing is to rebuild yourself, figure out who you are, and blossom into someone you admire and respect. Fall in love with yourself, and your boyfriend will fall in love with you.

    How can you take your power back, even if your boyfriend is texting you less?

  • Lenore

    I’m going through the same thing. This guy that I met online and in person twice was texting me every day. He and I both would reach out to each other equally. But, the last I heard from him was Sunday night when he called me and I wasn’t available to talk. He left a vm and I responded yesterday morning. He didn’t respond. So, I texted him again about 6 hours later. He texted back a smiley face. That’s been it since yesterday (Monday) at around noon. I don’t want to be the one to initiate again. We aren’t in a relationship and I’m not really sure what we are. He is flying to be with me in three weeks and I feel anxious about that. Not sure why since we have no problem communicating.

  • Melissa

    I don’t now what to do? we have long distance relationship n we be dating for 4 days I now its a few days but we text every day but today he text less n I text him first n I feel weird but I wait for him to text me we pain to see each other but I think we are not because he text me less n I’m not sure n I’m a teenager n he is a teenager we are the same age n the same grade. I don’t now what to do I miss texting him ?

  • sophia

    Okay so I have been dating a guy for about a month. We are in a long distance relationship. I met him online.Before we started dating I met him in person cause I didn’t want to risk not having a physical attraction towards him and him not having one towards me. We saw each other about 4 times and the last time was for only 10 minutes cause i was leaving to go back home but hey I’m not complaining… Its time with him. Anyways during these times he was a TOTAL gelntleman towards me and my family. He tells me sweet things ‘almost’ every day BUT since we started the relationship texting and calling has slowly gotten to no text or calls or its either i call him and its short or no call. With texting, snapchat etc. I am the first to send messages. it doesnt bother me some days but one day i would like to get a sweet goodmorning text without sending one first. I have allready brought this up with him and what he told me is that he wont do it again cause he doesnt want to lose me and to not think he is uninterested in me… but it still is happening. Should i ignore him? Stop texting him first? break up? or just deal with it? I thank you in advance 🙂

    • Lauren

      this is my problem/question exactly!! Me and him have seen each other pretty much every other weekend though… But, he has completely stopped communicating with me this last week (we were together this last weekend). I decided to not text or start a convo with him for a full 24 hours to see if he’ll say anything at all… If anyone or you have any advice or updates (especially on your situation) please let me know!

  • amy

    I need help i told my bf that i loved him.by texted and ever since that day i have not heard from him.i am.worried that was 1 days ago i am worried he has gone off me please help

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    If your boyfriend stops texting you, don’t wrap your life up in waiting for him! Build a life outside your relationship – a life of joy, fulfillment, and faith. Create the life of your dreams – but don’t let it revolve around a guy.

    Waiting for a boyfriend’s texts is so tempting. I know – I used to wait forever the phone to ring! But life can full of so much more. Your life is bigger than him. Go beyond, take leaps of faith, be inspired by the LIFE around you.

    Energy, peace, hope, and faith. May your life be bigger than waiting for your boyfriend to text you.

    • kaci

      this blog has helped me alot. Because I have been with my bf for over two I love him but I feel. Like I’m depending on him too much so today I’m taking a stand, I’m deleting the messages, his number and just forget about him. And focus on my own life.

  • Sally

    Same thing happen to me right now, I got my bf from POF he was like in love with me but after a month talking about future he said no we are not in the same page he went and came back and started loving me again, we got closed to each other we had one time sex and he was so pleased to have it more but just suddenly he hardly respond me and he is online always on Whatsapp, whenever I asked he said I am busy and I need to be understanding! Befor he was like its so nice always to see my messages but now I feel I am a bother to him!

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    My prayer for all girlfriends who in relationships with boyfriends who stopped texting is for patience and wisdom. May you build your relationship with your SELF, and gain confidence and insight into who YOU are. I pray that you stop relying on your boyfriend’s texts to tell you that you are beautiful, smart, valuable, and lovable.

    I pray that you find love and confidence within yourself, and that you barely even notice how often or little your boyfriend texts you, because you are so busy living a happy, fulfilling life! May you live in peace with the knowledge that your boyfriend will come back to you, if your relationship was meant to be.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

    • Munchkins

      Thank you 🙂 This is something that i ‘know’ to do, yet every now and then i fall into panic mode and just need something to pull me out of it, and the post (along with your comment) snapped me out of that desparate mindset. You’re absolutely right, we have to find happiness, love and validation within ourselves first and foremost then the rest will fall into place.

    • Magness

      Me and my boy friend hardly call and text each other. First of all he is busy and I know we both have our own lives. We both been dating for a little over 6 months. We like each other very much, and we want to achieve our dreams. It doesn’t bother me that we sometimes we don’t text all day, or we don’t call each other 4 or 5 days later. I have patience with him, and he does too. I don’t sit there and wait for his messages, and I’m sure he does the same. It’s just part of the relationship until we want to further things seriously. Trust when I know we are committed to each, all communication will go the next level. I love how things are going slowly and the way everything is falling into place.

      • AA

        This sitch just recently happened to me. I’m in a relationship with this guy for a few months. He will always call almost every day and suddenly I just haven’t heard back from him. We even went out together before this ‘pullback’ happened. I started to freak out. I texted him several times. Sent him offline messages. But haven’t heard back from him. It’s been a week now. Then I get a chance to read this article and all I can say is it really helped me a lot! It somehow calmed me down. Thank you for this post. I’m beginning to understand now such behavior (his father just passed away a few weeks back and just lost his job a week after that). So for now, I’ll try to be PATIENT and go on with my life.

        Thank you!

  • Tamanna

    Same thing is happening to me right now.We are high school seniors,we should be busy with our studies this moment. Maybe he’s working hard,idk,’cause he’s not there when I text him.I text him A Lot.I know that I’m an obsessive, clingy type girl,a Huge drama queen who cries a lot for his bf not texting her back,a tired,frustrated chicken who always wants her bf’s love(read ”texts”) and feels down,doesn’t feel doing anything when he’s not there-but,I just can’t help it.I’m thinking about giving him space for a long time now,you know,not texting him that much.But,I just can’t do it.Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow… I know that’ll be right,but,let’s see.

  • Samantha Kirsten

    I read your article and everything you said clicked with me! You are so right, the fact that I feel so depressed and hopeless when my boyfriend is not texting me sweet things everyday like before means I need to find out how to be happy with myself. I am constantly asking him if he misses me and loves me, I know its frustrating to him because his life is his own too and I cant force him to say things to make me feel content.
    I will take your advice and work on me and do things that will be good for me such as my college and studies, and if my prince returns to my side than I’ll know he truly loves me and if not the right one will come in time!